Haiz...
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This sux, ok..let me begin, there this girl i like for 7months, i did not tell her at all(but i was planning to ask her out after our exams), let say we are pretty close but sometimes there will be long slience in our chat. So on the 30th of oct, i sms her, if i could walk her home from school on 31th of oct(last day of sch). So she reply, "u msg correct?". i told her yes, but she said she looking teacher for help in her preparation for the O'lvl. so i say "ok nvm."
However, the next morning, i saw her walking alone to sch, i alight one stop eariler and waited for her and then walk with her to sch. We talk with some laughter. Then at night, she e-mailed me, asking me why the sudden walking with her, and carried on saying she just want me to be friends only (rejection lar). She added that dun make her avoid me. Of cos heartbroken, i tell her the truth, and stupidly said "if you want to avoid me, by all means." and now i regret it! after some thinking, i decided to give her up, but! she now avoiding me! furthermore, we belong to a same group of friends, so next time if we went out, it going to be very jia lat!. and now i am thinking to write a letter of apology to her, telling her that we could remains friend and i will forget her. the question is, shld i write it? -
No, you shouldn't. What wrong have you done to her?Originally posted by eric_87sg:This sux, ok..let me begin, there this girl i like for 7months, i did not tell her at all(but i was planning to ask her out after our exams), let say we are pretty close but sometimes there will be long slience in our chat. So on the 30th of oct, i sms her, if i could walk her home from school on 31th of oct(last day of sch). So she reply, "u msg correct?". i told her yes, but she said she looking teacher for help in her preparation for the O'lvl. so i say "ok nvm."
However, the next morning, i saw her walking alone to sch, i alight one stop eariler and waited for her and then walk with her to sch. We talk with some laughter. Then at night, she e-mailed me, asking me why the sudden walking with her, and carried on saying she just want me to be friends only (rejection lar). She added that dun make her avoid me. Of cos heartbroken, i tell her the truth, and stupidly said "if you want to avoid me, by all means." and now i regret it! after some thinking, i decided to give her up, but! she now avoiding me! furthermore, we belong to a same group of friends, so next time if we went out, it going to be very jia lat!. and now i am thinking to write a letter of apology to her, telling her that we could remains friend and i will forget her. the question is, shld i write it?
Anyway, you shouldn't told her you like her since she had hinted to you that she isn't interested in you by telling you she might avoid you. You had obviously gotten very emotional here and had to failed to respond rationally.
It should not be very jia lat if you go out with her in a groups of friends. Just be confident and natural, do not be embarassed or malu. Show her that you can live without her love. She'll be shocked as she might expect that you'll act like the other men out there. -
Haiz, icic....yeah...emotion breakdown.... =( During the past 7mths, i thought there was high chance, little did i know she was not interested in me at all......=(
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U 16 only... finish 'o's first lah...
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Ya, 'O' Levels start on Monday.
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Chill dude.
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Just to add more of this......Originally posted by Parka: Chill dude.
You haven't seen the world yet.
da world is too big for u to understand deeply.......you can't understand y is like that..... -
Originally posted by eric_87sg:This sux, ok..let me begin, there this girl i like for 7months, i did not tell her at all(but i was planning to ask her out after our exams), let say we are pretty close but sometimes there will be long slience in our chat. So on the 30th of oct, i sms her, if i could walk her home from school on 31th of oct(last day of sch). So she reply, "u msg correct?". i told her yes, but she said she looking teacher for help in her preparation for the O'lvl. so i say "ok nvm."
However, the next morning, i saw her walking alone to sch, i alight one stop eariler and waited for her and then walk with her to sch. We talk with some laughter. Then at night, she e-mailed me, asking me why the sudden walking with her, and carried on saying she just want me to be friends only (rejection lar). She added that dun make her avoid me. Of cos heartbroken, i tell her the truth, and stupidly said "if you want to avoid me, by all means." and now i regret it! after some thinking, i decided to give her up, but! she now avoiding me! furthermore, we belong to a same group of friends, so next time if we went out, it going to be very jia lat!. and now i am thinking to write a letter of apology to her, telling her that we could remains friend and i will forget her. the question is, shld i write it? A young love is often reckless; only time and reflection will make them discover how silly they were. Nobody could escape this early fate.
She hinted to you that her relationship with you could not proceed anywhere further than normal friends. In heat of being rejected, you blurted the go-on-and-avoid-me-then thingy - you indirectly stepped onto her trigger which made perform exactly what you asked her. She showed you the land mine - you activate it.
Write her a letter saying that you will remain friends and you will forget her? Is there a link? Chances are, such content will not improve situations. My suggestion to you is that the letter must contain message which state:
I) Took some time to think over things
II) Great friend you have there; decide to respect her wishes and remain good friends. Like always.
III) Forget about writing things like forget her kind of thing. According to my experience, these words and content never really work. If you want to forget - there is no such need to tell her. And later on, if you can't, you are breaking your own words and putting yourself in bad light.
P.S: Letter itself must be conjunct with other tools to make your solutions effective - mainly body language and feel. When you see her outside, react and act as normal. You have to lead her - in a sense where you feel that you are behaving what you wrote to her, a friendship like before and better. Even if she acted weird and avoid, be generous about it and lead your usual self.
Cheers -
Icic, thx alot! i got a clearer view now. I wanted to complete my 'O' first, but then unknown to me that my walking her to school, will trigger this. =( thx alot!
One more question, should rejection be something i be ashamed of? i felt this way........... -
Originally posted by eric_87sg:Icic, thx alot! i got a clearer view now. I wanted to complete my 'O' first, but then unknown to me that my walking her to school, will trigger this. =( thx alot!
One more question, should rejection be something i be ashamed of? i felt this way........... Why should rejection be ashamed of? Ask around, who hasn't been rejected before?
Love in rejection doesn't mean you failed - it simply means its just not her/him.
P.S: We can't always win all the time; we win some, we lose some.
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well, well, a lost person in love. gals can be hard to understand, no?
anyway, it is not the end of the world yet, there are still many other fish out there to be caught.
but there are some things to avoid the next time:
dun seem to come on too strongly...i think that was the primary reason why u failed. who knows she might have liked u a little but coz of ur actions she freaked out?
I am not an expert in love but have seen my fair share, my advice is not to do/write anything to her. be natural when u go out in a grp with her the next time.
There is a website maybe u should go to. it's askmen.com, it basically teaches u how to react in such cases and avoid future mishaps.
Well, since the exams are your concern now, settle it first before going out there and showing them whos the man.
Good luck for the 'O's.
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Wow, thx. hmmz. manage to keep her out of mind while i am doing my O's now....grrr.......i just don't understand! =(
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y are stil here get back to ur desk and go study for ur examin. hehehe...... Good luck dear.
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my man...you gonna need more than O lvls to understand womenOriginally posted by eric_87sg:Wow, thx. hmmz. manage to keep her out of mind while i am doing my O's now....grrr.......i just don't understand! =(
if u ever do u proply become the most looked up to person in the world