Agony..
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I'm in love with two guys. I'm guilty, but i cant help myself.
They're so different, both of them simpy attact me.
Both treat me real well. I wonder how long i can i hold on before i break down.
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True love stands through the test of time.
Be truthful to yourself as you develop the friendship between you and them.
Once you get to know them better, the choice will be easier.
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sigh..sometimes when love hit u hard, its difficult to be sober.Originally posted by sillyme:True love stands through the test of time.
Be truthful to yourself as you develop the friendship between you and them.
Once you get to know them better, the choice will be easier.
Time is wat i'm afraid, the longer the time i spend with either of them, the more breathless i get.
The deeper i fall. -
har?
yr bf leh? -
ya one is one bf lor... other is erm.. third party?
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Tell us more we help you to analyseOriginally posted by bjork:I'm in love with two guys. I'm guilty, but i cant help myself.
They're so different, both of them simpy attact me.
Both treat me real well. I wonder how long i can i hold on before i break down. -
eh.. wat u wanna know? I really dam* distract & restless. Dunno wat to say also...Originally posted by FreeToFly:Tell us more we help you to analyse -
since you chose your bf.. thn why got 3rd party?Originally posted by bjork:ya one is one bf lor... other is erm.. third party?
hua xin?
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Hey! It's a good opportunity to learn balancing!
Find it tiring? Then concentrate on one.
Trying to master balancing on both 'boats', you may end up drowning. Not the time to describe your agony, you have made the choice. They'll be in worse agony if they discover that the gal they like can't decide who her heart beats for. -
Originally posted by bjork:I'm in love with two guys. I'm guilty, but i cant help myself.
They're so different, both of them simpy attact me.
Both treat me real well. I wonder how long i can i hold on before i break down. 
Spare a minute in not lookng at these guys - instead search inside and reflect upon your needs and wants. Do not look upon love as love - consider other factors that could contribute positive effect to long-term relationship (If that is what you are looking for). In the end, you would find that one of them is more suitable for you.
Treating a girl well are techniques for the Chase. You may revel in the pleasure of being shower care upon, but in the long run, you risk landing into a emotional crisis. Liking doesn't equate to suitability. Be decisive or avoid leading them on.
Cheers -
Who do you feel most comfortable with? Also, when you feel you need to talk to someone, share your happiness with someone, who do you think first?
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To bjork,
I am somewhat in the same situation as you are in but I am more of the third party part...All I can say is yo choose the one which your heart tells you too..or just choose the one which you feel that you are happiest with, or the one which you will feel warmth and love when you are with him...
I am more of the emotional kind and you might be able to guess so from my answers... (I'm a Leo..weird huh?) Many of the people that I have come across always stress on being practical...but me? I believe in love unfortunately...
Anyway, no one should or will be able to direct you in choosing between the both of them except for yourself...
I may be wrong but that's just my two cents...
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how long u been wif ur current bf? ask urself can the third party give u a better relationship than the current one? do u bear to give up tis relationship for a new one?Originally posted by bjork:I'm in love with two guys. I'm guilty, but i cant help myself.
They're so different, both of them simpy attact me.
Both treat me real well. I wonder how long i can i hold on before i break down. -
Cos both of them are simply so different...
One is stable, those u wanna settle down with.
Other is so hyper fun lovely and romantic.. someone i love to be with & will neber be bored & he is definitely more appealling.
When two different ppl come into ur life u simply cant compare... -
Originally posted by bjork:Cos both of them are simply so different...
One is stable, those u wanna settle down with.
Other is so hyper fun lovely and romantic.. someone i love to be with & will neber be bored & he is definitely more appealling.
When two different ppl come into ur life u simply cant compare... Its often not with the guys that enters into your life - its about you. You don't know what you are looking for, yet you don't want to take the risk and decide.
In the end, only you will realise if this will bring about any good eventually.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Hi, would like to know what are the factors that can contribute positive effect to long term relationship. cheers! thanks Spare a minute in not lookng at these guys - instead search inside and reflect upon your needs and wants. Do not look upon love as love - [b]consider other factors that could contribute positive effect to long-term relationship (If that is what you are looking for). In the end, you would find that one of them is more suitable for you.
