haiz.. tell me wat to do...
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no need le.. settle liao.. thanx everyone...
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no one can tell you what to do...
basically, you should have been truthful, and play it slow...
now, be her friend.. mayhap you'll win her love one day...
but if she's attached, my personal philosophy is HANDS OFF! don't even let her know how you feel... however good or bad their relationship is, is their business and their business ONLY...
good luck
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aiyo. why r u getting bothered about something tts not yours? obviously a gal who still considers a guy who went MIA for 4mths her bf must be nuts...
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hmm.. she told me she wanna break off le... cos she very disappointed wif her bf oso.. 1-2 months nv contact her.. she cant contact him either.. i wish to hands off oso.. but after she say tat, i decide not to..
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Originally posted by GoLdEn DrAgOn:i came to noe a gal at my work place about 3-4 months ago.. at 1st i tot she was a normal gal.. nv haf any interest of her.. soon.., we became more known.., n begin chatting in icq n msn.. as time goes by, i realise tat i m deeply in love wif her.. at 1st.., i will call her 'dear' all tat.. i told her tat i was juz play play only.. she dun mind.. in fact, it wasnt play play.. i nv told her the truth cos i scare she will avoid me.. but.. after some time.., i enjoy her accompany.. when she wif me, i was very glad, treat her like gf.. i nv haf gf b4 n she noe.. when i finally get the courage to tell her i like her, she ans me tat she abit like me oso.. but she is currently attached wif a bf who doesnt care about her, nv contact her for the past 4 months.. i felt sorry for her.. but i like her not becos of sympathy.., i love her very much.. she is a normal gal.., but i got feelings for her.. when she wif other guys, i will get jealous.. she everytime go out wif guys mostly.. i noe i dun haf the right to jealous.. cos i m only her 'dear' n not her bf.. whenever i told her i not happy cos she is wif guys, she will ans back tat i m over sensitive.. n i m thinking too much.. n sometimes she will get angry wif me for tat.. maybe i m really thinking too much.. but she doesnt care bout my feelings.. i feel so suffering.. i wsh she is my gf.. but scare tat after we stead, there will be many problem.. as u see, i often quarrel wif her even when i not her bf.. i m in a loss.. whenever i think of it.. i really love her very much.. i feel like crying.. i cant express out totally wat i m feeling.. but i agar agar say liao.. can anyone tell me wat to do..? thanx.. something to add on.. once, she told me another guy wooing her oso.. the guy i noe oso.. i can oso feel tat he wan woo her by his action.. but she told me she like me n prefer me.. i got bothered by tat oso.. keep thinking bout it.. she keep saying y i wan to think when it doesnt concern me.. do u think she's rite?
Stop acting like her boyfriend when in reality you do not have a stand to.
Why are you quarreling with her? Why tell her that you not happy with she going out other guys? Why bother if other guys are chasing YOUR FRIEND. (Regardless of how intimate you loved to call her, but in fact, she is just your friend by position. Please do not forget that.)
You only have one choice:
You already made you expression and discover her liking for you as well. She has to make a decision. If she rather stall, then you have to leave if you do not wish to turn this friendship into sufferings and retain lots of resentment.
Please lor, she indirectly rejected you because she said has a bf that doesn't bother her ( no contact for 3-4 months). So that means when he is back for some reason (after playing around until sian), then you automatically kanna kick aside?
You had done what you can - now is about her. Go find her, sit down and have a nice chat. State a given time and a conclusion; if she can't give you. Forget it man, because you are simply a pillow to fall back on. No bf - someone there also good.
P.S: There are girls who desire the attention to be loved. She could be one of them. It is likely, though not definte. All part of the art of seduction.
Cheers -
thanx yunhaier.. i understand ur comment..
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relac n let nature takes its course... b more da fang when she wif other guy... if she likes u, no matter how many guys ard her, her heart will still b wif u...
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PERSONAL opinion. I think she's just enjoying the company of a NICE CARING guy for now. For a relationship it's a bit too wide off, though I'm not in a position if she would accept you or not? (or even consider about it?) She seems like quite an 'easy go lucky' girl? If you're just caring for her out of genuine concern, I would not have much to add. But if you're looking out for a RELATIONSHIP with her.... Personal one. I would say don't pin too high a hope on it.... Especially when it's gonna be your 1st relationship? I'm sure you don't wanna be hurt too badly?Originally posted by GoLdEn DrAgOn:i came to noe a gal at my work place about 3-4 months ago.. at 1st i tot she was a normal gal.. nv haf any interest of her.. soon.., we became more known.., n begin chatting in icq n msn.. as time goes by, i realise tat i m deeply in love wif her.. at 1st.., i will call her 'dear' all tat.. i told her tat i was juz play play only.. she dun mind.. in fact, it wasnt play play.. i nv told her the truth cos i scare she will avoid me.. but.. after some time.., i enjoy her accompany.. when she wif me, i was very glad, treat her like gf.. i nv haf gf b4 n she noe.. when i finally get the courage to tell her i like her, she ans me tat she abit like me oso.. but she is currently attached wif a bf who doesnt care about her, nv contact her for the past 4 months.. i felt sorry for her.. but i like her not becos of sympathy.., i love her very much.. she is a normal gal.., but i got feelings for her.. when she wif other guys, i will get jealous.. she everytime go out wif guys mostly.. i noe i dun haf the right to jealous.. cos i m only her 'dear' n not her bf.. whenever i told her i not happy cos she is wif guys, she will ans back tat i m over sensitive.. n i m thinking too much.. n sometimes she will get angry wif me for tat.. maybe i m really thinking too much.. but she doesnt care bout my feelings.. i feel so suffering.. i wsh she is my gf.. but scare tat after we stead, there will be many problem.. as u see, i often quarrel wif her even when i not her bf.. i m in a loss.. whenever i think of it.. i really love her very much.. i feel like crying.. i cant express out totally wat i m feeling.. but i agar agar say liao.. can anyone tell me wat to do..? thanx.. something to add on.. once, she told me another guy wooing her oso.. the guy i noe oso.. i can oso feel tat he wan woo her by his action.. but she told me she like me n prefer me.. i got bothered by tat oso.. keep thinking bout it.. she keep saying y i wan to think when it doesnt concern me.. do u think she's rite? -
i feel that she just need your company now, that's why she has not been giving you a clear signal as to whether she will accept you or not.
