I had a problem
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bei guan
i am sure that all of u here know about this word and what it meant
it had always been a huge problem for me
i always think about the negitive side of life and things around me
maybe thats why my relationship dont really work well
haizzzz
i really dont know how to get rid of this
i had some years of peace for not being so bei guan
maybe i am focus on my sch work bah
but as i just finish my poly
there is nothing for me to focus on
haizzz
i really need help now
as i dont have mood or motivation of doing things
been rotting the whole day
and i dont think its good to do that
as now i should be doing all the stuff i can do now
i really wish someone here could help me
thanks in advance -
always look on the bright side of life.. huhuhuhuhu....Originally posted by doghouse837:bei guan
i am sure that all of u here know about this word and what it meant
it had always been a huge problem for me
i always think about the negitive side of life and things around me
maybe thats why my relationship dont really work well
haizzzz
i really dont know how to get rid of this
i had some years of peace for not being so bei guan
maybe i am focus on my sch work bah
but as i just finish my poly
there is nothing for me to focus on
haizzz
i really need help now
as i dont have mood or motivation of doing things
been rotting the whole day
and i dont think its good to do that
as now i should be doing all the stuff i can do now
i really wish someone here could help me
thanks in advance
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find a job...
trust me... it can really suck out all your energy if you find the right one... -
bzz.
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Ta-da! Guess what, you're on the route to getting rid of your pessimism... I hopeOriginally posted by doghouse837:bei guan
i am sure that all of u here know about this word and what it meant
it had always been a huge problem for me
i always think about the negitive side of life and things around me
maybe thats why my relationship dont really work well
haizzzz
i really dont know how to get rid of this
i had some years of peace for not being so bei guan
maybe i am focus on my sch work bah
but as i just finish my poly
there is nothing for me to focus on
haizzz
i really need help now
as i dont have mood or motivation of doing things
been rotting the whole day
and i dont think its good to do that
as now i should be doing all the stuff i can do now
i really wish someone here could help me
thanks in advance
At least you've identified the problem 
Being pessimistic, there really isn't quite anything anyone can do for you but try and cheer you on and hopefully influence you with their optimism.. But ultimately, it all lies on yourself because it's YOUR MIND
Whenever those thoughts of pessimism come, just remind yourself to think positively.. Force yourself to think positively.. In time to come, I guess you'll internalize some optimism heh.
Really!
What, you don't know what to do after poly? Find a job lor. It's what everyone has to do to survive No motivation? Why, do you find life dull? Is there something else you'd prefer to do, than to pursue your diploma in the current field of study? 
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is not i dont have a jobOriginally posted by MooKu:Ta-da! Guess what, you're on the route to getting rid of your pessimism... I hope At least you've identified the problem
Being pessimistic, there really isn't quite anything anyone can do for you but try and cheer you on and hopefully influence you with their optimism.. But ultimately, it all lies on yourself because it's YOUR MIND
Whenever those thoughts of pessimism come, just remind yourself to think positively.. Force yourself to think positively.. In time to come, I guess you'll internalize some optimism heh. Really!
What, you don't know what to do after poly? Find a job lor. It's what everyone has to do to survive No motivation? Why, do you find life dull? Is there something else you'd prefer to do, than to pursue your diploma in the current field of study?
i am going into the police force this mid dec or early jan
so i had a job waiting for me
but just that now i dont have mood to do stuff loh -
if you listen to the Nike song, you will feel better.
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pick up a new hobby to spend time and oso learn something.....
arbo be tai tai like me.....eberyday high tea, manicure, shopping.... -
try this supplement called "st. john's wort" at GNC, watson's, guardian
After I started taking this I became a more cheerful person.
But the thing that really changed me was that I kena a diesease and had to go for operations. While in the hospital, i realized how d*amn lucky I am, compared to the patients around me. And of course my religion helped me
When I came out, I became a happier person. -
Try to look at the bright side of life. Tell yourself that you are better off than many others. Mix with optimistic people, they will be able to influence you. Being happy or not, it's always up to you to decide. Not difficult, you juz have to know what kind of life you want. Want to spend a day sighing away or wear a smile?
