sad!! sad!!
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i known this veri nice girl in my poly campus. at first we were just frens. she addressed me as her sister even though i am a guy... i was attached at that time... and i know i only love my galfren. however as time passes... things started to change... this girl from my campus(girl A) was spending a lot of time with me... our frendship grew at an amazing speed... that is where the trouble came... i would do everything i could to help her wenever she needed my help... be it financially or anything... during the first few months i was still able to tell myself that it was juz pure frenship... however i discovered i loved her too... guess she felt it too... i was overwhelmed by shame at how i am suppose to answer to my girlfren. i know i still love my galfren... but i cant cheat on her... break up was inevitable... i also told girl A bout it... she could not accept it... and left... i juz cant believe she juz left juz like that... losing two most impt girls in my life is so painful... so so painful...
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well~...
Who can u blame? who ask u to step on two boats with one leg.?
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Don't be greedy.
If you are attached.... stay true to your partner.
It's not a game, every relationship needs time and effort. I'm amazed by some who can get in and out of relationship like as if it's just some trying out game.
Even if its a game, its a game that will hurt (not sure about if it hurts the others who's in and out of relationships).....
I guess the gal (yr 'friend') might not be interested in you or she don't want to be labelled as 3rd party.
Sometimes feelings develop as you spend more time with a particular someone but if you are attached shouldn't you be spending more time with the one you supposed to love?
Well..... what had happened had happened... you can't change anything now. Just too bad that the time of meeting was wrong.
If given a chance to reverse everything..... what will you do?
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I don't believe this; it's farking similiar.Originally posted by ivan|:i known this veri nice girl in my poly campus. at first we were just frens. she addressed me as her sister even though i am a guy... i was attached at that time... and i know i only love my galfren. however as time passes... things started to change... this girl from my campus(girl A) was spending a lot of time with me... our frendship grew at an amazing speed... that is where the trouble came... i would do everything i could to help her wenever she needed my help... be it financially or anything... during the first few months i was still able to tell myself that it was juz pure frenship... however i discovered i loved her too... guess she felt it too... i was overwhelmed by shame at how i am suppose to answer to my girlfren. i know i still love my galfren... but i cant cheat on her... break up was inevitable... i also told girl A bout it... she could not accept it... and left... i juz cant believe she juz left juz like that... losing two most impt girls in my life is so painful... so so painful...
Your heed everything according to your emotions - you listened, you discovered, you acted. The main difference is recklessly, you made your choice without even pondering over the possible consequences.
Transitory love is an double edge dagger. Its unseen effect is not only a test of your relationship, rather is your ability to handle and make good mature decision regarding the matters of your heart.
Know whats the ultimate lesson here? There are several forms of love and do not complicate the others for pure BGR version. You mentioned that you guess she felt the same - how sure are you? Living in a world of your own preception, you made a choice to leave your gf because of her - sure its because of her and not because you lost the kind of chemistry with your gf? Cheat on her? Hello? Since when did you and your crush started a relationship? You can't cheat her on something you never start.
You gambled foolishly. You don't want to stop at the habour and wait for the ship, instead you chose to ship-hop. Too bad, you fell into the deep water. Well, you have to swim back to the coast then. No one to blame but yourself.
P.S: Liking someone doesn't mean anything - its the bearer that chose to make it into something.
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ur gf left u too?
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Originally posted by InVaa:ur gf left u too? Nah, its just some case around.
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'Technically' speaking... He didn't...Originally posted by C-100:well~...
Who can u blame? who ask u to step on two boats with one leg.? 
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......Originally posted by ivan|:i known this veri nice girl in my poly campus. at first we were just frens. she addressed me as her sister even though i am a guy... i was attached at that time... and i know i only love my galfren. however as time passes... things started to change... this girl from my campus(girl A) was spending a lot of time with me... our frendship grew at an amazing speed... that is where the trouble came... i would do everything i could to help her wenever she needed my help... be it financially or anything... during the first few months i was still able to tell myself that it was juz pure frenship... however i discovered i loved her too... guess she felt it too... i was overwhelmed by shame at how i am suppose to answer to my girlfren. i know i still love my galfren... but i cant cheat on her... break up was inevitable... i also told girl A bout it... she could not accept it... and left... i juz cant believe she juz left juz like that... losing two most impt girls in my life is so painful... so so painful...
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Always use your head not ur heart.....cheers....
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the mind commands the body, the body listens
the mind commands itself, and meets resistance
the mind commands the heart, and faces rebellionOriginally posted by KashNut:Always use your head not ur heart.....cheers.... -
one word....self -control....Originally posted by the Bear:the mind commands the body, the body listens
the mind commands itself, and meets resistance
the mind commands the heart, and faces rebellion
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re-read the thing...
self-control against what you heart desires only wreaks havoc with your mind.. and ultimately, even battleship steel shatters from the incessant pounding..Originally posted by KashNut:one word....self -control.... -
why didn't u confirmed with the girl before breaking up with ur gf? so careless...
