i did a bad thing....
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i once peeped at my crush's hp, n realised tt his hp stored some very personal messages by a gal...
tt gal mentioned something like asked him not to wait for her, tt she alrady got a bf n stuff.....
this message is send to my crush's hp durin september.....
which is 2 mths ago...
now the problem is," i'm not sure whether has he get over the gal or is he tryin to use me as a subsitute?"
n i did the wrong thing by peepin at his messages, n he had nv mentioned abt this gal to me..... so i can't possibilty ask him abt this gal lor.....
n now,he told me he likes me....
ok, so nw shld i act blur n juz continue with him.....
i feel rather uneasy............ -
crush?
so now he is ur bf? -
nope.... i told him i need time to think it over.....
actualli is becos of this message tt kip botherin me lo..
i'm kinda jealous tt this gal get to know him b4 i do.......
dun wana be a subsitute..... -
u shouldn't have gone thru his phone..
it's not a nice thing to do..
in anyway, u'll have to forget about what u read.. and not be affected by it.. we all enter someone's life at different points of time.. doesn't mean if both parties meet earlier, therefore they'll be together.. it's more than time and opportunity.. compatibility has to come in play too..
if u cannot let this incident pass by.. then even if both of u do become an item.. the issue of trust will come back to haunt u... -
u could be a substitute I feel especially its still so soon dat he liked another gerOriginally posted by [S]tay:nope.... i told him i need time to think it over.....
actualli is becos of this message tt kip botherin me lo..
i'm kinda jealous tt this gal get to know him b4 i do.......
dun wana be a subsitute..... -
maybe he is giving himself a chance to accept another ger
u shd give him a chance too.......and urself a chance.....
u wun know unless u have tried....... -
good. u have learnt about intrusion of privacy the hard way.
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It is a bad thing to peep at your crush's hp. It's also an invasion of privacy. Have you thought that what if he finds out? There are consequences and if your bf reacted badly, it's going to be ugly.
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Ask him to reconsider his decision and make certain if you're really what he wants? Alternatively, you can hint him indirectly... Not anything about the girl but his true feelings for you.... How old are the both of you?Originally posted by [S]tay:nope.... i told him i need time to think it over.....
actualli is becos of this message tt kip botherin me lo..
i'm kinda jealous tt this gal get to know him b4 i do.......
dun wana be a subsitute.....
Another option is to tell him you would just wish to remain as friends for now until you're more comfortable with him then you'll consider his offer. At the same time, try to 'dig' out some things regarding this girl through indirectly prompting but try not to be too aggressive on that....
I'll just like you to understand that whatever his intention for wanting you to be his gf now does not neccessarily reflects on how the future would be... Take for example... His intention might not be so sincere for now, but his feelings might grow for you in the future as he gets to know you better? On the other hand, he might be very sincere now in wanting you as his gf but there're no guarantee that he won't change one day...? Well. Whatever's your decision, once you've made up your mind then don't worry too much for now... Cause the future is often quite unpredictable... And that's actually the 'fun' of it...?
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i agree with him.. oR her..Originally posted by sillyme:u shouldn't have gone thru his phone..
it's not a nice thing to do..
in anyway, u'll have to forget about what u read.. and not be affected by it.. we all enter someone's life at different points of time.. doesn't mean if both parties meet earlier, therefore they'll be together.. it's more than time and opportunity.. compatibility has to come in play too..
if u cannot let this incident pass by.. then even if both of u do become an item.. the issue of trust will come back to haunt u...
but it realli is a bad thing. I mean.. should forget it.. and be true to him.. thats the way it should be -
Originally posted by [S]tay:
ok...u are uneasy...and he's ur crush.....so my guess u are unsure abt the whole situation and at the same time u still like him? and now he likes u...
i once peeped at my crush's hp, n realised tt his hp stored some very personal messages by a gal...
tt gal mentioned something like asked him not to wait for her, tt she alrady got a bf n stuff.....
this message is send to my crush's hp durin september.....
which is 2 mths ago...
[b]now the problem is," i'm not sure whether has he get over the gal or is he tryin to use me as a subsitute?"
n i did the wrong thing by peepin at his messages, n he had nv mentioned abt this gal to me..... so i can't possibilty ask him abt this gal lor.....
n now,he told me he likes me....
ok, so nw shld i act blur n juz continue with him.....
i feel rather uneasy............[/b]
hmm...why dont you just ask him...if he like any gals in the past before....just a general chat....and see what he says...
least u know if he is lying. -
Originally posted by Friday13:ok...u are uneasy...and he's ur crush.....so my guess u are unsure abt the whole situation and at the same time u still like him? and now he likes u...
hmm...why dont you just ask him...if he like any gals in the past before....just a general chat....and see what he says...
least u know if he is lying.
agree. whether or not he speaks truthfully may give you an idea of his person. but before that, try to reassure him that you are not mindful of his past. it's possible he may resort to lying mainly for fear of losing you. good to reduce this possibility. -
[color=red][size=large][i]Maybe you should hint to him things about peeping into others hp ? See how he react ?
Then slowly , bits by bits , you know....interrogate him !!!!
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i hate hints and all these things... if you have something to say, say it!
to make people guess things is cruel and frustrating for both parties
Originally posted by Poolman:[color=red][size=large][i]Maybe you should hint to him things about peeping into others hp ? See how he react ?
Then slowly , bits by bits , you know....interrogate him !!!! -
i dun like to keep stuff from my gf, she has access to everything i have, my email, icq, hp etc... she can check on anything she wants...
btw, mebbe u can ask him if he has any gers he likes or liked, see if he's truthful to u? -
Originally posted by [S]tay:
naughty naughty
i once peeped at my crush's hp, n realised tt his hp stored some very personal messages by a gal...
tt gal mentioned something like asked him not to wait for her, tt she alrady got a bf n stuff.....
this message is send to my crush's hp durin september.....
which is 2 mths ago...
[b]now the problem is," i'm not sure whether has he get over the gal or is he tryin to use me as a subsitute?"
n i did the wrong thing by peepin at his messages, n he had nv mentioned abt this gal to me..... so i can't possibilty ask him abt this gal lor.....
n now,he told me he likes me....
ok, so nw shld i act blur n juz continue with him.....
i feel rather uneasy............[/b]
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hey.. pple...thanks for all ya reply.........
n the good news here is i decided to ignore the messages in his hp...
n we r currently 2 gether le....... decided to trust him...haha
guess trust is essential for a relationship to work..... thanks for all the advices
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good for u...Originally posted by [S]tay:hey.. pple...thanks for all ya reply.........
n the good news here is i decided to ignore the messages in his hp...
n we r currently 2 gether le....... decided to trust him...haha
guess trust is essential for a relationship to work..... thanks for all the advices ......
Good luck to the both of u too
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Ya lor. U oso want your bf to trust you enuff right ?
I got another advice.
Trustful is good. Ignorance is bad.
However much two person together, I think there should be a degree of freedom.