mayb she's confused how to go from here so give her some time n u should carry on wif ur life as per norm... go slow....Originally posted by Ah-Ken:We're classmates & we've known each other for quite some time liao. She knows that I have feelings for her. When we talk to each other, I can feel that she's telling me that I do stand a chance.
One fine day when we were talking, I admitted that I had fell for her. But I do not have the intention of wanting her as my gf. I just let her know that I DO like her. She's not really surprised & looked rather happy in fact. Her respond was like this... she didn't reject me, nor did she accept me. She still wants to remain friends with me & see how things go first before making any decisions. That simply means I still do have a chance. We still talked as usual after that. But after a few days, dunno for what reason, things started to change.
We don't talk like we used to anymore. She's giving me the cold treatment, I feel really awkward. I asked her what's happening between us... through ICQ. She told me she feels awkward when I keep quiet & treated her too nicely. She hopes we can still remain as friends for now. I told her... Of course we're still friends. And though I liked her, I never really had the intention of making her my gf. But I still, DO care for her, a lot. She seems ok after that chat. I thought maybe things will go back to normal. But no... she's still treating me like an alien. Didn't she say she still wanna be friends?! So why is she behaving like that?!
You see, I'm a passive kind of guy while she's the bubbly & cheerful type. Things would normally turn out fun when she started the conversation. I don't normally initiate things with her. Now I'm just being myself but somehow things seems so much different.
Can anyone tell me what's happening? I'm going beserk seeing her like this everyday.![]()
Originally posted by Ah-Ken:We're classmates & we've known each other for quite some time liao. She knows that I have feelings for her. When we talk to each other, I can feel that she's telling me that I do stand a chance.
One fine day when we were talking, I admitted that I had fell for her. But I do not have the intention of wanting her as my gf. I just let her know that I DO like her. She's not really surprised & looked rather happy in fact. Her respond was like this... she didn't reject me, nor did she accept me. She still wants to remain friends with me & see how things go first before making any decisions. That simply means I still do have a chance. We still talked as usual after that. But after a few days, dunno for what reason, things started to change.
We don't talk like we used to anymore. She's giving me the cold treatment, I feel really awkward. I asked her what's happening between us... through ICQ. She told me she feels awkward when I keep quiet & treated her too nicely. She hopes we can still remain as friends for now. I told her... Of course we're still friends. And though I liked her, I never really had the intention of making her my gf. But I still, DO care for her, a lot. She seems ok after that chat. I thought maybe things will go back to normal. But no... she's still treating me like an alien. Didn't she say she still wanna be friends?! So why is she behaving like that?!
You see, I'm a passive kind of guy while she's the bubbly & cheerful type. Things would normally turn out fun when she started the conversation. I don't normally initiate things with her. Now I'm just being myself but somehow things seems so much different.
Can anyone tell me what's happening? I'm going beserk seeing her like this everyday.![]()
[quote][b]But after a few days, dunno for what reason, things started to change.
We don't talk like we used to anymore. She's giving me the cold treatment, I feel really awkward.[/b][/quote]
The confession was an "accident". It comes out when we were in the midst of conversation. Plus I didn't expect that things would turn that bad. I didn't really wanna confess actually... I hoped to let things go as it is till I graduate & probably I won't see her again.Originally posted by SoonKeong:I don't know about you.. but if you dont want her as a galfren, why bother to confess your feelings?
In your case, i think what happen here is your fren feels strange after your confession. I mean, since you told her liao, wad's ur next step? Treat her like your best fren? If that's the case, then omg, u deserve a cold treatment.
Originally posted by Yunhaier:For me, being normal means being passive. If you want me to initate a conversation with her, that'll be something I don't do everyday.
To save such situations, I only have two words: Act normal.
he confessed becoz it is not nice to keep yr feelings inside... u will feel v v tong ku one... my friend had similar experience....Originally posted by SoonKeong:don't know about you.. but if you dont want her as a galfren
why bother to confess your feelings?
nah..he dont deserve the cold treatment...he knows that he cant force the gal to like him... so for the gal's sake he juz have to bear with being friends with her.... does anyone knows how hurting is it when the gal u like is juz near u...but u cant really show yr concern for her.... ...Originally posted by SoonKeong:In your case, i think what happen here is your fren feels strange after your confession. I mean, since you told her liao, wad's ur next step? Treat her like your best fren? If that's the case, then omg, u deserve a cold treatment.
u cant say it that way also...to me he had planted the seed liao n had made known that he wanna grow a tree!!but now it is up to the gal whether she wanna take care of the seed by giving it water for it to grow or not.... ..... ..... .....Originally posted by SoonKeong:If i'm not wrong, she is just piss with you for not making any movement after you said you like her. That is something like saying "I wanna grow a tree!" But yet you didnt even plant a seed in the soil.
Originally posted by Ahken:
For me, being normal means being passive. If you want me to initate a conversation with her, that'll be something I don't do everyday.
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I've learnt a couple of things though. Confession is a risk. She may already know how you feel towards you. But as long as you don't confess, she'll still treat you as a friend, regardless she likes you or not. Only regret is you'll never know how she really feels for you.
Don't be too honest. There're some things which are better off she didn't know. Or maybe you can try to let her know, if possible, by other means rather than straight from your mouth. The hurt will stay there, deep in her heart, even though she pretended she didn't mind.
Hmm.. am I right to say that?
hmmz i think.... it is better that u let it out le... if not maybe next time u will regret y u didnt like make known yr feelings?maybe by then it will b too late le... i understand how u feel abt this whole thing...n it is a pity that things turn put to b like that........haiz..... guess smtimes.... there r juz certain things we cant control........ ......... ..........
Originally posted by Ahken:
For me, being normal means being passive. If you want me to initate a conversation with her, that'll be something I don't do everyday.
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I've learnt a couple of things though. Confession is a risk. She may already know how you feel towards you. But as long as you don't confess, she'll still treat you as a friend, regardless she likes you or not. Only regret is you'll never know how she really feels for you.
Don't be too honest. There're some things which are better off she didn't know. Or maybe you can try to let her know, if possible, by other means rather than straight from your mouth. The hurt will stay there, deep in her heart, even though she pretended she didn't mind.
Hmm.. am I right to say that?
hmmz i think.... it is better that u let it out le... if not maybe next time u will regret y u didnt like make known yr feelings?maybe by then it will b too late le... i understand how u feel abt this whole thing...n it is a pity that things turn put to b like that........haiz..... guess smtimes.... there r juz certain things we cant control........ ......... ..........