Are gals realli so heartless??
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Are gals realli so heartless when they fell in love with someone else?....some of my girl friends tell me it is usually guys who are heartless when they fell in love with some gals.....But i think in singpore....most of the cases is gals
Me got a gf(which i donno now what relation we r in) 3yr plus...I think she fall in love with another guy...Its Proberly the 2nd time within this 3yrs.I noe that people will think its my fault that make the ger lost interest in me....but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants....
Within this 3yrs, We had numerous of quarrels....but i am always the one who do the patching kind of things....if not i think we had alreadi ended the relationship long ago....
me realli love her alot....Sometimes when i think of her....i could not get to sleep...the feeling is like hundreds of knives stabbing on the heart.
I am his first bf, she is my second gf. Somtimes i just wonder mayb she had the kind of thinking that...y shld she stick with me since i am oni his first guy?
Sometimes me realli wish that she tell me that she realli had fall in love with another guy....so i could face it and give up.....
Guys did u read eyewitness thread?....he is my buddy and also we 2 realli had the similar type of problem......so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship -
relax lah friend...
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hmm it's times like these where we have to constantly tell ourselves that love isn't the ONLY thing worth living for.
one thing i know for sure, in all my years of being alive, is that love does NOT conquer all. being in love once doesn't necessarily mean being in love forever.
maybe bear has good advice for u, in here, so far i've only seen him display true love, and that is to let go. no one wants to cage someone they love. -
some women are fickle... sad fact of life..
some men too...
unfortunately, some of us will have to go through some of these before we find the right one.. some never do...
i found the love of my life, no 3rd party but i've lost Her, probably for keeps...
life goes on..
but my life is enriched because i have known Her.. and She gave me my humanity back
i vow never to ever forget this gift and live my life to the fullest...
even now, that we're not together, i am grateful to Her... eternally -
how about that.. mauahah we posted at the same time..
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It takes two to work a relationship out. Two to amuse each other in a relationship, and it's not just yourself trying to fulfil all her needs and desires. No one wants to end a relationship, especially one with 3 years invested in it.
However, I would rather confirm if she's really in love with another guy, than dragging the matter. Hurt for once than suffer for months, since you already mention that you would rather that the blow. Who knows she may say it's just some untrue speculation.
Well, personally, I believe that it will be the best if two people can be together for life, but there's no guarantee even when you're married in today's society. You won't believe how many times I hear my profs, friends and classmates mentioned about their divorce. It doesn't make me less desiring for a lifetime relationship, but it prepares me to accept a break ups better. Besides I would rather end a relationship before marriage and kids come in the picture. -
I think you shouldnt be critical of her in a public forum..I know u have pent up frustrations but better u tok to her instead lor... but if the love is gone...its gone...nothing can bring it back lor...Originally posted by hamrulez:Are gals realli so heartless when they fell in love with someone else?....some of my girl friends tell me it is usually guys who are heartless when they fell in love with some gals.....But i think in singpore....most of the cases is gals
Me got a gf(which i donno now what relation we r in) 3yr plus...I think she fall in love with another guy...Its Proberly the 2nd time within this 3yrs.I noe that people will think its my fault that make the ger lost interest in me....but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants....
Within this 3yrs, We had numerous of quarrels....but i am always the one who do the patching kind of things....if not i think we had alreadi ended the relationship long ago....
me realli love her alot....Sometimes when i think of her....i could not get to sleep...the feeling is like hundreds of knives stabbing on the heart.
I am his first bf, she is my second gf. Somtimes i just wonder mayb she had the kind of thinking that...y shld she stick with me since i am oni his first guy?
Sometimes me realli wish that she tell me that she realli had fall in love with another guy....so i could face it and give up.....
