SADness fall ... hw to really forget someone
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juz broke up wif my gf(1n half yr)......
onli 4 a few hr n i starting to tink/miss her liao.....
cant even get to slp dun noe how to go to work tml....
life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB -
Do what you like doing, e.g. hobby, sport. If can try to go out with friends so that you can forget about it. Find another girl to chase if possible (might be hard for you now), but that is the best way to forget your ex. But only time will make you forget about her.
I broke up with my ex 2 months already, and now I still think about her sometimes. The more you love that person, the longer you'll take to forget her. There's nothing much you can do seriously.
But anyway take it easy, positive thinkings from time to time are important. ChEeR uP bRo! -
hihi... i juz broke up with my bf 2-3 months ago. until now still think of him.. i miss him but cant tell... wat i wanna say is let the time takes the way. show the girl u can be happy without her. put the past behind us n let the time takes the way. hee this phase is from lion king... hehe... work work work or play play play... all the best. akino
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sometimes you never get over them..
i know i will never.. -
No use crying over bitches.~
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bad news... hahaa...
there is no instant cure for a broken heart...
time is the best healer... but there will always be a scar...
but it is u who decide whether it will become a scar, a memory, a part of ur life, or it remains a oozing wound...
I dun really have much advice except, just remember dun let your sink... it is an addiction, the deeper u sink into depression, the harder it is for u to get out, the longer it takes to heal...
just forget, and let it go...
the sense of loss will never really go away... it will always be there...
what if, what if... but with time, it will get fainter and maybe more bearable... if u choose to dwell on it, it will only get stronger... and make u feel worse...
it has been almost 2 years for mi... i'm still trying to forget... to move on... just dun give up... i have survived 2 years without her, and i show her i can live without her...
u just need to survive long enuff for another to come and mend ur heart... lol... -
very sad.. but at least u were together b4..
i'm sure u hv sweet memories together.. u sure u wan to forget her?
it's hard cos there r alot things surrounding to remind u of her..
dun worry.. just cry when u need to.. it helps to relieve ur sad feelings.. and slowly u will get tired of feeling sad.. hee i always do this.. cos when u keep repeating doing something.. u will feel sianz..
for me? i dun even know what's my relationship wif him.. i nv felt this way b4.. seems tt i'm a spare tyre.. makes me feel sad n lost so many times but i can't let go..
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likewiseOriginally posted by the Bear:sometimes you never get over them..
i know i will never.. -
thank for all ur tip.....
i try my best........
but for e whole of todae i juz keep tinkin of her........
i try to occupy my self wif junk of thing but still cant.........
hope time can really heal a person broken heart -
love....wat a wondrous emotion.
lose yourself & indulge in yourself from now on.....
until u meet the next one.... -
on the plus side...
i found myself more free to do whatever i like...
can go out with watever girl available at the moment
and found myself alot more money in my pocket too...
whahahhaaaaaa! -
me oso juz break off not long..
hmMmm...i koe tt time will heal.. u juz break .. of cuz will tink of her...cuz u used to her presence ... meanin she no sms u .. u will feel uneasy..slowli...time will help.. do tings to kip urself busy.. bt dun tell urself dun tink of her..cuz u will tink of her even more... YuPz... all the best~! -
reading through the replies which all of u have put up, there are few tots that struck me......
y break-ups are initiated when you know after breaking off, you will not be better off & will suffer from all the flashback of memories? what is love? & how can you be sure that the one is for u? painful relationship means the end? 
anyone of u have any theory or ans...........for me, i find none...
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hi devillove,Originally posted by devillove:juz broke up wif my gf(1n half yr)......
onli 4 a few hr n i starting to tink/miss her liao.....
cant even get to slp dun noe how to go to work tml....
life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB
i guess the onli way to stop urself from thinking abt her is to keep urself occupied with work or activities...
meet up with old frens & engage urself in activities which you enjoy doing all along or those which u have missed doing for a long time...
if u say u want to forget her, u r onli deceiving urself.......memories are made & no matter where you go, her presence will always be around u.....if u r very sure of letting go this relationship, open ur heart & move on...keeping those unforgettable moments which were spent as lovely memories that has been made... -
for the first... i wasn't realli given a choice am I? She love mi no more, even i still do love her? what can i do? not as if i can stop her from leaving? she is happy, i'm not. This is life.Originally posted by CuTiE~~:reading through the replies which all of u have put up, there are few tots that struck me...... y break-ups are initiated when you know after breaking off, you will not be better off & will suffer from all the flashback of memories? what is love? & how can you be sure that the one is for u? painful relationship means the end?