Maybe to her, you are really someone very nice and it really wont hurt to have you around her without having her committing to be your gf.
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Refer to Yunhaier's and Devil's posts. Though all these are mere speculations, but I am sure that is what she is thinking. I share their views and thoughts on your situation.
You may not even be a "pillow" to her. You are just there cause she is enjoying the attention given to her.
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Originally posted by GoLdEn DrAgOn:i came to noe a gal at my work place about 3-4 months ago.. at 1st i tot she was a normal gal.. nv haf any interest of her.. soon.., we became more known.., n begin chatting in icq n msn.. as time goes by, i realise tat i m deeply in love wif her.. at 1st.., i will call her 'dear' all tat.. i told her tat i was juz play play only.. she dun mind.. in fact, it wasnt play play.. i nv told her the truth cos i scare she will avoid me.. but.. after some time.., i enjoy her accompany.. when she wif me, i was very glad, treat her like gf.. i nv haf gf b4 n she noe.. when i finally get the courage to tell her i like her, she ans me tat she abit like me oso.. but she is currently attached wif a bf who doesnt care about her, nv contact her for the past 4 months.. i felt sorry for her.. but i like her not becos of sympathy.., i love her very much.. she is a normal gal.., but i got feelings for her.. when she wif other guys, i will get jealous.. she everytime go out wif guys mostly.. i noe i dun haf the right to jealous.. cos i m only her 'dear' n not her bf.. whenever i told her i not happy cos she is wif guys, she will ans back tat i m over sensitive.. n i m thinking too much.. n sometimes she will get angry wif me for tat.. maybe i m really thinking too much.. but she doesnt care bout my feelings.. i feel so suffering.. i wsh she is my gf.. but scare tat after we stead, there will be many problem.. as u see, i often quarrel wif her even when i not her bf.. i m in a loss.. whenever i think of it.. i really love her very much.. i feel like crying.. i cant express out totally wat i m feeling.. but i agar agar say liao.. can anyone tell me wat to do..? thanx.. something to add on.. once, she told me another guy wooing her oso.. the guy i noe oso.. i can oso feel tat he wan woo her by his action.. but she told me she like me n prefer me.. i got bothered by tat oso.. keep thinking bout it.. she keep saying y i wan to think when it doesnt concern me.. do u think she's rite?
bribe a super chiobu, arrange for her to pretend be your admirer and confront you when you and your colleague gal having lunch together. then you also action abit, in front of colleague gal, tell the chiobu say "you love your colleague too much liao, cannot give her up". your market price sure shoot up become hot property, as far as your colleague's concerned. -
lol.Originally posted by boy in blues: bribe a super chiobu, arrange for her to pretend be your admirer and confront you when you and your colleague gal having lunch together. then you also action abit, in front of colleague gal, tell the chiobu say "you love your colleague too much liao, cannot give her up". your market price sure shoot up become hot property, as far as your colleague's concerned. -
Wah your situation is very tricky....... it could be true on either side ie, she playing with you or she really undecided.
This happens to me once and I gave up waiting cus I feel that the ger is just playing for time and taking me for a ride.
There are indeed better girls ard.. since this is your first time falling in love rite... give yourself more chances... don limit yourself to just her !
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I couldnt agree more...she is bored...nids someone to talk to make her feel loved and wanted...but all she ever wanted is their useless bfs... Stop acting like her boyfriend when in reality you do not have a stand to.
Why are you quarreling with her? Why tell her that you not happy with she going out other guys? Why bother if other guys are chasing [b]YOUR FRIEND. (Regardless of how intimate you loved to call her, but in fact, she is just your friend by position. Please do not forget that.)
You only have one choice:
You already made you expression and discover her liking for you as well. She has to make a decision. If she rather stall, then you have to leave if you do not wish to turn this friendship into sufferings and retain lots of resentment.
Please lor, she indirectly rejected you because she said has a bf that doesn't bother her ( no contact for 3-4 months). So that means when he is back for some reason (after playing around until sian), then you automatically kanna kick aside?
You had done what you can - now is about her. Go find her, sit down and have a nice chat. State a given time and a conclusion; if she can't give you. Forget it man, because you are simply a pillow to fall back on. No bf - someone there also good.
P.S: There are girls who desire the attention to be loved. She could be one of them. It is likely, though not definte. All part of the art of seduction.
Cheers [/b] -
I too experienced it once...I was taken for a realli realli long ride...I have gathered enuff opinions and listened to enuff stories to know that these gers are out to have a good time dats all...you dun mean shiit to them....if u attempt to think that ur situation is diff (which I thought so too..) well the outcome can oni be one however diff ur experience may be is dat...she loves her bf and u are just a convenient spare.....Originally posted by stoner:Wah your situation is very tricky....... it could be true on either side ie, she playing with you or she really undecided.
This happens to me once and I gave up waiting cus I feel that the ger is just playing for time and taking me for a ride.
There are indeed better girls ard.. since this is your first time falling in love rite... give yourself more chances... don limit yourself to just her !