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i guess i had lots of optimistic friends around meOriginally posted by browniebaobao:Try to look at the bright side of life. Tell yourself that you are better off than many others. Mix with optimistic people, they will be able to influence you. Being happy or not, it's always up to you to decide. Not difficult, you juz have to know what kind of life you want. Want to spend a day sighing away or wear a smile?
but i seldom talk to them
as i seldom talk to others
i had a phone friend for 4 years
we talk almost every night
but i know she is kind of piss off with my thinking
cause i always think about the dark side of life
but i know she try her best to make me feel happy
i know she try hard, so i just smile or laugh to make her happy
but inside my heart
i still dont feel happy
haizzzz
guess i really need to see a mental doctor soon
just to so call cure this mental problem i am having for the past 21 years
haizzz -
There's always a CHOICE... Especially in THOUGHTS and THINKING.... Try to expose yourself to more POSITIVE things and THINKINGS.... And if you find yourself thinking NEGATIVE again? Just GO TO SLEEP.....Originally posted by doghouse837:i guess i had lots of optimistic friends around me
but i seldom talk to them
as i seldom talk to others
i had a phone friend for 4 years
we talk almost every night
but i know she is kind of piss off with my thinking
cause i always think about the dark side of life
but i know she try her best to make me feel happy
i know she try hard, so i just smile or laugh to make her happy
but inside my heart
i still dont feel happy
haizzzz
guess i really need to see a mental doctor soon
just to so call cure this mental problem i am having for the past 21 years
haizzz -
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I guess your problems have been solved as you're writing in past tense.
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If you want people to help you, you will first have to help yourself. Perhaps you can read some self-help books and ya, consult a psychologist. What made you so pessimistic at the first place? You ought to find out the source and work on it.Originally posted by doghouse837:i guess i had lots of optimistic friends around me
but i seldom talk to them
as i seldom talk to others
i had a phone friend for 4 years
we talk almost every night
but i know she is kind of piss off with my thinking
cause i always think about the dark side of life
but i know she try her best to make me feel happy
i know she try hard, so i just smile or laugh to make her happy
but inside my heart
i still dont feel happy
haizzzz
guess i really need to see a mental doctor soon
just to so call cure this mental problem i am having for the past 21 years
haizzz
Well, recommend two books here:
Andrew Matthews: Being Happy!
He Quan Feng: Ha ha xiao guo ku ri zi
Can get the above mentioned books at Popular Bookstore. -
Originally posted by doghouse837:bei guan
i am sure that all of u here know about this word and what it meant
it had always been a huge problem for me
i always think about the negitive side of life and things around me
maybe thats why my relationship dont really work well
haizzzz
i really dont know how to get rid of this
i had some years of peace for not being so bei guan
maybe i am focus on my sch work bah
but as i just finish my poly
there is nothing for me to focus on
haizzz
i really need help now
as i dont have mood or motivation of doing things
been rotting the whole day
and i dont think its good to do that
as now i should be doing all the stuff i can do now
i really wish someone here could help me
thanks in advance
You have lack of goals in life, therefore has little motivation to work towards things. Its a vicious cycle - people who don't think about themselves of what they like/love, interest, what they excel, etc will forever remain in this way until something drastic take place.
You could start doing something that you like, EVEN if it has little practical meaning like mastering the art of folding Origami for example. When you excel in something regardless of what it is, self confidence will flow in. Once you are sure you are good in that thingy, restart this cycle with another interest/things.
You want relationship to work well? Like common sense told you - you have to get rid of this dark side in yourself. You mentioned in your other post, saying that you have positive friends, but you seldom communicate with others and so there are of no exception.
People who are bei guan have small social circle - because they don't feel a need to expand them and they don't feel too good about themselves to get to know people. Self confidence and attitude are highly related to the people you are with - a guy hanging out with the punks will behave like one. Similiarly, staying around positive people will bring about a change in you subconsciously.
Start communicating, even if people thinks that you are a weirdo. Learn to love yourself and take much time to read from books that could enlighten you and stay positive. Negative thinkings are your automatic thoughts currently, but its possible to change them.
P.S: Before you can walk a mile, you have to begin your first step. Trust me, when you have instill a change in you, you will not only see relationship differently, but the way you lead and feel about them will evolve and change.
Cheers -
thanks for all the advice that all of u had given me
i will start to change
thanks alot
there are so many ppl around me that i can learn from
thanks -
I LIKE that song TOO....Originally posted by BLIM:if you listen to the Nike song, you will feel better. -
No there is no bright side, there is only the dark side.