Treating a girl well are techniques for the Chase. You may revel in the pleasure of being shower care upon, but in the long run, you risk landing into a emotional crisis. Liking doesn't equate to suitability. Be decisive or avoid leading them on.
Cheers [/b] -
"it's all so quiet...it's all so still
it's all so peaceful until......"
You'd know the rest and how it goes -
A 'triangle' is usually a big 'no no' for a normal human's BGR relationship.Originally posted by bjork:Cos both of them are simply so different...
One is stable, those u wanna settle down with.
Other is so hyper fun lovely and romantic.. someone i love to be with & will neber be bored & he is definitely more appealling.
When two different ppl come into ur life u simply cant compare...
From a Devil's point of view, unless you can find a way to stabilise the '3 people relationship'... It'll usually means many hurt and emptiness in the end... And not all '3 people relationship' can be stabilised...
Like Yun has suggested, you must FIRST know what you want... Ideally you should also be 'fair' to the 2 other parties involved... Of course, I won't have much say in that... You can of course choose to do whatever you want but it'll usually easily be a 'cycle' in return....
My personal advice would be... Live a proper human's world? Personally, I don't think you're ready for all this... -
Currently you with which one... the stable one?Originally posted by bjork:Cos both of them are simply so different...
One is stable, those u wanna settle down with.
Other is so hyper fun lovely and romantic.. someone i love to be with & will neber be bored & he is definitely more appealling.
When two different ppl come into ur life u simply cant compare...
if so, why no take the fun one as just a friend you hang out with? -
kao, i dun even hav one...and u got 2...not fair
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There are two ways of looking at Love and generally we reflect subconsciously and consciously in our mind.Originally posted by tranquil2:Hi, would like to know what are the factors that can contribute positive effect to long term relationship. cheers! thanks Suggested by Third Law of Love: 'Though together, we chose our current relationship through our own personal and specific reasons.' - we, indeed, calulated certain strange aspects of a relationship that we derive and gain. We are together for 'unseen reasons.' Under the heart and mental calulation, we accept or reject. (Although this famous saying of 'I love you and there is no reason for it.' - being together in a relationship and loving a person is two different thing. You can love someone, but sometimes you exercise your free-will in not having a relationship with you because of this law.)
Common topic posted: You rather love or be loved? Its kinda obvious that people are calulating without them knowing. When is the last time when you did something for your bf/gf and felt unappreciated? We were told by countless of people and books saying that we should give without expecting anything in return - in life, probably yes. In love, it has to be mutual.
The elements we 'calulate and look for.' differs very much from people to people. Simple young love probably looks for plain puppy love happiness. As you age, you gain maturity and experience, you look for security of all aspect (Material fulfillments, character compatiability, etc) and so on.
The reason why am I explaining this is because we are together for a reason and therefore qualities displayed can be seen and spotted to influence positive effect on the relationship. Of course, everyone would say trust, honesty, blar blar blar; these are but the cusps of long term relationship. (To know more about these, I suggest you read Dummies for Relationship) To ensure a more fulfilling one, one must source for the core.
I) His/her own definition of love - how he/she looks at love in his own view and preception. (This is important to maintain relationship harmony. We cannot spend time looking at each other, instead we look together in one direction.)
II) The ample effort shown in relationship. (To work is to believe and is to improve. To slack in relationship is to slip in routine mode, is to get weaken through evironmental factors)
III) To acknowledge that every partner is different and that we must be adaptable to improve one another instead of sitting there and wait for people to suit to us. (We mould one another to be better eventually)
P.S: Not every partner we get are lifetime partners - in fact among the several, its only that one. Even so, these 'kicked-out.' candidates still have their reasons to be there in the first place. As we learn, we grow, we gain.
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Yun, u got spelling error...
*Compaitability* -
Bonta, u oso...Originally posted by Bontakun:Yun, u got spelling error...
*Compaitability*
it's compatibility... -
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