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I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me............... -
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its not the end of the world.. be more optimistic.. i'm sure u haf good frens who are willing to help u..Originally posted by melody24:I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me...............
get some small loans frm dem to clear bills dat are real impt.. in the case of u cant excel in work, i guess u are pretty mess up with ur burden and thus cant concentrate on ur work..
small loans to ease abit burden and concentrate on ur work.. jiayou ! -
you can tell ur problem to the ICQ/email i have provided. its an online help provided by my church. u r not alone...we r all here to help. U can also post in 'Eternal Hope' thread...ppl there r willing to lend a listening ear.Originally posted by melody24:I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me...............
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We often face problems in life. Although i am not in your present position, but i could feel what you are going through.Originally posted by melody24:I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me...............
To think positively, you need to tell youself you can do it. If you find that you do have problems motivating yourself, maybe you can try talking to someone about your problems... Sometimes we feel better after talking to someone...
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u can come to this forum often. there will be pple here to crap and chat with u so that u won't feel so sad..Originally posted by melody24:I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me............... -
Originally posted by melody24:I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me...............
Your used-to-be-happy and now-something-seemed-wrong is natural. Its not depression, rather now that you are all grown up, you will begin to ponder over whether IS THIS LIFE that you truly want to seek? Totally unfulfilling and meaningless - working the hell of your soul just to meet ends needs and the cycle continues.
You want to rest because there are things you may like to do, but simply you do not have the time/money to do them. Simple things like even completing the entire Huan Zhu Ge Ge III series or something.
More importantly, your social circle would be rather stagnant if you couldn't spare a portion of your time to upkeep/expand them.
There is three things I would advice you to do:
(I) Seek religious help/assistance. Your body is tired because your soul is empty. People who are spiritually fulfilled will be very contented as a person. Religion can be a guide to unknown direction.
(II) Spare your time to get some good positive books to read or simply hang around in Kinokuniya/Borders to read them if you don't want to waste that money. Chicken soup for the soul is a good-read. What you can learn from books is alot and the best thing, they are always there when you need them.
(III) Take up Yoga or body-mind exercise to gain more about self-awareness. Not only healthy and good for the body, you learn to de-stress yourself through good means, which will make you feel better.
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Great work people...
I don't have much to add for now... But if you really need any 'help' or a ear to share your stories, you can always PM me....?
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hi there, sorri to hear of ur plight... actually depression is nothing uncommon these days...I think to deal with the problem long term, its best to seek professional help..there is nothing to be akward or embarrassed about....I think seeing a doctor will not be too expensive...recently the govt has recognised that this is a prevalent problem and have been encouraging pple to seek some sort of relief thru these health services..I'm sure it will be affordable...for a start go to http://www.moh.gov.sg to find out more detailsOriginally posted by melody24:I am from a broken family....my dad and mum were divorced. It's been a very long time almost about 10 years. I have a elder sister and younger brother.
I used to think that I'm very happy now...but now I'm so confused.....We take care of ourselves since we are young, fixing up meals going to school whatever things we have to do it ourselves..
Days passed and now we are all grown up. I am 24 this year..but I'm not happy at all. Now I have been trying to meets the end everyday. My sister is happliy married with a kid now. Couldn't ask her for help much as she has her own family to take care too.
I needed someone to talk to someone to listen to me..I'm finding myself falling apart. My life is in the mess now, I don't know what to do. I couldn't excel in my work. Everyday I go home I always heard about my bills never pay. I couldn't stand this anymore....I'm feeling mentally tired over all this.
My brother is going to end his NS soon and he told me things will get better in a way as he could help out with my burden but I'm just feeling tired now I really wish that I could take a rest. But financially I know I would not be able to do that. Sometimes it makes me wonder am I suffering from depression, I don't know I wish to see a doctor but when I think of the cost it will make me think again.
Is there anyone to help me out? Let me think positively? How do I make myself to stop brooding over all these? I am really confused, really confused. Please help me............... -
You will soon get used to depression. It will become routine