Do Couples plan?

• Prec|ous

  10 Nov 03, 17:13

  Do couple really plan for their future when they are in a relationship or even when they are together for so long?
• hoganrock

  10 Nov 03, 17:16

  if they are engaged, are you?
  
  

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:

  Do couple really plan for their future when they are in a relationship or even when they are together for so long?

• FireIce

  10 Nov 03, 17:19

  if cfm marrying the partnet then can start with some financial planning.....like buying house and prepare the wedding.....
  
  followed by family planning..................
• the Bear

  10 Nov 03, 17:21

  prepare and plan for the MARRIAGE.. it is way way WAY more important than the wedding..
  
  and yes... when She and i were together, we planned everything.. even our retirement..
  
  alas, it was not to be
• hoganrock

  10 Nov 03, 17:22

  what is partnet?
  
  

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  if cfm marrying the partnet then can start with some financial planning.....like buying house and prepare the wedding.....
  
  followed by family planning..................

• IamAngeline

  10 Nov 03, 17:23

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  prepare and plan for the MARRIAGE.. it is way way WAY more important than the wedding..
  
  and yes... when She and i were together, we planned everything.. even our retirement..
  
  alas, it was not to be

  /sayang unker Bear...
• hoganrock

  10 Nov 03, 17:24

  what happened? She shrunk at the idea of marriage?
  
  

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  prepare and plan for the MARRIAGE.. it is way way WAY more important than the wedding..
  
  and yes... when She and i were together, we planned everything.. even our retirement..
  
  alas, it was not to be

• the Bear

  10 Nov 03, 18:02

  thanks girl
  
  it is a pain i have to bear with myself
  
  

  Originally posted by IamAngeline:

  /sayang unker Bear...

• the Bear

  10 Nov 03, 18:06

  it's a secret i will carry to my grave
  
  

  Originally posted by hoganrock:

  what happened? She shrunk at the idea of marriage?
  
  

• Churra

  10 Nov 03, 18:06

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:

  Do couple really plan for their future when they are in a relationship or even when they are together for so long?

  how long is consider long enough?
• Churra

  10 Nov 03, 18:07

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  it's a secret i will carry to my grave
  
  

  ah? sounds very serious....
• the Bear

  10 Nov 03, 18:10

  when my word is given, it is kept.. it is serious
  
  for i believe, my word is my bond.. and a promise is something to be kept, no matter what..
  
  i gave my word and my promise to the one i love... and i'll keep it
  
  

  Originally posted by Churra:

  ah? sounds very serious....

• Bear

  11 Nov 03, 02:36

  yes I do plan... have to rational, logical now..
  Maybe it's part of growing up... Maybe it's based on experience of the past r/s that I had, maybe it's because of the r/s that I'm having now. maybe it's becoz of my own personal goals, and I won't be ready for marriage until the age of 29 or 30. Need to earn the moeny for wedding, need to work out where to stay after wedding, need to work out how to live, and to understand a cross-cultural lifestyle. Lots of things to worry and think about. Even need to plan how to proceed on with the next few years.
  
  Planning is important in all relationships, and no matter how many years of cohibitation, a couple can still get divorce. Oh and one more thing.. Planning is considered maturity, which is a factor highly considered by girls when they are looking for their partner for stability and security. It's not just fantasy planning, of positive thoughts of the future, though that is important to aspire how you want your family life to turn out, but more importantly some detailed ideas for the next 10 years or 20 years of your life.
• hoganrock

  11 Nov 03, 07:05

  curious to dig up your secrets
  
  

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  it's a secret i will carry to my grave
  
  

• Prec|ous

  11 Nov 03, 08:05

  But what if both couple dun haf financial stability to plan for the future yet leh?
• the Bear

  11 Nov 03, 08:23

  you can be curious all you want...
  
  that killed the cat...
  
  

  Originally posted by hoganrock:

  curious to dig up your secrets
  
  

• Bear

  11 Nov 03, 09:22

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:

  But what if both couple dun haf financial stability to plan for the future yet leh?

  Well, I would say you have to know what you're planning for, that is your goals. It's just like planning things for yourself, like what grades you want to get for your exams at the end of the year, to what school you want to enroll, and what you see yourself at the outcome of it. It has to be worthwhile to you and your partner, if not both of you will never make it through because the r/s would not mean anything to one of you or even both, and thus the r/s will dwindle off.
  
  Financially unstable can seen as a problem as probably you might have faced, but it can also be seen as a challenge. For instance, you can ask yourself if what you want work as in the future, as well as your partner's, then check out the salary and and promotion opportunities. You and your partner can plan out individually where you see yourselves first, and begin to match things up and see what adjustments are needed to be made.
  
  In fact, planning can also help to strengthed the r/s as both of you work it out together against the odds. It may seem a lot of work before there planning, therefore the goal has to be something that both of you really want, and be heading towards, so that it would motivate both of you to propel towards it. In fact, it's also good to have the two of you working towards it, as you can remind each other, and push each other.. =)
• WrX_STi

  12 Nov 03, 12:56

  eh... things appear to be stable on the outside but when to planning there are sure lots of conflict.. my fren 3,4 yrs together.. plan le in the end breakup...
  
  dis kind of things hard to say wan lei..
  
• the Bear

  12 Nov 03, 13:00

  it is true...
  
  sometimes, things just weren't meant to be..
  
  for myself, there was love and more.. planned for everything, finances, plans for where to go and live, plans for where we'd eventually go, plans for things we'd see together, plans for retirement together...
  
  all came to nought...
  
  still, i am blessed to have known Her... it was and still is, the best time i have ever had in my life
  
  

  Originally posted by WrX_STi:

  eh... things appear to be stable on the outside but when to planning there are sure lots of conflict.. my fren 3,4 yrs together.. plan le in the end breakup...
  
  dis kind of things hard to say wan lei..
  

• GHoST_18

  12 Nov 03, 13:11

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  thanks girl
  
  it is a pain i have to bear with myself
  
  

  Time will heal all wounds...
  
  Like u all said in my thread...
  
  
• WrX_STi

  13 Nov 03, 13:04

  gd to noe dat u once noe her.. leave it as happy memories..
• kurai

  18 Nov 03, 03:33

  Originally posted by Churra:

  how long is consider long enough?

  WHy nobody answer ar? I also curious to know leh.
  how long is consider long enough?