Need very good advice
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hi every one. Need some advice or words of courage.
I had fall in love with a beautiful woman for 7 years. we do have quarrells . To be honest ours is forbidden love as we both have our own commitment We went thru thick & thin . We stuck togather when theres black clouds hanging over our head. I love her more than anything. I shower with all the love I could ever give and don't mind being her fool. I always give in to her whenever we have differences and most of time apologise to her even it is not my fault. She aprreciate for what I have done to her and vowed that she won't forsake me and never stop loving me no matter what happened. To me there's nothing wrong in her. everything she do (right or wrong) I accepted. ok lah don't wish to bragged about it.
then few weeks ago she had gone far. In the Got angry over small little things and throw tantrum @me. I simply cannot tolerate her & told her off. She asked me to stopped . when I refused she forced the door open while the car is moving. B'cos of the danger I stopped & ahe just get out car & leave. this is not the first time she did it. I simply drove off . then turn back & saw her . I stopped she crosses the road & get on the bus (right timing) after few days I called her she just kept quiet adn hung up. then I find out she had met someone. I call again then she changed totally. telling me that hse don't want to talk to me & to know anything about me anymore. when I asked her about us she said she got nothing to say . I mentioned about her vow , she told me not to mentioned about it . then I knew it is over.
can someone help me cope with this lost. I thank U in advance -
kinda too late.
apparently, she is now fond of someone else. at least she is fond of someone else who she thinks is better than u.
if i am you, i would just let go. if she's happy, good for her. if otherwise, she will come back for you. -
7 years is a long time n will be hard to get over but take consolation that u did not find out 7 years into ur marraige....that one than really u will lagi lost....just let go dude.... e pain will be great but tell urself u will be okay soon....hang out w ur frens more....they will help u ......
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This is what one of my EX told me... Though she'd always told me alot of foolish things... This is one which I find rather meaningful and probably won't forget for the rest of my life...
"When someone says he / she loves you with ALL his / her heart.. Don't think that he / she was just lying to you if he / she has to leave one day... He / she probably MEANS IT with ALL his / her HEART at the moment he / she said it... Just that things changes... And sometimes people does too...?"
Not really related to your experience here.. But just felt like sharing this with you?
If you would like something else to add? My relationship with my 1st EX was something like yours (though not to that extreme...)... When she 1st left me, I thought I just wasn't good enough for her... Then I've came to REALISE... Nope... She wasn't good enough for me... That's why she has to go.... Think about it? -
what's the 'little' thing you quarelled over?
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I thank you so much. I really appreciate it. your last 2 sentences really helps. thanks again buddy.Originally posted by Devil1976:This is what one of my EX told me... Though she'd always told me alot of foolish things... This is one which I find rather meaningful and probably won't forget for the rest of my life...
"When someone says he / she loves you with ALL his / her heart.. Don't think that he / she was just lying to you if he / she has to leave one day... He / she probably MEANS IT with ALL his / her HEART at the moment he / she said it... Just that things changes... And sometimes people does too...?"
Not really related to your experience here.. But just felt like sharing this with you?
If you would like something else to add? My relationship with my 1st EX was something like yours (though not to that extreme...)... When she 1st left me, I thought I just wasn't good enough for her... Then I've came to REALISE... Nope... She wasn't good enough for me... That's why she has to go.... Think about it? -
I rather not bragged about it anymore. Appreciate. What I need now is motivation to help me move on . ThanksOriginally posted by sillyme:what's the 'little' thing you quarelled over? -
the easiest is to find another love, but it is not good.Originally posted by roverman:I rather not bragged about it anymore. Appreciate. What I need now is motivation to help me move on . Thanks
I suggest u must have things to do. U working? Try to put your career ahead of u. Take up a course, and channel your energy to elsewhere. It is impt to channel this sorrow away asap, before depression sets in.
All the best to u pal
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Originally posted by roverman:hi every one. Need some advice or words of courage.
I had fall in love with a beautiful woman for 7 years. we do have quarrells . To be honest ours is forbidden love as we both have our own commitment We went thru thick & thin . We stuck togather when theres black clouds hanging over our head. I love her more than anything. I shower with all the love I could ever give and don't mind being her fool. I always give in to her whenever we have differences and most of time apologise to her even it is not my fault. She aprreciate for what I have done to her and vowed that she won't forsake me and never stop loving me no matter what happened. To me there's nothing wrong in her. everything she do (right or wrong) I accepted. ok lah don't wish to bragged about it.
then few weeks ago she had gone far. In the Got angry over small little things and throw tantrum @me. I simply cannot tolerate her & told her off. She asked me to stopped . when I refused she forced the door open while the car is moving. B'cos of the danger I stopped & ahe just get out car & leave. this is not the first time she did it. I simply drove off . then turn back & saw her . I stopped she crosses the road & get on the bus (right timing) after few days I called her she just kept quiet adn hung up. then I find out she had met someone. I call again then she changed totally. telling me that hse don't want to talk to me & to know anything about me anymore. when I asked her about us she said she got nothing to say . I mentioned about her vow , she told me not to mentioned about it . then I knew it is over.
can someone help me cope with this lost. I thank U in advance
Lost? What have you lost? Do you even realise that in the beginning, by right, you shouldn't/wouldn't have gotten this relationship at all? (Since you mentioned it was forbidden).
It was a bonus right from the start. A fantasy. A dream. A haven. An escape.
`And tada, welcome to the club - the top ten mistake man make; which is to treat the lady of their dream like Goddess. Seriously speaking, the last thing you would ever want to do, is to make your woman lose that respect in you as their man.
A man who gives in to anything will lose everything - CloUdiSm Remix III
I do not know why it was a forbidden love (well, unless you explain), but anyway, it can be 7 years, or even 2 years or even less - a good relationship is one that has made impact and positive influence into our lives. The duration doesn't matter - its the process that we should cherish and the memories to be kept.
P.S: You learned a lesson: Woman are like fire - the minute they become your master, you are screwed. Keep them moderate and you will discover their beauty and probably subconscious respect.
Cheers