Continue to sound her. If not, let her burn her hands.Originally posted by MooKu:Erm... well hmm how should I put this...
Being the poor youngest child alone with mom at home most of the time, her troubles sort of become mine too. The relationship between my mom and my dad isn't good, and in a way, I bear most, if not all, of all my mom's troubles.
The family's financial situation became rather poor after my dad's business flipped in 1998. He stopped giving my mom the family allowance, and my mom didn't ask either, and I think that was because my dad would either grumble or something.
My mom is a hawker and her stall hasn't been doing well. She actually told me that nowadays, she doesn't exactly bother to do the accounts properly or regularly, simply because business isn't good.
Hence, she doesn't even know if she's been making profits or losses.
Now, my mom's mom, who is my grandmother, has some money with my mom. Actually my grandmother gives my mom money for safekeeping once in a while.
Recently, I observed that my mom has been using that money from my grandmother, on the pretext of "I'll use it to pay off the money for the goods first."
And a few days ago, she asked me if there were any websites where we could observe the stock market ourselves because she was hoping to invest in stocks to gain some money for supplement of income.
She had actually consulted some of my aunts and uncles before, but all of them gave similar replies, saying that the stock market isn't anything she should be involved in, and that there are better ways of earning more money.
Now what I think is this:
1) She should NOT be using my grandmother's money to pay off the costs of the goods. It's like running away from the problem, perhaps thinking that the situation will turn for the better before the money's used up.
2) Instead of dabbling in stocks, again, a resolution must be found for the problem, and I had asked her to look around for a job before. She always claims that she has been looking for a job, and whenever I try to pop the issue, she'd snap back at me that it's not easy for people her age to find jobs nowadays. While this might hold some truth, I do not believe that she has been making an effort to look for a job, at least not enough, because I don't see my mom going anywhere other than to her stall and back home, where besides doing housework, she watches TV all day long and complains she's tired when she hasn't done much.Also, I'd tried asking her to apply for the school canteen stalls, but she always says that she wouldn't want to have a stall if the location is too far. In my opinion, the cost of travelling is not such a big problem if she DOES manage to get a stall in a school, given that there is a large number of potential customers there.
I'm totally at a loss now. I don't what to do, because whatever suggestions I try to give my mom, she gives me some stupid excuse and starts to sound very irritated. I understand that her mood isn't good either, given that her business isn't doing well and the family's financial situation hasn't got any better.
I always give my mom a listening ear... But she just doesn't want to listen to what suggestions I have for her. Neither is she willing to heed my/others advice.
Help.
I cannot let her lose the money in stocks. We can't afford to lose. I've been telling her to look for another job for more than a year already! Her business has been doing very badly since then.Originally posted by Bontakun:Continue to sound her. If not, let her burn her hands.
Until then... keep telling her. Muz be persistant or else smth bad will happen... best is ask some1 who, she listens to help u too.
There r all kinds of ppl in da world... from wat u describe, yr mum is kinda stubborn. Suggest u find some1 to help u too. best show her living example of some1 who did wat she attempt to do & fail. once she see dat, she may tink thrice.Originally posted by MooKu:I cannot let her lose the money in stocks. We can't afford to lose. I've been telling her to look for another job for more than a year already! Her business has been doing very badly since then.
I agree she is stubborn... but I believe she has seen or read about such examples already... People who commit suicide after losing it all in the stock market.. It's all over the place, even in drama serials... She keeps saying that she wants to buy them so that she can supplement the family income.. I understand her concerns but this just isn't the right method. There are so many other better and safer alternatives.Originally posted by Bontakun:There r all kinds of ppl in da world... from wat u describe, yr mum is kinda stubborn. Suggest u find some1 to help u too. best show her living example of some1 who did wat she attempt to do & fail. once she see dat, she may tink thrice.
I can't think of anyone.Originally posted by weeeeeee.....:speaking out of my own experience, u need a third party to convince her.
this 3rd party must be someone she likes a lot or respect a lot, e.g. ur gf, the pastor fom church (if u r a christian), the monk from a temple (if she's a buddhist and goes to temple often), etc...
if there's such a person, approach him or her for help...
