Originally posted by zacken99:
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Emotional control is a skill. Not required kind, rather like all other form of skills, it is gain through practical approach. Usually, you can't prevent yourself from feeling because its so natural and it happens unconsciously. My advice is to avoid controlling it consciously as it will normally have adverse effect because in the end, you will discover you can't do it and probably acknowledge it or accepted it without you realising.
To prevent falling in love, we need to look into four areas.
(I)
Visual - Avoid unneccessary contacts of all sort that trigger the sight factors. Do not meet her, do not keep her pictures, put away items she gave you, etc.
(II)
Communicate - Avoid unnneccesary contacts of all sort that trigger the speech factors: Do not chat with her, do not email, etc.
(III)
Sound/Voice - Avoid unneccessary contacts of all sort that trigger the hear factors: Avoid phones, SMS.
(IV)
Thoughts - This is the most difficult stage. You MUST probably satisfy the above three to handle this. To handle thoughts, you must first acknowledge and recongise that this relationship is furtile to pursue - The reasons and stuff. Expand your mind and realise that love is not just about BGR. Spiritual love doesn't need physical/verbal committment. To love, is to see the best out of the person, with you or not in the picture.
To affect her marriage because of you isn't making the best out of her.

Recongise that its normal and natural to think occasionally. To ponder is to enlighten and gradually to attain realization.
Let me tell you, the most karmatic relationship, often have the strongest magnetic attraction. It's always a effect of nature to have you pay/repay your debts through entering the relationship/accepting the existence of it. By 1st level love - you suffer because by society ethics, you can't acquire such love easily, and more often than not, its painful and unfulfilling.
Being a Cancer, you will cloud your own emotions when suffering from emotional turmoil - the accuracy of your feelings will fail you. Heed your rational mind. Avoid thoughts like 'ming zhong zhu ding.' because psychologically, its self fulfilling prophesies - You are walking towards where your love cosmic karma wants to lead you.

P.S: Two ways to handle love cosmic karma - First is the most common: to accept them, which is what bear always say: love and damn the consequences. Secondly, is wisdom and enlightenment. I think you understand such thingy much more than me. Well, anyway, take care! I will be here if you need.

Cheers