anyone of u have any theory or ans...........for me, i find none...
for the 2nd, well, i have no idea too, u just have to trial and error and hope for the best...
for teh 3rd, highly likely. why remain in a relationship when it is painful... although, i must admit, sometimes pain is addictive... this is human nature... but generally, if it is painful, everything will accumulate. and eventually something big will happen... for teh worse... but if both is able to give and take alittle, then it isn't realli painful rite? if u find urself always feeling hurt... well, it is not a good sign...
well, break up always hurts, except for some jerks and some bitches... but in general, it hurt like hell... well, i guess, u just have to try not dwell in it, or see/talk to her for a least a few months... dun let anything remind u of her for the next few months
go do something different, treat urself to some goodies, hang out with long lost friends, go meet more pple... pick up a new hobby just dun dwell on it for a least for the moment... -
You can expect ALOT of THEORIES from YUN...
As for your questions.. This is what I personally think...?Originally posted by CuTiE~~:
Regards....
reading through the replies which all of u have put up, there are few tots that struck me...... y break-ups are initiated when you know after breaking off, you will not be better off & will suffer from all the flashback of memories?
Sometimes situation just does not encourage or allow for the existence of the relationship.... It can be a 'no point' thing. It can also be a 'cons over pros' situation. It can be at a certain POINT when things become UNBEARABLE. what is love? & how can you be sure that the one is for u?
What is 'love'? Depends on from which perspective you wanna see it from? Personally, I was trying to work out a 'theory' which also would probably comes out with my own definition of 'love'. But its not here yet. Too busy stuck with work and academic studies lately...
How can you be sure if he / she is 'the one'? Pardon me if I have this wrong... But in my own opinion... You can't. Love aside. For almost ANYTHING in this world, you can't be TOTALLY CERTAIN. How do you wanna define 'the one'? People DO change from time from time.. Very often he / she could be your 'the one' at this point but not at another... He / she might try to do everything just to PLEASE you... Does that make him / her 'the one'? If he / she does things behind your back but you never get to learn about it... To you, he / she might still be 'the one'. But is he / she? Even till the day you die, I guess you can never be too sure... Unless you just wish to give him / her this 'title' despite any changes that might come? painful relationship means the end?
Not necessarily... People do experience pain from time to time, that doesn't mean it's necessarily the end of them. Just like obstacles and hardships you might experience in your everyday life, it's just a matter of whether you choose to stick on to it or to give it up? Either decision, there's usually no guaranteed outcome... Just a matter of your judgement of a possible outcome and hence a decision....
anyone of u have any theory or ans...........for me, i find none...
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It take time to learn to take the pain and grow with it ... But I guess you can never really forget someone. Personally, I have one person in the heart
whom I do not want to ever forget. -
life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
HA! No, there isnothing that can be done. What you feel now will consume you, it wil engulf you and make you an evil depressed oddball, as it did to me. Get used to it. Soon after lengthy periods of time, you will then get an aura, which will create aversion in everyone you meet.
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB -
I dun really have much advice except, just remember dun let your sink... it is an addiction, the deeper u sink into depression, the harder it is for u to get out, the longer it takes to heal...
I must be very deep then. -
You answer for me using the Devil's theory.Originally posted by Devil1976:You can expect ALOT of THEORIES from YUN... As for your questions.. This is what I personally think...?
Regards....
/me take notes. -
Hi pal,Originally posted by devillove:juz broke up wif my gf(1n half yr)......
onli 4 a few hr n i starting to tink/miss her liao.....
cant even get to slp dun noe how to go to work tml....
life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB
I am having the same situation. But worse..hereÂ’s my experience:
I am 25 years old..and I got to know my wife (26 years old) when I was 17. She was my 1st gf and whom I gave my heart to. I used to have lots of friends then..but after starting a relationship with her..I realized that I have neglected them and till date, only a few still stood by me. She was the perfect gf..taking care of all my needs and standing by me even in difficult situations. When I was 20, we got married and 1.5 years later, we had our 1st child. She was someone whom I felt I can be with for the rest of my life..
