My crazy father of mine.
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Hi guys, I hope you guys could give a advice or something about this....
It actually began like this. My mother took care of my fathe's mother for 10 years already. she was paralysed and my mother took the pain to take care of her. After my grandma died, my father suddenly change. When his sons are sick, he bo chap, pretending by acting blur or just walk away. My mother took the pain of working full time and bring me to see the doctor. My father now keep blaming everyone in the house and keep scolding my poor mother "You BITCH!"
Like yesterday incident, my mother is going to make some prayers for me. she is unsure which direction is north and I can't go down due to religious practice. I approached my father and seek his help to go down with my mother. My father scolded my mother "You Stupid Fool!!! You BITCH!!!" My mother was so angry and in the end my brother went down with her. My father keep saying everyone in the house dun like him and want to sabo him, make "Kong KAo" on him. He say my mother due to religious supertitions caused my father to have trouble paying the house rent.
My father last time earn 2.63K plus and never give a single cent to my poor mother. Only give her bloody hell $600 to feed 4 people in the house and still her "BITCH!" .My mother suspect my father is having an affair outside because he always bo chap about family isuses. My mother married my father for 30 years plus already and my father never bought my mother even a single candy or clothing. There was one time my mother told me that there was a very fierce woman who called and said "You want to sell the house??? Want to sell? " in an angry tone like ah long type of tone.
Guys plkease give me dvice on wat to do? Should my mother just divorce him and just leave for good? -
Also, when we are in trouble, he will asked my mother to take money from my mother's sister. What kind of bloody father are you??? My friend's father fully paid the flat already and also send his son to university already.
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I am so sorry for your plight
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to ans ur qn....
if ur mother n the children can do it better off w/o him...y nt? -
Everclear - Father Of Mine
Father of mine
Tell me where have you been
You know I just closed my eyes
My whole world disappeared
Father of mine
Take me back to the day
When I was still your golden boy
Back before you went away
I remember the blue skies, walking the block
I loved it when you held me high
I loved to hear you talk
You would take me to the movie
You would tke me to the beach
Take me to a place inside that is so hard to reach
Father of mine
Tell me where did you go
You had the world inside your hand
But you did not seem to know
Father of mine
Tell me what do you see
When you look back at your wasted life and you don't see me
I was ten years old
Doing all that i could
It wasn't easy for me to be a scared white boy in a black neighborhood
Sometimes you would send me a birthday card
With a five dollar bill
I never understood you then and I guess I never will
Daddy gave me a name
My dad he gave me a name
Then he walked away
Daddy gave me a name
Then he walked away
My dad gave me a name
Father of mine
Tell me where have you been
I just closed my eyes
And the world disappeared
Father of mine
Tell me how do you sleep
With the children you abandoned
And the wife I saw you beat
I will never be safe
I will never be sane
I will always be weird inside
I will always be lame
Now I am a grown man
With a child of my own
And I swear I'm not going to let her know
All the pain I have known
Then he walked away
Daddy gave me a name
Then he walked away
My dad gave me a name
Then he walked away -
sorry to hear that...
if he doesnt support the family, y still bother abt him...?
yes, u shd be angry with his attitude, but maybe its time for u n your brother to work/study hard...and let your mum lead a life she shd be having....dont u think so..? -
i pity ur mum. poor lady.. i tik this kind of thing leave it to ur mum decide.. maybe ur mum love ur dad a lot and don intend to divorce him.. but whatever it is, hope u will take care of ur mum well as i tik she really suffer a lot..Originally posted by Sliderwkw:Hi guys, I hope you guys could give a advice or something about this....
It actually began like this. My mother took care of my fathe's mother for 10 years already. she was paralysed and my mother took the pain to take care of her. After my grandma died, my father suddenly change. When his sons are sick, he bo chap, pretending by acting blur or just walk away. My mother took the pain of working full time and bring me to see the doctor. My father now keep blaming everyone in the house and keep scolding my poor mother "You BITCH!"
Like yesterday incident, my mother is going to make some prayers for me. she is unsure which direction is north and I can't go down due to religious practice. I approached my father and seek his help to go down with my mother. My father scolded my mother "You Stupid Fool!!! You BITCH!!!" My mother was so angry and in the end my brother went down with her. My father keep saying everyone in the house dun like him and want to sabo him, make "Kong KAo" on him. He say my mother due to religious supertitions caused my father to have trouble paying the house rent.
My father last time earn 2.63K plus and never give a single cent to my poor mother. Only give her bloody hell $600 to feed 4 people in the house and still her "BITCH!" .My mother suspect my father is having an affair outside because he always bo chap about family isuses. My mother married my father for 30 years plus already and my father never bought my mother even a single candy or clothing. There was one time my mother told me that there was a very fierce woman who called and said "You want to sell the house??? Want to sell? " in an angry tone like ah long type of tone.
Guys plkease give me dvice on wat to do? Should my mother just divorce him and just leave for good?
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Hi... Are you currently serving your NS? What is your highest educational standard? How you fare in your academic performance? Which position are you in among your siblings?
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I am currently serving the NS. I had a few problems in my camp already and now have to think of all these family problems. I only got a diploma in Electronics, quite good at my studies. I love to study except that I currently dun have enough savings to further my studies and my health is bring me down. I decided to hold a computer job after I ORD.
