Forbidden Love
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Ok, first, this is not a joke topic, and I'm serious. The reason I'm posting with a new account is so I can keep myself annoynomous. And I'm a guy. I'm 16.
You see, my problem is this. This is embarassing, but I think I need to get it off my chest before I explode. I have a crush... on a... guy. Somehow, I know this isn't those growing up thing, because I've been through all that 3 years ago. So it's surely not.
I think it would be wrong for me to go tell him about how I feel. So I don't know what to do. Keep it to myself until I explode?[/i] -
U mean ur attracted to guys? Its not healthy u know, telling him is not advise, unless he is into guys too.
Even thought of see a psychiatrist to sort out why ur attracted to guys? -
Hmm... u mean u had a crush on the same guy for the past 3 yrs?
Do u like girls? are u physcially attracted to girls?
perhaps u will grow outta of it? I used to have crushes on girls when i was in sec. school. was kinda funny
of course i grew out of it after a yr.. It was a growing up thing for me. -
u can try to think of him in a healthy manner. or like wat some ppl said its pary of adolescence? dun be too stressed up but dun do foolish actions ya
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girls having a crush on girls are mostly a growing thing....but for guys having a crush on guys...hmm...can't be so sure....think u need professional help or something....
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why not we just help him out rather than condemning his situation?
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Firstly, I must tell you that you are normal. You are not a weirdo or whatever. You are a guy and thats it just like guys like us.Originally posted by blacked out:Ok, first, this is not a joke topic, and I'm serious. The reason I'm posting with a new account is so I can keep myself annoynomous. And I'm a guy. I'm 16.
You see, my problem is this. This is embarassing, but I think I need to get it off my chest before I explode. I have a crush... on a... guy. Somehow, I know this isn't those growing up thing, because I've been through all that 3 years ago. So it's surely not.
I think it would be wrong for me to go tell him about how I feel. So I don't know what to do. Keep it to myself until I explode?[/i]
Why do you find it embarassing? It must be because somehow you feel that such feelings just doesnt feel right or good.
If you are willing, you may seek help. Seeking help does not mean you are sick in the mind, it just means you need a direction. I have contacts, PM me if you need them.
This issue is touchy and my stand is that homosexuality is wrong but homosexuals are not. I treat homosexuals the same way i treat a heterosexual but I certainly do not think that engaging in homosexuality lifestyle is right. But then, its your ball to play. But maybe you would like to seek some advice before you make that decision to 'go along with your feelings." -
I hope ultimately you understand what you are doing. Because this is not a natural relationship case and in singapore, most of us does not accept homosexual.Originally posted by blacked out:Ok, first, this is not a joke topic, and I'm serious. The reason I'm posting with a new account is so I can keep myself annoynomous. And I'm a guy. I'm 16.
You see, my problem is this. This is embarassing, but I think I need to get it off my chest before I explode. I have a crush... on a... guy. Somehow, I know this isn't those growing up thing, because I've been through all that 3 years ago. So it's surely not.
I think it would be wrong for me to go tell him about how I feel. So I don't know what to do. Keep it to myself until I explode?[/i]
Anyway since you are pointed out that it is your crush, not love, why the huge impulse to express your feelings?
Think of the worst outcomes:
he hates you he avoid you he jue jiao with you worst, he baoto your "feelings" to everyone else. Afterwards, who will suffer? You. Becoz people will start to point fingers at you.
Of coz, there are possiblity that the guy wun mind. But however, percentage is small. Choice is in your hands, to say or not to say. You decide.
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ahyo.... he is only 16. why so harsh on him....
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so he dun do stupid things?
dun see kids small small.. now times are diff.. girls 13 yo hv sex get pregnant liaoz.. still so yaya abt it.. until something really go wrong, then come in here whining and b!tching about being blindfolded and raped by her ex and his friends, and want to commit suicide.
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Our brother here is seeking for advices and help, not condemnation and mockery. if u dun have any intentions and inclinations to help or encourage him to change....the door is there.
If yes...i bless you.
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hmm.. i experienced this b4.. last time i also have a slight crush with a butch b4..but this crush only take a while and after that when i settle my thoughts, i still prefer a guy..Originally posted by blacked out:Ok, first, this is not a joke topic, and I'm serious. The reason I'm posting with a new account is so I can keep myself annoynomous. And I'm a guy. I'm 16.
