I just don't get it......

• duotiga83

  1 Jan 04, 20:43

  nowadays eversince 1st bk out, there is bound to have small quarrel with my mom......
• thhong22

  1 Jan 04, 20:44

  hmmm..... wat happen???
• the Bear

  1 Jan 04, 20:44

  slowly, she has to let go... but she does not want to?
  
  so she pick a fight with you?
  
  or the other way around? you're cutting the apronstrings.. she's resisting, so you pick a fight with her?
• wuming78

  1 Jan 04, 20:49

  time to sit down and haf a heart to heart talk.
• icedworld

  1 Jan 04, 20:52

  I hate my family a lot..hate my dad...hate my sis..hate my mom..i always have to rush back home after sch to do the hsework...n when i never do anything proprely...mom wills cold me stupid..useless.hurts me lots..mu sis often againist me..coz of their jeaoulsy...i can't get a hp... always telling my mom things n i ended up being scolded everytime..dad always cum home from work..sit at the sofa, watch tv..never even help mom cook dinner..he think he is the onli on who is tired.. my mom also cum back from work n cook mahz...i always help the family do hsework every single day! They never even say a thank u..i have to pack the hse too...when they lose their things or can't find, they pushes the blame to me...worst still, they dun allow me go out...wad is this man...juz dun get it...even if go out, onli can go tm...the rest of the place..forget it...real sad...always cope up at home..now..lonliess has becum a frenz of mine...i live in a world of my own...
• wuming78

  1 Jan 04, 20:56

  Originally posted by icedworld:

  I hate my family a lot..hate my dad...hate my sis..hate my mom..i always have to rush back home after sch to do the hsework...n when i never do anything proprely...mom wills cold me stupid..useless.hurts me lots..mu sis often againist me..coz of their jeaoulsy...i can't get a hp... always telling my mom things n i ended up being scolded everytime..dad always cum home from work..sit at the sofa, watch tv..never even help mom cook dinner..he think he is the onli on who is tired.. my mom also cum back from work n cook mahz...i always help the family do hsework every single day! They never even say a thank u..i have to pack the hse too...when they lose their things or can't find, they pushes the blame to me...worst still, they dun allow me go out...wad is this man...juz dun get it...even if go out, onli can go tm...the rest of the place..forget it...real sad...always cope up at home..now..lonliess has becum a frenz of mine...i live in a world of my own...

  do u realli hate them?
  at least u stil feel tt ur mom comes back from work and still cooks for the family.
  is there realli nothing worth remembering and loving about in ur family?
  
• jolin80

  1 Jan 04, 21:22

  just dun bother so much
  i experience it b4
  i hate my families so much tt
  i dun communicate wif them
  alway stay in my room.....
  
• duotiga83

  1 Jan 04, 21:25

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  slowly, she has to let go... but she does not want to?
  
  so she pick a fight with you?
  
  or the other way around? you're cutting the apronstrings.. she's resisting, so you pick a fight with her?

  She said i nvr did my job at hme.....always wanted to stay n use my computer.....
  
  i told my mom i go myself to look for the unit i posted to but she iniststed that she wants to go wif mi....
  
  in th eend, her leg pain push all blame to mi.....
• weidev

  1 Jan 04, 21:27

  Originally posted by jolin80:

  just dun bother so much
  i experience it b4
  i hate my families so much tt
  i dun communicate wif them
  alway stay in my room.....
  

  i believe tat alot of us goes through this phrase too...
  but gradually... u will adopt the "tat's life" attitude... instead of just complaining... u can make ur life more exciting ma... i don ne hw la... but think carefully and u will find out...
• antoh

  1 Jan 04, 21:31

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  She said i nvr did my job at hme.....always wanted to stay n use my computer.....
  
  i told my mom i go myself to look for the unit i posted to but she iniststed that she wants to go wif mi....
  
  in th eend, her leg pain push all blame to mi.....

  no choice .. this is what my mum complains. but something son has to do. try to listen to her whenever you can.
  
  you must understand .. most of the time dad is working so no one is at home. so your mum has no one to complain about her work or housework .. about her friends and other stuff ... so son is the most approipate person.
  
  i m listening to my mum. she love me very much ... keke
• wuming78

  1 Jan 04, 21:40

  i still come back to the same...
  
  tt in the end family is the closest to u, and it matters most.
  
  despite all the bickerings and arguments, im sure our parents haf our welfare in their hearts, and hence 2383, ur mother wanted to accompany u to look for ur unit. complain to u abt her leg pain? its as was mentioned - she prob has no one else to complain to. although it sounds like ur mum refuse to let go even though u haf grown up, im sure she loves u in her heart, though she might refuse to verbalise it and instead try to "act tough" wif her words.
  
  treasure wat u haf when they r ard, esp those tt r closest to u. when they r gone, it will be too late...
• duotiga83

  1 Jan 04, 21:45

  You all are right in some sense....but my mom got the habit of creating small quarrel and even though i explain to her, she always thought that everything she says is right all the time......
• wuming78

  1 Jan 04, 21:49

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  You all are right in some sense....but my mom got the habit of creating small quarrel and even though i explain to her, she always thought that everything she says is right all the time......

  try not to be forced into her quarrels e.g. when its coming, go away, or refuse to respond?
  
  i wonder if its her character.. but i do think she shudnt be so domineering over u at ur age. perhaps she lacked security, and wants to retain tt sense of control over wat she can?
• duotiga83

  1 Jan 04, 21:56

  Originally posted by wuming78:

  try not to be forced into her quarrels e.g. when its coming, go away, or refuse to respond?
  
  i wonder if its her character.. but i do think she shudnt be so domineering over u at ur age. perhaps she lacked security, and wants to retain tt sense of control over wat she can?

