in a Fix
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so it goes like this... befriended this girl online who soon became the love of my life. she ain't the prettiest thing around but, we share a lot in common. i believe that in a relationship communication is important, and we had that going. she came over to my place one day, brought fruits and tibits for my mum out of courtesy. mum thinks differently form me... she felt that she's not my type, and goes on to say that i've got bad taste... to like someone bigger and fatter than me. in a physical sense, she's fat, yeah, i can't deny that. but ain't love and matters of the heart suppose to transcend physicality and it's aspects? ultimately, loving someone for their looks often results in "broken down" relationship (that's what i think).
now i'm in a fix...
should i continue to see her...
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Go where your heart takes u.
If u love her, prove to your mum it is love, not look that u r after. One day, she will understand
One day...
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u're the one gotta be with her, not your mum.
speak to your mum more often to tell her what and why you like about her. -
Originally posted by www:u're the one gotta be with her, not your mum.
speak to your mum more often to tell her what and why you like about her.
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continue the relationship.
it's YOU who r in the relationship and not ur mom! u cant just live by ur mom's words. u and ur gf should work towards gaining ur mom's acceptance instead of just forsaking it like that. -
ok...u r 18 this yr going to be 19. unless she is very very fat, if not y not go gain some weight for yourself too. is she very much taller than u? if within the range of 5cm difference is still acceptable for most ppl. does she have feelings for u too? if so dun give up so soon because of such a small problem. if she is a likable person(which i think so buy stuff go visit your house), then it shouldn't be a problem b4 your mum can accept her also. anyway u r still young, she might not be your wife yet u noe.Originally posted by k_the_wind_up_bird:
so it goes like this... befriended this girl online who soon became the love of my life. she ain't the prettiest thing around but, we share a lot in common. i believe that in a relationship communication is important, and we had that going. she came over to my place one day, brought fruits and tibits for my mum out of courtesy. mum thinks differently form me... she felt that she's not my type, and goes on to say that i've got bad taste... to like someone bigger and fatter than me. in a physical sense, she's fat, yeah, i can't deny that. but ain't love and matters of the heart suppose to transcend physicality and it's aspects? ultimately, loving someone for their looks often results in "broken down" relationship (that's what i think).
now i'm in a fix...
should i continue to see her...
i fear that she gets hurt further... -
i see. well, sometimes i imagine myself in her shoes, and i do think it's really painful taking criticisms like these (on her looks and all). mum's basis for saying things like that is that, we're young and wouldn't, at this point in time know we're made for one another. and besides, being emotionally and physically close... what if comes a day someone better comes along for her or for me? it'll be more hurtful to break up then. well... that's her perspectives on things and sometimes i consider what she says and i get confused.
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Originally posted by k_the_wind_up_bird:
I think u shld know where u stand rather than let your mother wash your brain like that. As they say, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and i dont think there's ever one person who can pleases everyone lor. If u really love her, u should stick with her thruout and see if this relationship can bloom.
i see. well, sometimes i imagine myself in her shoes, and i do think it's really painful taking criticisms like these (on her looks and all). mum's basis for saying things like that is that, we're young and wouldn't, at this point in time know we're made for one another. and besides, being emotionally and physically close... what if comes a day someone better comes along for her or for me? it'll be more hurtful to break up then. well... that's her perspectives on things and sometimes i consider what she says and i get confused.
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Relationships not based on looks will last
prove ur mum wrong -
Originally posted by k_the_wind_up_bird:
think your mum a bit old-fashioned. we live in the 21st century and this might be the last century of the human species. come on man. this type of thing must try try 1 mah.....hurt break might be inevitable but it's the lessons/experiences learnt, and makes u grow as a person. someone comes along, dump her loh. or maybe she might dump u. this type of thing bo bian 1 mah.....see drama shows also noe liao mah
i see. well, sometimes i imagine myself in her shoes, and i do think it's really painful taking criticisms like these (on her looks and all). mum's basis for saying things like that is that, we're young and wouldn't, at this point in time know we're made for one another. and besides, being emotionally and physically close... what if comes a day someone better comes along for her or for me? it'll be more hurtful to break up then. well... that's her perspectives on things and sometimes i consider what she says and i get confused.