At age 22, I decided to pursue my Degree in the UK. I brought along my wife and child. It was shocking in a totally different environment….but wife ensured that I adapt it well. She took total control of the household and kid…went to market daily in the cold weather (esp winter)…just to ensure that I can fully concentrate on my studies. She would often stay up late (4am+) to cook supper for me when I was burning my midnight oil. There are millions of things that she had sacrificed for me..but it cant be listed out in words..Maybe I was starting to take it for granted..Whenever I’m stressed, I would lose my temper with her…and even my beloved child...and sometimes said really horrible things which hurt her immensely..But I dare to say that after each time, I would feel a strong sense of guilt and immense pain..my love for her has never wane a single bit all these years..it’s just that I can’t control my temper and couldn’t express myself..and thus leading to her thinking I do not love her. When I graduated, our second child was born last year. However, our quarrels never stopped, and I did not realise that I have neglected my children and ‘pushed’ a lot of things to her.
Many factors contributed to our waning marriage life: my temper, her relationship with my parents, financial, her stress of taking care of so many issues and kids etc..I never realized thatÂ…I was the complete beast and idiot..Early last month (Oct), we had the most heated quarrel yetÂ….I thought it was routineÂ…only when one Monday morning..I realized that my wife and kids are gone. I called them countless times..but she did not pickup. It was then I realized that I have lost themÂ….my whole world collapsed.. I went to see her..lost my dignity...crying (like a crybaby) and even knelt in front of her, her family and neighboursÂ…but she just gave me a cold laugh...each day, I waited for her..hours..but when I met her, she just told me to f!@# offÂ….then comes the knock out blowÂ…she told me that she had planned one week in advance on how to leave with the kids without me realizing itÂ…she said she acted normally for the whole week so as not to arouse my suspicionsÂ…each word seems to punch a nail into my bleeding heartÂ…How did she become like this? I asked myselfÂ….then I realized for the last timeÂ…it was ME..who turned her into this..
These days, I couldnÂ’t concentrate on workÂ…life is like living hell..saw couples with kids..as I longed to hold my beloved kids once more..I would have contemplated suicide if not for the fact that IÂ’m my parentsÂ’ only child..My parents and friend told me to forget her and concentrate on career and maybe will find another oneÂ…but I snapped back and said: She is not my gf! They are my wife and kids!! 8 YEARS!! How can they be substituted!! I tried my very best to concentrate on career and other thingsÂ…but till now, itÂ’s in vain..Life is really meaningless now..
To All: Please..please cherish all your loved ones while you still can..DonÂ’t engage in self-pity like meÂ….only when u lost them.. -
well.....its just so....Originally posted by devillove:juz broke up wif my gf(1n half yr)......
onli 4 a few hr n i starting to tink/miss her liao.....
cant even get to slp dun noe how to go to work tml....
life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB
hard to forget bout that someone that is so special to u. -
dont forget there are people whu only tasted unrequited love all their life
im one of them -
i'm really sorry to hear this... try hang on k? can't think of anything to say which can help... but, hang on! Maybe time will ease the pain?Originally posted by Ric_Ong:Hi pal,
I am having the same situation. But worse..hereÂ’s my experience:
I am 25 years old..and I got to know my wife (26 years old) when I was 17. She was my 1st gf and whom I gave my heart to. I used to have lots of friends then..but after starting a relationship with her..I realized that I have neglected them and till date, only a few still stood by me. She was the perfect gf..taking care of all my needs and standing by me even in difficult situations. When I was 20, we got married and 1.5 years later, we had our 1st child. She was someone whom I felt I can be with for the rest of my life..
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chinese proverb... one false step leads to short pleasure, long lamentation.
one wrong, does not make many wrongs right.
so even though, u have made a mistake, dun make more mistakes in life, in bringing down urself, and taking the wrong path...
maybe time will soften her heart... but meanwhile, try to live a better life? Sorry are often useless, show her that u truly realise ur mistake... saying is useless, doing is sincerity -
Hi thanks pal! Yeah, what u said is true. Actions are more important..however the emotions and memories will just come back..cannot control..Originally posted by eterna:i'm really sorry to hear this... try hang on k? can't think of anything to say which can help... but, hang on! Maybe time will ease the pain?
chinese proverb... one false step leads to short pleasure, long lamentation.
one wrong, does not make many wrongs right.
so even though, u have made a mistake, dun make more mistakes in life, in bringing down urself, and taking the wrong path...
maybe time will soften her heart... but meanwhile, try to live a better life? Sorry are often useless, show her that u truly realise ur mistake... saying is useless, doing is sincerity
Well I guess I will just have to move ahead and seek life day by day, even though how hard it will be. But it is also after this horrible incident, that allows me to see many things that I wasn't able to see before..it really opens up my perspective in life.