Falling In love with your best friend's gal.How do you deal?
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This is the worst predicament you can ever imagine to be in.If you ever seriously one day fall in love with your best friend's girl,how do you go about dealing with it?Do you suffer in silence and watch them one day get married and cry a river inside during their wedding while putting up a happy front and later on regret your whole life for not telling her how you really feel?Or do you do something about your feelings and tell it to her,risking not only rejection but also her telling it to your best friend and your best friend getting totally pissed at you?And if,by any slightest chance there is,she has the same serious feelings towards you and both of you hit it off,risk losing your best friend of,let's say,20 years forever.
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friends come first for me... i will forget bout her and find a new gal...
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wont tell, jz move on n forget abt it, no point messing up ur frenship, theres so many gals arnd so no need 2 steal frm ur best fren...Originally posted by WJPG:This is the worst predicament you can ever imagine to be in.If you ever seriously one day fall in love with your best friend's girl,how do you go about dealing with it?Do you suffer in silence and watch them one day get married and cry a river inside during their wedding while putting up a happy front and later on regret your whole life for not telling her how you really feel?Or do you do something about your feelings and tell it to her,risking not only rejection but also her telling it to your best friend and your best friend getting totally pissed at you?And if,by any slightest chance there is,she has the same serious feelings towards you and both of you hit it off,risk losing your best friend of,let's say,20 years forever.
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grin and bear it
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Just put yourself in your best friend's shoes and think... how would you feel if you were him?
I was a victim once and i can't believe my best friend actually "stole" my girl. Why with ""? My ex gf felt guilty because my best friend came mess up the relationship and she got a crush on him, they didnt be together though. His attitude totally changed when he heard the news that we were together, he turn somewhat hostile to me but i didnt really cared much.
The sad case was... the relationship lasted for a week only. At that point, i hated him so much but there was nothing i could do. I forgave him eventually because he was someone close to me before. After two years, my ex actually came back and told me that she still loved me, i do admit i still have feelings for her but... i'm attached already... -
Don't think I would say a thing? In fact, I should be pretty HAPPY.... The girl I love being HAPPY with my best friend and in turn making him HAPPY? Of course, it would be nice if the girl I love can be with me? But 2nd best is probably MY BEST FRIEND...?
> Did I mentioned SECOND BEST?? Oh yeah.... ~HEEheehehe.... "
In fact, I would try and help make this relationship LAST for them if I could? I might only consider to be with this girl if break up is truly inevitable for both of them.... -
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seriously i would say like others ....go find another girl....there are loads of girls out there just as good....why mess up your friendship just becoz of her?
and yeah do put urself in ur friend's shoes...
and if they ever find out about it, years later prob married... they will also appreciate you and respect you for what u have 'controlled' yourself. so it means u are someone of integrity.