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Originally posted by k_the_wind_up_bird:
so it goes like this... befriended this girl online who soon became the love of my life. she ain't the prettiest thing around but, we share a lot in common. i believe that in a relationship communication is important, and we had that going. she came over to my place one day, brought fruits and tibits for my mum out of courtesy. mum thinks differently form me... she felt that she's not my type, and goes on to say that i've got bad taste... to like someone bigger and fatter than me. in a physical sense, she's fat, yeah, i can't deny that. but ain't love and matters of the heart suppose to transcend physicality and it's aspects? ultimately, loving someone for their looks often results in "broken down" relationship (that's what i think).
now i'm in a fix...
should i continue to see her...
i fear that she gets hurt further... Don't bother about the preception of your parents until you both could see the future of being together in marriage. (Which will take a hell long period before that could ever happen).
So now just worried about how you are going to handle and maintain your relation. Your parents ain't leading them for you.
P.S: Believe in yourself - You only need that to be a happier man.
Cheers -
I know many people would like to think of this as a relationship between you and her rather than your mum and her. But ultimately, you would also depends on how far you see this relationship would go? If your mum is a vital part of your life, and both of them spells thorns for each other... It's gonna take a little figuring out? You can either try convincing your mum or letting your mum convince you?
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u shd really decide it urself... if u think that ur mom's words has some truth in a certain way, then probably u shd think twice abt her advice ...
talking abt looks, i think it shd really depends on ur own preference... u shd not feel that looks are not important just because everybody says that true love shdn't depends on looks...if not u're just deceiving urself... physical attraction do have certain importance in a relationship for most people...
if u truely feel that u could go beyond the layer of skin and love that girl for wat she is...then go for it! -
Dear bird,Originally posted by k_the_wind_up_bird:
so it goes like this... befriended this girl online who soon became the love of my life. she ain't the prettiest thing around but, we share a lot in common. i believe that in a relationship communication is important, and we had that going. she came over to my place one day, brought fruits and tibits for my mum out of courtesy. mum thinks differently form me... she felt that she's not my type, and goes on to say that i've got bad taste... to like someone bigger and fatter than me. in a physical sense, she's fat, yeah, i can't deny that. but ain't love and matters of the heart suppose to transcend physicality and it's aspects? ultimately, loving someone for their looks often results in "broken down" relationship (that's what i think).
now i'm in a fix...
should i continue to see her...
i fear that she gets hurt further...
months ago i had exactly the same problem as you. My mom dun seems to accept her as there's some age difference between me and her. She sometimes will bad mouth my gf and sometimes my mom and i will just flare up and quarrel. But after awhile, my mom starts to accept her since i bring her to my house more often and since den my gf and her starts to chat more.
Conversation with your mom is equally important as to your gf.
But whats the meaing of "should i continue to see her" means? You mean if your mom dun accept her, den u are gonna forsake your gf? I agree the point where loving a person doesnt transcend to physical appearance. But a relationship is not easy to be created, and thus treasure it while you can.
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give up somebody u like jz bcos ur mum dun like? u still need mummy to help u tie shoelaces? dun let ur mum run ur relationship, especially she mind on looks... continue wif ur relationship, n prove to ur mum tat it will work n tat u r right...
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But then again u noe
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go for it man.. since u said she bcame the ger of ya life..
well if u two bcom lovers.. pls pls.. dun force her to b slim.. i think u shd like her as wad she was.. i rem my ex bf.. force me to be as skinny as bamboo as he is.. n i was so stoopid enuff to listen to him n cause harm to my body..
ate slimmin pills la.. drink slimmin tea n cause my body system to go haywire..
maybe u gain some weight too accomodate her n maybe engage in activities which can burn calories one..