I am so tired and helpless to all these problems. My mother took care of my father mother for 10Yeare. Wasting her youth and time and this is what she get. sometimes my mother argued with him about this and he said " dun worry, I will repay you" and words of "BITCH" is used to repay her. so what you guys think? Perfectly madness right?
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think he has a personality problem....you may want to consider bringing him to see a psychiatrist.....
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haf a fren's situation quite similar... father's a loafer, not working, even if got $ from some jobs oso wun give $ to mother, then constantly taking $ frm mother when she's working almost like 20 hrs a day to earn that measly amt of $$...
my fren's now paying for the flat using her cpf, and repaying all the debts they had borrowed, frm ah longs or frenz... then the father would just say that he'll help her...
her elder brother oso another one... working, but not providing for the home.. sigh... and her mother can't bear throwing them out of the house, so she bobianz, gotta yao ya qie chi...
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Now my mother is currently part time and my elder brother every month give her extra money for any daily necessities. Also new year is coming soon and my mother haven't receive any money from my father yet.
Then something weird is that, he kept saying "Own people sabo own people" . And then, always say "My friend say" "My friend say". I am wondering who is his bloody friend. My father wanted my brother to fully support the housing loan so he can bo chap liao. But my brother have his own career, his own plans. Also due to my father action in spending the $10K from the sale of house. The housing loan interest rose too much. He wan my brother to take over the debt. Now it is useless to talk to him nicely, he seems like ahving a mental block or something, nothing goes in only his own bloody belief. -
i think ur father is not a manOriginally posted by Sliderwkw:Now my mother is currently part time and my elder brother every month give her extra money for any daily necessities. Also new year is coming soon and my mother haven't receive any money from my father yet.
Then something weird is that, he kept saying "Own people sabo own people" . And then, always say "My friend say" "My friend say". I am wondering who is his bloody friend. My father wanted my brother to fully support the housing loan so he can bo chap liao. But my brother have his own career, his own plans. Also due to my father action in spending the $10K from the sale of house. The housing loan interest rose too much. He wan my brother to take over the debt. Now it is useless to talk to him nicely, he seems like ahving a mental block or something, nothing goes in only his own bloody belief.
....wan to married oso he....now dun take care of family.....sighzz..sorry for being blunt.. to mi if i got married welfare of comes first..aiya next time u ord already find a decent move out fr ur hm wit ur mom n elder brother lor heck care ur daddy.. but for fillial sake give him some allowances lor cos he is still ur daddy... 
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Survive, get on your feet mate. And move out, take your family along with you. Or get rid of your father, put him in a home. It is important to get your own place in your name, or arrange to get rid of him.
However, if things get desperate, you and your family are to not complain publically about him ever. This must be carried out for months, when the time is right, you have to get rid of him.... you get my meaning? And do it properly.
I strongly suggest the 1st step, it is safer and more easier. -
Chebye, tonight my mum just ask him to buy some satay for us. He came back and my mum already open the door lock already. He just need to open the door. New Year day is coming, he refuses to give any money and even spit my mother and say that he spit at her to give her bad luck.
I dunno what to do, pls advise. I am really hated this family. I had enough problems in camp and yet I have such stupid problems at home. 
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be strong and hang in there. do share ur problems with ur close friends and allow them to help you.Originally posted by Sliderwkw:Chebye, tonight my mum just ask him to buy some satay for us. He came back and my mum already open the door lock already. He just need to open the door. New Year day is coming, he refuses to give any money and even spit my mother and say that he spit at her to give her bad luck.
I dunno what to do, pls advise. I am really hated this family. I had enough problems in camp and yet I have such stupid problems at home. 
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I dun have much close friends, all my friends all making use of me. They probably will be smiling away at my present situation.
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dun say liddat... i am sure there are friends out there who undersatnd your plight and understand u too... just take a bit of time to find them.Originally posted by Sliderwkw:I dun have much close friends, all my friends all making use of me. They probably will be smiling away at my present situation.
Cheers
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what religion do ur mum believe in?
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How many of you are currently staying in the house? Can your mother receive some support from the temple or church that she goes to? Who has paid for the flat up to this point?
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don't be so stressed up... keep cool... observe...Originally posted by Sliderwkw:I dun have much close friends, all my friends all making use of me. They probably will be smiling away at my present situation.
sometimes things are there or happen for a reason, which only time will tell...
so as long as no drastic events happen, action is not required.
*touch wood*
anyway if divorce is the only way out, the judge and law will be on your mom's side... under the women's charter act. -
Tell u what... u have to support ur mum in whatever she do. I believe that she is enduring this crap from ur dad because of her children. Go talk to your mum more often and understand her. She definitely deserve the support from her children. As for your dad, u might have to endure this crap till you are more independent to support ur mum and family.
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Get new friends, expand your life style... You're not a turtle. Don't have to remain in a shell.Originally posted by Sliderwkw:I dun have much close friends, all my friends all making use of me. They probably will be smiling away at my present situation. -
sighz... there are just from guys that can be like that one lah....do that whether u think is right lor... just do it lah..... can call those family program hotline lah. go CDC find should have some lah....
Moral of the story? gals.. remember to open your eyes big big when i choose your husband ok?? dun rush...