Guys did u read eyewitness thread?....he is my buddy and also we 2 realli had the similar type of problem......so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship -
Like many have suggested in here, a relationship is usually not a one-sided thing... And it's quite a dangerous thing to put a relationship on top of all everything else....Originally posted by hamrulez:Are gals realli so heartless when they fell in love with someone else?....some of my girl friends tell me it is usually guys who are heartless when they fell in love with some gals.....But i think in singpore....most of the cases is gals
Me got a gf(which i donno now what relation we r in) 3yr plus...I think she fall in love with another guy...Its Proberly the 2nd time within this 3yrs.I noe that people will think its my fault that make the ger lost interest in me....but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants....
Within this 3yrs, We had numerous of quarrels....but i am always the one who do the patching kind of things....if not i think we had alreadi ended the relationship long ago....
me realli love her alot....Sometimes when i think of her....i could not get to sleep...the feeling is like hundreds of knives stabbing on the heart.
I am his first bf, she is my second gf. Somtimes i just wonder mayb she had the kind of thinking that...y shld she stick with me since i am oni his first guy?
Sometimes me realli wish that she tell me that she realli had fall in love with another guy....so i could face it and give up.....
Guys did u read eyewitness thread?....he is my buddy and also we 2 realli had the similar type of problem......so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship
Never make too many presumptions about how your gf thinks of the relationship, that's many a time a killer to relationships... Miscommunications and groundless detest simply arises....
There can be many ways in which a girl would appreciate a guy... Not all girls would appreciate a 100% caring guy... Some girls want more of other qualities... All in all, if she've decided to leave you you can't stop her. If she's not, DON'T presume. It often only hasten the break up... Nobody would know what to expect whne they 1st enter a relationship, so don't tell us IF you know this would happen you won't have gone into the relationship... A love relationship is not all about sweetness... It's also about bitterness and often many battles... If you're only all out for the 'sweetness', I'll suggest you go catch a GOOD movie or something rather than enter a relationship....
Regards. -
bro, i been thru almost the same thing as u but mine is abt 1 1/2 yr r/s. its been for mth since, and time will slowly heal. cannot be lover, den be frens. i noe its tough..Originally posted by hamrulez:Are gals realli so heartless when they fell in love with someone else?....some of my girl friends tell me it is usually guys who are heartless when they fell in love with some gals.....But i think in singpore....most of the cases is gals
Me got a gf(which i donno now what relation we r in) 3yr plus...I think she fall in love with another guy...Its Proberly the 2nd time within this 3yrs.I noe that people will think its my fault that make the ger lost interest in me....but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants....
Within this 3yrs, We had numerous of quarrels....but i am always the one who do the patching kind of things....if not i think we had alreadi ended the relationship long ago....
me realli love her alot....Sometimes when i think of her....i could not get to sleep...the feeling is like hundreds of knives stabbing on the heart.
I am his first bf, she is my second gf. Somtimes i just wonder mayb she had the kind of thinking that...y shld she stick with me since i am oni his first guy?
Sometimes me realli wish that she tell me that she realli had fall in love with another guy....so i could face it and give up.....
Guys did u read eyewitness thread?....he is my buddy and also we 2 realli had the similar type of problem......so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship
gers feeling change and nth can turn back. trust mi, i haf sm frens who gone thru dis case oso.
once feeling is change, nth can bring dem back.
say dis to urself "she lost some1 who love her very much, u lost one who dont love u"
hope time can heal u fast.. -
if her heart is already hardened, then yes the ger can be heartless..
she would be able to ignore your pleas... would be able to take you as nothing. -
certainly AGREE..Originally posted by Haze|:if her heart is already hardened, then yes the ger can be heartless..
she would be able to ignore your pleas... would be able to take you as nothing.
once feeling gone, nth can make dem love u back.. -
I've been with my "ex-gf" for 3 years too. Just broke up and she already have a new guy. Even a blind man could see what is happening here, though she still denies it. She could be so heartless, I hardly recognise her anymore. Saying all sorts of things that hurt my feelings. I can say honestly that in this 3 years, I loved her with all my heart, I've treated her good, and she has never found reasons to be unhappy when she was with me. I never even quarreled with her, until she initiated the break up. But when she changed her heart for another guy, She's like a complete different person. But amazingly, I am still very much in love with her.
