is there ever ever a chance that...
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you can patch back with ur ex after many months?
backgrd info: i had a 4yrs serious r/n with my ex...
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u can if u want to.
the question to consider: why break off in the first place?
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i feel tat how many yrs of serious r/n doesn't really matter so much, is whether both are still loving each other? and how long do u think u can maintain such feelings????Originally posted by SausTIN:you can patch back with ur ex after many months?
backgrd info: i had a 4yrs serious r/n with my ex... 
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Originally posted by SausTIN:you can patch back with ur ex after many months?
backgrd info: i had a 4yrs serious r/n with my ex... 
This is too short for an analysis. Maybe you would like the highlight your relationship with him and the events that took place which gradually spark the break?
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It had to depend on both parties as well wor...whether both still have feelings for each other after a long break up and depends on wat causes the breakup....etc Too much to analyse.. I got frenz who patch up wif her bf after a 8yrs break and eventually married liao.. and another patch up wif her bf after dunoe how many years.. they are getting ROM next mth. BUt there are still cases like fren patched with their ex and still breaks up. Too many reason liao..
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i say if you asked this question, can I ask you back since you said this relationship is a serious one...did you ask yourself and ex in the first place? Guess only you and your ex hold the answer.Originally posted by SausTIN:you can patch back with ur ex after many months?
backgrd info: i had a 4yrs serious r/n with my ex... -
Hao ma bu chi hui tou cao. Period. -
u and ur ex broke off.. it just shows that the r/s has problems... so why not examine the problems over again? well i don't suggest patch back..
examine your problems.. and make sure you don't repeat again in your next r/s
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provided the basis of u two being together at the very beginning still exists.. ie love...
so, is there still? any xin bing? -
well, I do agree that it's never how many years or r/s that you have been with your partner. In many real life cases, people divorce after being together for 10+, 20+ years... not saying 4 yrs of r/s is not something, but if you look at people who can bear to divorce after investing such a long time on the r/s, you really can't say that a r/s will last just base on the times that it has been through.. sad to say, you just never know the future. besides, it is known that the 'feeling' of love doesn't last too.. 30-40 years down the lane, it may just not be there, that's why psychologists suggest that it's better to choose a friend in which both of you have a good foundation, so that at the end of the day, you may not have feelings, there's still the friendship that bonds the 'family' together. It's sad, but it's true.. one good example is why you don't see the older couples or the papas and the mamas hold hands when they go out??
back to the question, it's really whether both of you want to be with each other, and able to accept each other, and not base on your memories that you share in the past. People change especially when you're still maturing. if you're still dwelling on he/she once was, and not looking at how different he/she is now, I really don't see the point of patching, you're just not used to a new life and the fact that the r/s is over.