  1 thing she like to complain to is i always listen to my friends and not her......
• wuming78

  1 Jan 04, 21:59

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  1 thing she like to complain to is i always listen to my friends and not her......

  i think u will be able to decide the best course of action, but i do think there is a need for communication betw the 2 of u - to tell her wat u feel, to listen to wat she feels.
  
  some parents canot let go of their kids no matter how old they r. there is a need for them to face the reality tt their kids will grow up and when tt happens, they will start to haf their own ideas and ways of doing things. its called respect.
• NeonTetra

  1 Jan 04, 22:17

  stay cool...
• nww16

  1 Jan 04, 23:05

  Originally posted by icedworld:

  I hate my family a lot..hate my dad...hate my sis..hate my mom..i always have to rush back home after sch to do the hsework...n when i never do anything proprely...mom wills cold me stupid..useless.hurts me lots..mu sis often againist me..coz of their jeaoulsy...i can't get a hp... always telling my mom things n i ended up being scolded everytime..dad always cum home from work..sit at the sofa, watch tv..never even help mom cook dinner..he think he is the onli on who is tired.. my mom also cum back from work n cook mahz...i always help the family do hsework every single day! They never even say a thank u..i have to pack the hse too...when they lose their things or can't find, they pushes the blame to me...worst still, they dun allow me go out...wad is this man...juz dun get it...even if go out, onli can go tm...the rest of the place..forget it...real sad...always cope up at home..now..lonliess has becum a frenz of mine...i live in a world of my own...

  so sad ar u...
  try to tok to them lorx if cannot rebel lah.. kiddin onli
  
• WrX_STi

  2 Jan 04, 02:23

  mayb inside camp too long.. too long nv hear ur mum make noise den when u home will find it irritated very easily lor..
  
  aniwae.. i belief every mum do care abt their sons/daughter.. post to wad unit ur mum acc u coz she is worry abt u mah.. den leg pain let her complain and juz ask her feeling ok anot lor right.. sometimes think carefully, our attitude oso pose some problems between communication breakdown of parents and children..
  
  treasure dem b4 its too late.. =)
• Bontakun

  2 Jan 04, 09:00

  Originally posted by icedworld:

  I hate my family a lot..hate my dad...hate my sis..hate my mom..i always have to rush back home after sch to do the hsework...n when i never do anything proprely...mom wills cold me stupid..useless.hurts me lots..mu sis often againist me..coz of their jeaoulsy...i can't get a hp... always telling my mom things n i ended up being scolded everytime..dad always cum home from work..sit at the sofa, watch tv..never even help mom cook dinner..he think he is the onli on who is tired.. my mom also cum back from work n cook mahz...i always help the family do hsework every single day! They never even say a thank u..i have to pack the hse too...when they lose their things or can't find, they pushes the blame to me...worst still, they dun allow me go out...wad is this man...juz dun get it...even if go out, onli can go tm...the rest of the place..forget it...real sad...always cope up at home..now..lonliess has becum a frenz of mine...i live in a world of my own...

  Wow... can feel yr hatred... U r now entering teenage life rite...? Coz very seldom parents will "confine" their kid when da kids r "old" enuf...
  
  I have my own fair share of "problems" wif my family... I only see them once a week or a forthnite. & I dun speak to my pops more than a sentence unless he asked me smth.
  
  As for my mum, wat she asked of me... I do. My brother? Wat he ask me to do, I oso do... But later disturb him lah (body splash him while he on my bed)
  
  I do not noe wat WILL happen if I was in yr shoes at dat age. All I do noe is: when some1 grows up, they mature slowly bit by bit. They start to learn & be aware of da things happening ard them. For now U may hate them... but in da near future, U may tink otherwise.
  
  Juz take dis as a learning experience... so dat when U have a family of yr own, u sure dun wan yr children to hate u, rite?
  
  FUMO!!!
• duotiga83

  3 Jan 04, 20:53

  nw is like i am so stress out that sometimes she ask mi do things i nvr do properly and kanna scolded nw and then....juz nw also...just bcos i keep my stuffs and i didn't keep her stuffs outside the window....
• wuming78

  3 Jan 04, 20:55

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  nw is like i am so stress out that sometimes she ask mi do things i nvr do properly and kanna scolded nw and then....juz nw also...just bcos i keep my stuffs and i didn't keep her stuffs outside the window....

  hm.. dunno.. in tt case, settle ur own stress sources first. den try to talk to her?
• duotiga83

  3 Jan 04, 20:57

  Originally posted by wuming78:

  hm.. dunno.. in tt case, settle ur own stress sources first. den try to talk to her?

  nw she was so pissed off that she don't want mi as her son......2dae i am not really myself 2dae.......
• wuming78

  3 Jan 04, 21:00

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  nw she was so pissed off that she don't want mi as her son......2dae i am not really myself 2dae.......

  wat could piss her off so badly??
  
  ok lah. im sure she jus at the top of her temper now.. jus let her cool down first...