"Maybe she'll wake up someday and find that I'm the one for her
Until that day, I will still be waiting for her" -
Originally posted by hamrulez:Are gals realli so heartless when they fell in love with someone else?....some of my girl friends tell me it is usually guys who are heartless when they fell in love with some gals.....But i think in singpore....most of the cases is gals
Me got a gf(which i donno now what relation we r in) 3yr plus...I think she fall in love with another guy...Its Proberly the 2nd time within this 3yrs.I noe that people will think its my fault that make the ger lost interest in me....but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants....
Within this 3yrs, We had numerous of quarrels....but i am always the one who do the patching kind of things....if not i think we had alreadi ended the relationship long ago....
me realli love her alot....Sometimes when i think of her....i could not get to sleep...the feeling is like hundreds of knives stabbing on the heart.
I am his first bf, she is my second gf. Somtimes i just wonder mayb she had the kind of thinking that...y shld she stick with me since i am oni his first guy?
Sometimes me realli wish that she tell me that she realli had fall in love with another guy....so i could face it and give up.....
Guys did u read eyewitness thread?....he is my buddy and also we 2 realli had the similar type of problem......so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship 
When a girl loses interest in a guy and found comfort in another man - it time for a great reflection on yourself AND her personality.
This girl is having her first relationship with a guy - the beginning stage of exploring what love is all about. And she began the discovery without having the 'wisdom' to understand what she really wants in a guy and what she is looking for. Obviously true for a first-hand relationship, because simply she has nothing else to compare and contrast, take note, etc.
Lots of quarrel leading to breaking up and patch back again, etc - such cracks of a relationship cannot be mend. (Note: it cannot be mend). Going through it one time, probably it fated, this relationship could probably endure and move on. Anything more than that, chances are, the ultimate conclusion would have been declared since then, regardless of how many conscious delaying effort and tactics one/both are trying to make.
And you just made one of the top ten mistake man often make in a relationship: but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants - the last thing you would do to keep a relationship running and alive with energy is to feed whatever your partner demands and wants, according to her standard and liking. Love gets dull and a woman would lose interest quickly. Under theories of the art of seduction, your action automatically opens her up to potential seducer and Poof! Comes a third party - Twice somemore.
I understand three years is a long time and probably both of you have learn many things as a couple. You love her alot, although she not very faithful in her ways. Pushing your likely outcome into your subconscious, unless she tells you straight in the face, you rather avoid the obvious truth. Here is what you should do: face issues with yourself and weigh the pros and cons. Find the answer yourself, rather than to wait for time to provide you with one.
P.S: Why regret if you knew that this relationship will turn out to be in way? There are many lessons for you to learn and if you don't realise the hidden morals behind it, you are just wasting the three years of being together. The fault of people is that they lead relationship and when it ends, everything goes with it. That's utterly foolish. You may lose the relationship, but don't lose the lesson that comes with it.
Cheers -
Its probably the girls fault because THEY CANNOT COMMUNICATE properly, like most guys. But at least in my experience its the guys who communicate more than the girls. THe girls always expect to be provided for and always on the recieving end ha! What fickleness!
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haizz.....now its like i do not hav the choice animore except giving up.
last nite i went for a concert and saw her, we were so near but i did not call her.
Thanxz guys for all ur advice, i noe wat u all mean and i noe wat to do from now onwards...
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I am new here , just saw Yunhaier's post,
[b]Lots of quarrel leading to breaking up and patch back again, etc - such cracks of a relationship cannot be mend. (Note: it cannot be mend). Going through it one time, probably it fated, this relationship could probably endure and move on. Anything more than that, chances are, the ultimate conclusion would have been declared since then, regardless of how many conscious delaying effort and tactics one/both are trying to make.