You see, my problem is this. This is embarassing, but I think I need to get it off my chest before I explode. I have a crush... on a... guy. Somehow, I know this isn't those growing up thing, because I've been through all that 3 years ago. So it's surely not.
I think it would be wrong for me to go tell him about how I feel. So I don't know what to do. Keep it to myself until I explode?[/i] -
so u can take some time and figure things out.
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actually I don't really understand where you define the problem. If you're happy being gay then be gay.. in terms of psychologically, homosexuality is no longer defined as a problem, but and it's a new area of research. This is because of the fact that homosexuality is both factors of nature and nurture, therefore we can't really do much to change it, since it involves our genetics. =) In fact, I see gays and lesbians as a different culture, just like Chinese, Malay, and Indians, it' just adds color to the society. So please stop thinking you're weird or different.
Back to your problem, I would say that it works the same way as it would for a girl. First, you need to know if the guy is attracted to you or not, I mean if not it will prove to be a one way r/s in the end. Well, to know this I think it works the same as how would one get to know a girl is she is interested or not.. Got to find out yourself.
However, at the age of 16, you may still be unstable of your sexual identity and preference with all the hormones churning without control, so it will take sometime for the subconscious confusion in your mind to settle... =) -
If you are happy with yourself then I say live n let live
is your life
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i have a rather similar problem..
i really really like this girl
& i mean REALLY
at first i thought this is just a crush
but it's a year already
i still like her alot
but i'm not attracted to her cos of her looks (she's pretty though)
i like her personality, her character
you all may say then what i have for her is just admiration?
but i'm willing to sacrifice anything to make her happy
i'm still attracted to good-looking guys/nice guys still
physically i'm still attracted to guys
i find the idea of french-kissing/having sex with another girl disgusting
my limit? just holding hands/hugging/peck on the cheeks
still, i never wanted to go into a relationship with her
i don't know what i want then
just for her to be happy i guess -
I think that's nice and to me it's alright... Being a homosexual, or a bisexual, and of course being straight... It just makes our world more colorful. Well, so some extend there's a belief that there's actually 4 to 5 sexes in this world rather than the normal M & F. =) Sometimes of course we are filled with admiration about someone that we think we are in love with that person too... It's just how ourselves perceive it, but it's what makes this world really fascinating, and ever-going.. =)Originally posted by MovieGirl:i have a rather similar problem..
i really really like this girl
& i mean REALLY
at first i thought this is just a crush
but it's a year already
i still like her alot
but i'm not attracted to her cos of her looks (she's pretty though)
i like her personality, her character
you all may say then what i have for her is just admiration?
but i'm willing to sacrifice anything to make her happy
i'm still attracted to good-looking guys/nice guys still
physically i'm still attracted to guys
i find the idea of french-kissing/having sex with another girl disgusting
my limit? just holding hands/hugging/peck on the cheeks
still, i never wanted to go into a relationship with her
i don't know what i want then
just for her to be happy i guess -
Originally posted by blacked out:Ok, first, this is not a joke topic, and I'm serious. The reason I'm posting with a new account is so I can keep myself annoynomous. And I'm a guy. I'm 16.
You see, my problem is this. This is embarassing, but I think I need to get it off my chest before I explode. I have a crush... on a... guy. Somehow, I know this isn't those growing up thing, because I've been through all that 3 years ago. So it's surely not.
I think it would be wrong for me to go tell him about how I feel. So I don't know what to do. Keep it to myself until I explode?[/i]
every homosexual relationship was doomed to fail before it even started. don't even think of it. -
yeah..i'm also aware that MOST (not all) homosexual relationships won't work out
just not so accepted in this society
that's why i never thought of going into one with her (if she ever wants anyway)
anyway i can't promise her eternal happiness
a guy would do a better job
friends would be more than enough for me -
okok....stop mocking him. why not give him advices as in to get out of that??
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Then what would you advise?Originally posted by NeonTetra:okok....stop mocking him. why not give him advices as in to get out of that?? -
Your gay, so what. Find out if he's straight or not and take it from there. If he's straight forget it, this is Singapore, if he is gay, talk to him and we'll see how it goes.