Best is yr brother noes da situation & can control temper wor...Originally posted by MooKu:I can't think of anyone.
My mom's friends.. nope. My family... nope. Ah maybe my brother. Makes sense. She always favors my brother alot. Hmmm. I'll wait till my bro comes home.
Originally posted by MooKu:I agree she is stubborn... but I believe she has seen or read about such examples already... People who commit suicide after losing it all in the stock market.. It's all over the place, even in drama serials... She keeps saying that she wants to buy them so that she can supplement the family income.. I understand her concerns but this just isn't the right method. There are so many other better and safer alternatives.
great! discuss wif ur brother, work out the best approach. i wish u the best.Originally posted by MooKu:I can't think of anyone.
My mom's friends.. nope. My family... nope. Ah maybe my brother. Makes sense. She always favors my brother alot. Hmmm. I'll wait till my bro comes home.
She wants to buy stocks, and keeps having the view in mind that she will definitely earn from it...Originally posted by s|nNeD:hmmm but then again... maybe your mum wants to invest and not dabble in the shares market...
there's a diff you know.
but watever the case, all the best in persuading your mum out of it.![]()
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Originally posted by MooKu:Erm... well hmm how should I put this...
Being the poor youngest child alone with mom at home most of the time, her troubles sort of become mine too. The relationship between my mom and my dad isn't good, and in a way, I bear most, if not all, of all my mom's troubles.
The family's financial situation became rather poor after my dad's business flipped in 1998. He stopped giving my mom the family allowance, and my mom didn't ask either, and I think that was because my dad would either grumble or something.
My mom is a hawker and her stall hasn't been doing well. She actually told me that nowadays, she doesn't exactly bother to do the accounts properly or regularly, simply because business isn't good.
Hence, she doesn't even know if she's been making profits or losses.
Now, my mom's mom, who is my grandmother, has some money with my mom. Actually my grandmother gives my mom money for safekeeping once in a while.
Recently, I observed that my mom has been using that money from my grandmother, on the pretext of "I'll use it to pay off the money for the goods first."
And a few days ago, she asked me if there were any websites where we could observe the stock market ourselves because she was hoping to invest in stocks to gain some money for supplement of income.
She had actually consulted some of my aunts and uncles before, but all of them gave similar replies, saying that the stock market isn't anything she should be involved in, and that there are better ways of earning more money.
Now what I think is this:
1) She should NOT be using my grandmother's money to pay off the costs of the goods. It's like running away from the problem, perhaps thinking that the situation will turn for the better before the money's used up.
2) Instead of dabbling in stocks, again, a resolution must be found for the problem, and I had asked her to look around for a job before. She always claims that she has been looking for a job, and whenever I try to pop the issue, she'd snap back at me that it's not easy for people her age to find jobs nowadays. While this might hold some truth, I do not believe that she has been making an effort to look for a job, at least not enough, because I don't see my mom going anywhere other than to her stall and back home, where besides doing housework, she watches TV all day long and complains she's tired when she hasn't done much.Also, I'd tried asking her to apply for the school canteen stalls, but she always says that she wouldn't want to have a stall if the location is too far. In my opinion, the cost of travelling is not such a big problem if she DOES manage to get a stall in a school, given that there is a large number of potential customers there.
I'm totally at a loss now. I don't what to do, because whatever suggestions I try to give my mom, she gives me some stupid excuse and starts to sound very irritated. I understand that her mood isn't good either, given that her business isn't doing well and the family's financial situation hasn't got any better.
I always give my mom a listening ear... But she just doesn't want to listen to what suggestions I have for her. Neither is she willing to heed my/others advice.
Help.
Personally, this is what I think.Originally posted by MooKu:She wants to buy stocks, and keeps having the view in mind that she will definitely earn from it...
I'll talk to my brother later..
Thanks folks