And you just made one of the top ten mistake man often make in a relationship: but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants - the last thing you would do to keep a relationship running and alive with energy is to feed whatever your partner demands and wants, according to her standard and liking. Love gets dull and a woman would lose interest quickly. Under theories of the art of seduction, your action automatically opens her up to potential seducer and Poof! Comes a third party - Twice somemore.
P.S: Why regret if you knew that this relationship will turn out to be in way? There are many lessons for you to learn and if you don't realise the hidden morals behind it, you are just wasting the three years of being together. The fault of people is that they lead relationship and when it ends, everything goes with it. That's utterly foolish. You may lose the relationship, but don't lose the lesson that comes with it.
Cheers [/b]
just a bit of question here ..
about the first parag,. what if our intention is good, and she willn't listen becos she dun understand it and that leads a quarrel? What to do in such cases?
the second parag.. do not give her what she wants,. .
althou I read the 'art of seduction', its still hard to figure out what to give and what not to give.. can someone enlighten me..? as I have also made the mistake....n always..
btw, that is one of top ten, what are the other 9 mistakes? -
If i noe?? If i noe, i struck lottery liao loh.. Who can predict the future?? Everything is fated!!!Originally posted by hamrulez:so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship -
Your intention is good, but she is not willing to listen and if it leads to quarrels, it simply show that the way you bring across the message is not very effective. Plan and attempt another way to bring out that intention, yet to minimize the conflicts possibility. You see, most of the time in a relationship, when one side communicate heart-to-heart and leads to quarrels, psychologically, it deters him/her from speaking again in the future. In the long run, it will affect the relationship severely.Originally posted by noctural sunshine:I am new here , just saw Yunhaier's post,
just a bit of question here ..
about the first parag,. what if our intention is good, and she willn't listen becos she dun understand it and that leads a quarrel? What to do in such cases?
the second parag.. do not give her what she wants,. .
althou I read the 'art of seduction', its still hard to figure out what to give and what not to give.. can someone enlighten me..? as I have also made the mistake....n always..
btw, that is one of top ten, what are the other 9 mistakes?
Hard to know what to give and not? Its difficult for me to explain also. Its all about your practical experience you have and loads of self enlightenment. Read more, learn more, (especially from people) and gradually you will understand. The other top 9 mistakes, I can't remember word for word. But when the situation arise, I think I will know bah. Its under an-email I receive long ago.
P.S: Don't worry about the 'mistake' made. Afterall, mistakes in relationship, once learn isn't that bad afterall. Its only problematic if you make the mistake twice. (goes to show, you fail to learn ya?) Be adaptable in relationship.
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wad i suggest is to carry on and live on ur life.. no point waiting.. if there is a chance when 1 day u come across a better one.. go for it dude..Originally posted by heartbroken07:"Maybe she'll wake up someday and find that I'm the one for her
Until that day, I will still be waiting for her"
she can treat u once lidat, who noes in the future u may suffer again... -
I doubt you would not want to start the relationship if you have know it.Originally posted by hamrulez:Are gals realli so heartless when they fell in love with someone else?....some of my girl friends tell me it is usually guys who are heartless when they fell in love with some gals.....But i think in singpore....most of the cases is gals
Me got a gf(which i donno now what relation we r in) 3yr plus...I think she fall in love with another guy...Its Proberly the 2nd time within this 3yrs.I noe that people will think its my fault that make the ger lost interest in me....but i realli did my best to fullfill whatever requirements she wants....
Within this 3yrs, We had numerous of quarrels....but i am always the one who do the patching kind of things....if not i think we had alreadi ended the relationship long ago....
me realli love her alot....Sometimes when i think of her....i could not get to sleep...the feeling is like hundreds of knives stabbing on the heart.
I am his first bf, she is my second gf. Somtimes i just wonder mayb she had the kind of thinking that...y shld she stick with me since i am oni his first guy?
Sometimes me realli wish that she tell me that she realli had fall in love with another guy....so i could face it and give up.....