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Originally posted by UandMe:why didn't u confirmed with the girl before breaking up with ur gf? so careless...
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maybe to u all guys i am wrong... but i did not intentionally stepped into it... i din plan for a two timing relationship... it juz happened... the reason why i din spend time with my gf is because she has her a level prelims... i cant possibly bog her all the time... she needs to study... i am not a two timer...
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This is something you should pay for it. Anyway you are still very young and I believe at this young stage you are still unprepare for long term relationship yet.Originally posted by ivan|:maybe to u all guys i am wrong... but i did not intentionally stepped into it... i din plan for a two timing relationship... it juz happened... the reason why i din spend time with my gf is because she has her a level prelims... i cant possibly bog her all the time... she needs to study... i am not a two timer...
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There's no such thing as planned, everything happened.Originally posted by ivan|:maybe to u all guys i am wrong... but i did not intentionally stepped into it... i din plan for a two timing relationship... it juz happened... the reason why i din spend time with my gf is because she has her a level prelims... i cant possibly bog her all the time... she needs to study... i am not a two timer...
She happened to leave me too....every thing happened. 'Every happened like that' is just an excuse, but hardly anyone could escape the trap. Too bad
My friend, i don't think people here are blaming you. So please don't get defensive. If you want to justify your acts...you'll reveal more mistakes you did in here. My advise to you is to re evaluate what you did.
Start over again....or move on.
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Trust me.. one day u will lost both of them.. don let ur mind control ur heart or vice versa.. Guys are often undecisive, in the end the person who is hurt is NOT the guy.. but the girls... pls be more responsible and be more MATURED in handling all these things.. and it is not fun at all!
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Hmm, I guess everyone thinks you double time because you broke with your GF after you developed feelings for your friend. Since you still love your GF, why dun you solve the problem with her instead of just choosing to break up. If you had lost feelings for her already, maybe its more understandable. Of course i dun mean the case of "got new love dun want the old" kindda stuff. If you had a troubled time with your GF, broke up and proceed in a relationship with your friend, then its very logical. However, if you claim to love your GF, I guess you should have hold on and work things out. Which includes measures such as distancing from your friend.Originally posted by ivan|:i was overwhelmed by shame at how i am suppose to answer to my girlfren. i know i still love my galfren... but i cant cheat on her... break up was inevitable... i also told girl A bout it... she could not accept it...
But as usually, matters of the heart is always hard to predict and there's never a right or wrong way of doing things. One can only hope that he/ her actions brings about happiness.
Anyway, all had been said and done. What had happened, had happened. Its time to walk out and face what the future holds. In some ways, it good being singlehood again. And who knows what the tide may bring tomorrow. I only hope you have learnt something from this experience. -
yes father......Originally posted by the Bear:the mind commands the body, the body listens
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feelings can't be control but right from the start, u should know that u have a gf already! i mean... not being out of dated or what, it's just that if u want to start a relationship, be faithful with the other party.. why still go and flirt with other girls?
Unless u don't love ur gf anymore.. treasure them before losing them... Guys are always so irresponsible, they always thought that they are the one being hurt but the one that is being hurt are the girls.. do think twice before u do anything! -
Originally posted by sadsadguy:
Hmm, I guess everyone thinks you double time because you broke with your GF after you developed feelings for your friend. Since you still love your GF, why dun you solve the problem with her instead of just choosing to break up. If you had lost feelings for her already, maybe its more understandable. Of course i dun mean the case of "got new love dun want the old" kindda stuff. If you had a troubled time with your GF, broke up and proceed in a relationship with your friend, then its very logical.
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I think even with this reason, if he jump into another r/s.
It's doing a disservice to himself.
I see it as a motive to breakup rather then a genuine breakup.
In other words, no difference from Zhao Tse.
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However, if you claim to love your GF, I guess you should have hold on and work things out. Which includes measures such as distancing from your friend.
But as usually, matters of the heart is always hard to predict and there's never a right or wrong way of doing things. One can only hope that he/ her actions brings about happiness.
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There could possiblity be a right way, if one could take some time to sit down and seriously think thru the cost of breakup
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Anyway, all had been said and done. What had happened, had happened. Its time to walk out and face what the future holds. In some ways, it good being singlehood again. And who knows what the tide may bring tomorrow. I only hope you have learnt something from this experience.
I like this one
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i juz cant believe she juz left juz like that... losing two most impt girls in my life is so painful... so so painful...
Did your friend (friend... the campus girl) say why she left you, and why she could not "accept it", what is there to accept? It sounds to me likes these 2 girls are morons. -
Are all guys always like tt ? change heart easily?!