Originally posted by I'm out there:
i need a sincere advice from you all. i'm facing a typical problem with different set of scenarios. i came to singapore for studies and during this semester i met a chinese girl and started to have feelings about her. although i haven't expressed myself. becuase i fear many things. i'm not chinese, belong to different religion, langauge and race. i met her just 2 months back and it will be too early to say her anything. but i'm finishing my studies this november. initially i was planning to go back but now i'm thinking othterwise becuase she has one more year to go and i want to stay around her. but these days it is very difficult to find job here in singapore so staying in singapore without a job is out of question.
now what should i do? i can think of these options
1- forget her and go back. [i don't want to do]
2- express my feelings to her [if she rejects me, it will knock me off the track and it will be very difficult to handle for me]
3- stay here in singapore and wait for some appropriate time [it's very difficult to stay without job].
i've only two months to decide. and due to this problem i'm out of mind. help me, i don't want to lose my heart in sg.

Seriously speaking, two months should be enough to allow proper thoughts to flow into your befuddled mind.
Note that your personal liking doesn't mean the same for her as well. Therefore from here, it is likely that it could be one sided. Furthermore, race, religion & language is quite an issue, although it can be avoided - what matters most is whether this relationship will extend into a LDR (Long Distance Relationship). If yes, then my stand is not advisable.

I think the main problem doesn't lie with all these - its more about expressing yourself. You fear rejection greatly don't you? However, haven't this secret torment you deep inside long enough? Don't you want to release the tension and hack care about the consequences?


Expressing doesn't need to have an ending - It's an act of no expectation.
Don't make the decision about whether to stay/leave/etc until you have a clearer picture about the definition of the relationship between the both of you. From there, probably you will know what to do.

Cheers