Guys did u read eyewitness thread?....he is my buddy and also we 2 realli had the similar type of problem......so sianzzz, if i noe it would have ended up like this, i would not even want to start the relationship 
It doesn't really matters whether you are the first/second or third one in your life. It how much you and her feel for each other...Not the time spend together that counts too.... Sometime there just isn't a reason to be together and it takes only a small change in life to "trigger" the parting.
Not all the gals are heartless, just that sometime it the way they do what they think is right and in your own world, you think it wrong.
Anyway since she have found a bf, I guess you can only wish her all the best. Pain to do that too but it has already happen....
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The thing about keeping gf is to make sure she's emotionally, intellectually and psychologically engaged with you from time to time. A good r/s doesn't mean treat her good and not upset her in anyway is enough. No quarrel doesn't mean the r/s is healthy, quite a lot of guys got it wrong here or didn't realize this!
Otherwise, once there's no more engagement in any of the 3 aspects, you can be sure she'll find other avenues, regardless of the number of years invested in the r/s. -
humans get influenced easily, more so for peer-pressure during the teenage - early-adult yrs. every girl wants to be with someone who treats her well, someone good enough for her. perhaps at the beginning of the r/s, you were good enough for her.
time passes by, she grows up, then comes along this boy who, to her, is better than you. even by that little itsy bitsy bit. that's probably enough for her to leave you for another person. especially when quarrels occur often in your r/s, all the quarrels eventually add up, until the day when she thinks she's had enough, she gives up and stop giving her love to you. i guess when a girl stops loving, its kinda impossible to resuscitate the r/s.. well, its her right to choose who she wants to be with and if she's happy with her decision, u shld be happy for her. difficult to swallow, but can be done... -
well I must thank all you guys for your honest and encouraging view. Most of what is said is correct. let me tell you I love a beautiful woman for almost 8 yrs. Of course our relationships have ups & down. When we quarrell I apologise even she started the tiff. When she want to get angry she simply throw her weight on me even over small petite things. People have limitation. When I got angry and talked sense into her , she left . Normally it wil take few days for us to patch things back. Never I thought she changed. She became very violent with her words . later I know she found someone new. I asked her about us. she refuse to say , She said I should know. She said she doesn't want to know anything about me anymore . So guys , talking about feeling hurts, no words can describe.Originally posted by heartbroken07:I've been with my "ex-gf" for 3 years too. Just broke up and she already have a new guy. Even a blind man could see what is happening here, though she still denies it. She could be so heartless, I hardly recognise her anymore. Saying all sorts of things that hurt my feelings. I can say honestly that in this 3 years, I loved her with all my heart, I've treated her good, and she has never found reasons to be unhappy when she was with me. I never even quarreled with her, until she initiated the break up. But when she changed her heart for another guy, She's like a complete different person. But amazingly, I am still very much in love with her.
"Maybe she'll wake up someday and find that I'm the one for her
Until that day, I will still be waiting for her" -
The thing about keeping gf is to make sure she's emotionally, intellectually and psychologically engaged with you from time to time.
Hear hear! I agree, which is why if I believe this: If you can't communicate with the person deeply, don't even think about going down the precarious path of romance.quite a lot of guys got it wrong here or didn't realize this!
And girls as well, in fact I believe girls tend to get it more wrong because they expect to be provided for. Plus they don't really communicate that well in general. -
i tok to her last week....she ask me y i block her in msn? i was just proberly trying to forget her...thats y i did not wish to seee her online animore....but the more i try to forget her....every corner of my house has her shadow
she told me she and that guy nuttin le...although i noe it was impossible for me and her to get back together....but i realli still love her alot....
she told me that the guy had taken the revenge for me by hurting her as she used to hurt me...when i heard that she say this....this even hurts my heart more.... as because she is feeling sad because of that guy and not me animore....mayb now wat can i do is oni to bury all this things into my heart and never tell anione animore