cannot treat ur gf too good?
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is it true that u cant treat a gal too good, then she will like take u for granted? And how to prevent the sparks in a relationship from dying?
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yeah.. i feel i would never be able to treat the girl i love too well... whatever i do, i would feel it is never good enough
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haha...i think if u treat them too good, it might backfire. they may suddenly start to dislike u. u should 'moderate'.
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its more of a give n take? if u feel tt u r always the party giving in...think its high time u hv a heart to heart talk w/ ur gf...
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to treat someone i love less than the very best would be almost betraying myself...
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However, I think it is difficult to justify that in a relationship who giving in more ...Originally posted by hopy:its more of a give n take? if u feel tt u r always the party giving in...think its high time u hv a heart to heart talk w/ ur gf...
UNLESS it is too obviously done which is easily felt ... especially by the one person whom keep gives in.
If it is so, I would agree with hopy that it is really time to take another look in the relationship...
izzit one party too selfish ?
izzit one party just going along in the relationship ?
izzit time to voice it out ? -
Yes, in a way. Though it would be your fault when you place her at the goddess position and worship instead of loving her. Treat well, not overdo it.Originally posted by kyle^:is it true that u cant treat a gal too good, then she will like take u for granted? And how to prevent the sparks in a relationship from dying?
Love is born of faith,
Lives on hope,
and dies of charity.
Prevent sparks from dying? I see this as two scenarios.
I) You feel that your relationship is 'boring' and 'the-usual'. Nothing seemed to be interesting even when you talk or hang out together. Basically, this problems occurs when you he/she is your first few gf/bf or it's part of your personality. (There are people who are pretty much down-to-Earth-rountized character)
II) There are alot of problems in your relationship are it is currently falling into the declining stage. Chances are, your relationship is dying without ample, effective and correct solution to it.
I presume you belong to (I) - My suggestion is to make greater use of your life to explore wider interest and probably influence one another into learning more of what you had discovered. (E.g. play the keyboard and show her the beauty of it?). And of course, the best is to take up courses/sports/etc TOGETHER. In this way, you will be making effort to build the relationship, spend more time together and to create a mutual interest.
Cheers -
a little bit of too much is awaes nt gd....
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rubbish la.. if u love someone u will treat him/her well and loving naturally.. And u would wan to give them the best toO.Originally posted by kyle^:is it true that u cant treat a gal too good, then she will like take u for granted? And how to prevent the sparks in a relationship from dying?
Wat rubbish if u treat ur partner well she will take u for granted, if the r/s is a two way thing, instead of taking u for granted, he/she will eventually treat u better then u do. never stop to show ur love. -
What if both parties are giving in but in a different way?Originally posted by winnerss:However, I think it is difficult to justify that in a relationship who giving in more ... UNLESS it is too obviously done which is easily felt ... especially by the one person whom keep gives in. -
Don't quite agree. Humans don't always work in a systematic and logical manner.Originally posted by bjork:rubbish la.. if u love someone u will treat him/her well and loving naturally.. And u would wan to give them the best toO.
Wat rubbish if u treat ur partner well she will take u for granted, if the r/s is a two way thing, instead of taking u for granted, he/she will eventually treat u better then u do. never stop to show ur love. -
I treat my gf like a princess, she treats me like a king.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Wat he meant in another word is... Dun be a wuss?
Yes, in a way. Though it would be your fault when you place her at the goddess position and worship instead of loving her. Treat well, not overdo it.
Love is born of faith,
Lives on hope,
and dies of charity. Prevent sparks from dying? I see this as two scenarios.
I) You feel that your relationship is 'boring' and 'the-usual'. Nothing seemed to be interesting even when you talk or hang out together. Basically, this problems occurs when you he/she is your first few gf/bf or it's part of your personality. (There are people who are pretty much down-to-Earth-rountized character)
II) There are alot of problems in your relationship are it is currently falling into the declining stage. Chances are, your relationship is dying without ample, effective and correct solution to it.
I presume you belong to (I) - My suggestion is to make greater use of your life to explore wider interest and probably influence one another into learning more of what you had discovered. (E.g. play the keyboard and show her the beauty of it?). And of course, the best is to take up courses/sports/etc [b]TOGETHER. In this way, you will be making effort to build the relationship, spend more time together and to create a mutual interest.
Cheers [/b]
Be yrself? dun every time give in to her? She loves U for who U r, not bcoz U give in to her? Be a man & stand by yr decisions? -
depends... if im truly touch by his action i will wan to do my best to serve him.Originally posted by Devil1976:Don't quite agree. Humans don't always work in a systematic and logical manner. -
What you do doesn't necessarily means that others would do the same?Originally posted by bjork:depends... if im truly touch by his action i will wan to do my best to serve him.
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hmmm... nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai?
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dun treat her well..there will someone out there who always will....why should anybody be with someone who doesnt treat her/him well....Originally posted by kyle^:is it true that u cant treat a gal too good, then she will like take u for granted? And how to prevent the sparks in a relationship from dying? -
/me punch all the char bors in hereOriginally posted by audlenelee:hmmm... nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai? -
i didnt say this is wat i will do, i meant is when both are in love its a two way thing.. Definitely one is gving more but its doesnt mean the other party is not giving too right?Originally posted by Devil1976:What you do doesn't necessarily means that others would do the same?
if the partner is shower his/her love with all the care & love he could give. But yet the partner took it for granted then its not a two way thing.
Unless ur a taker and only knows how to take, if not u wont have the thinking tt i'm talking abt myself. -
Originally posted by kopiosatu:/me punch all the char bors in here
Later they Chao Ta... -
i quite second wat devil said.Originally posted by Devil1976:Don't quite agree. Humans don't always work in a systematic and logical manner. -
Originally posted by bjork:i didnt say this is wat i will do, i meant is when both are in love its a two way thing.. Definitely one is gving more but its doesnt mean the other party is not giving too right?
if the partner is shower his/her love with all the care & love he could give. But yet the partner took it for granted then its not a two way thing.
Unless ur a taker and only knows how to take, if not u wont have the thinking tt i'm talking abt myself. I thought that's what ya said in plain English in your earlier post? Maybe I'm losing my frequency with humans again...? -
i will say in the the most simple way i can say.Originally posted by Devil1976: I thought that's what ya said in plain English in your earlier post? Maybe I'm losing my frequency with humans again...?
i directly pointing to u tt i think ur a plain taker thats why u dun think tt takers can give too.
Watever i said comes together quoting my words simply breaking up my meaning. -
Cannot say tat dun treat ur gf too well, but oso cant treat her too gd too... Im a ger, somebody's gf too, so i noe. U haf 2 limit loh... Not onli applies 2 gfs lah. I tink gers wil oso tink tat they cant treat their bfs too gd too, scared they may take e gers 4 granted...
Same concept applies 2 everyone, regardless of guys or gers... Humans r all e same loh... Everyone haf 2 learn how 2 gif n take...