there's nothing wrong with guys lying..
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i feel damn hurt whn the girl i like said i lied alot to her... n broke off all relations with me... i lied to protect her feelings.. i lied to prevent quarrels.. (we were quarreling alot at tt time.. ) thn her close fren found out.. n alot of shit happened... i juz didnt want her to think so much so we can savage our friendship..
n now. 2 yrs of relationship gone... i nv even gave another girl another look for 2 yrs... thn tis happened... i felt like.. i put in so much n... .. .. . . . . -
sometimes, girls prefer the hard truth than white lies......
if u wanna lie, be prepared to lie for life......... -
One day, while a woodcutter was cutting a branch of a tree above a river, his axe fell into the river.
When he cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "Why are you crying?" The woodcutter replied that his axe has fallen into water, and he needed the axe to make his living. The Lord went down into the water and reappeared with a golden axe.
"Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.
The woodcutter replied, "No."
The Lord again went down and came up with a silver axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.
Again, the woodcutter replied, "No."
The Lord went down again and came up with an iron axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.
The woodcutter replied, "Yes."
The Lord was pleased with the man's honesty and gave him all three axes to keep, and the woodcutter went home happy. Some time later the woodcutter was walking with his wife along the riverbank, and his wife fell into the river.
When he cried out, the Lord again appeared and asked him, "Why are you crying?"
"Oh Lord, my wife has fallen into the water!"
The Lord went down into the water and came up with Jennifer Lopez.
"Is this your wife?" the Lord asked.
"Yes," cried the woodcutter.
The Lord was furious. "You lied! That is an untruth!"
The woodcutter replied, "Oh, forgive me, my Lord. It is a misunderstanding. You see, if I had said 'no' to Jennifer Lopez, You would have come up with Catherine Zeta-Jones. Then if I also said 'no' to her, you would have come up with my wife. Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me all three. Lord, I am a poor man, and am not able to take care of all three wives, so THAT'S why I said yes to Jennifer Lopez."
The moral of this story is: Whenever a man lies, it is for a good and
honorable reason, and for the benefit of others. That's our story, and we're sticking to it. -
Originally posted by www:One day, while a woodcutter was cutting a branch of a tree above a river, his axe fell into the river.
When he cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "Why are you crying?" The woodcutter replied that his axe has fallen into water, and he needed the axe to make his living. The Lord went down into the water and reappeared with a golden axe.
"Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.
The woodcutter replied, "No."
The Lord again went down and came up with a silver axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.
Again, the woodcutter replied, "No."
The Lord went down again and came up with an iron axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.
The woodcutter replied, "Yes."
The Lord was pleased with the man's honesty and gave him all three axes to keep, and the woodcutter went home happy. Some time later the woodcutter was walking with his wife along the riverbank, and his wife fell into the river.
When he cried out, the Lord again appeared and asked him, "Why are you crying?"
"Oh Lord, my wife has fallen into the water!"
The Lord went down into the water and came up with Jennifer Lopez.
"Is this your wife?" the Lord asked.
"Yes," cried the woodcutter.
The Lord was furious. "You lied! That is an untruth!"
The woodcutter replied, "Oh, forgive me, my Lord. It is a misunderstanding. You see, if I had said 'no' to Jennifer Lopez, You would have come up with Catherine Zeta-Jones. Then if I also said 'no' to her, you would have come up with my wife. Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me all three. Lord, I am a poor man, and am not able to take care of all three wives, so THAT'S why I said yes to Jennifer Lopez."
The moral of this story is: Whenever a man lies, it is for a good and
honorable reason, and for the benefit of others. That's our story, and we're sticking to it.
but if a white lie can save a relationship... i would do it... -
white lies help indeed. we do that all the time.Originally posted by torx:
but if a white lie can save a relationship... i would do it...
but it is not always the case that both parties deem the lies as white.
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Originally posted by torx:i feel damn hurt whn the girl i like said i lied alot to her... n broke off all relations with me... i lied to protect her feelings.. i lied to prevent quarrels.. (we were quarreling alot at tt time.. ) thn her close fren found out.. n alot of shit happened... i juz didnt want her to think so much so we can savage our friendship..
n now. 2 yrs of relationship gone... i nv even gave another girl another look for 2 yrs... thn tis happened... i felt like.. i put in so much n... .. .. . . . .
You cannot use white lie to make things easier especially if you know there are people who knows as well. It is like a time-bomb, ticking until one fine day matters blew up and got into her ears.
You can chose to keep mum about things that happened that only you know and if you knew that you were to say, things will blow up.
Learn to speak up or learn to avoid landing yourself in situation where you stand will be ambigious.
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let me ask u...how wld u feel if u found out tt ur partner was lying to u all the while instead?Originally posted by torx:i feel damn hurt whn the girl i like said i lied alot to her... n broke off all relations with me... i lied to protect her feelings.. i lied to prevent quarrels.. (we were quarreling alot at tt time.. ) thn her close fren found out.. n alot of shit happened... i juz didnt want her to think so much so we can savage our friendship..
n now. 2 yrs of relationship gone... i nv even gave another girl another look for 2 yrs... thn tis happened... i felt like.. i put in so much n... .. .. . . . .
do wat u 1 others to do to u... -
Ahhhh, we can see the guys for white lies, and gals for hard truth here.........
I am a guy, and personally, it doesnt hurt to lie for good intentions, but even then, dont do it all the time......bad for health -
I admit i do tell lie once in wa while to my gf.. but usually to plan for a surprise so before hand need to keep everything in wraps and then bo bian have to lie a bit here and there to hide the truth. sometimes.. women cant do without surprises also..
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gers are hard to sastify, sometime u lied to prevent a quarrel. when broke up, dey use dis case as an example to add oil on fire.
certain u lied, juz becoz u dun wan to offend her and u are stuck in between oso can cause outrage in gers.
i juz dun understand dem. and mayb there is no way to understand. -
dun lie... jus omitted some of the details...lie will always come back and hunt you...
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Between the devil and the deep blue sea eh?Originally posted by WrX_STi:gers are hard to sastify, sometime u lied to prevent a quarrel. when broke up, dey use dis case as an example to add oil on fire.
certain u lied, juz becoz u dun wan to offend her and u are stuck in between oso can cause outrage in gers.
i juz dun understand dem. and mayb there is no way to understand.
Sometimes I pleaded for the gals to let us guys off..... -
there is never a good reason to lie...
just a personal view to this.. -
sometimes it is better if both parties don tell lies be it white or black... be sincere to each other... if there is something u don wan her to noe... don bother lying bout it... it is better to let her noe... this way both of u can tackle the problem together and move on together...
for ur case... i am sure tat one day she will noe tat u lied out of ur love for her... but this incident will have a scar on ur relationship... be prepared to go all out to persue her again... chances r she will look on the bright side and forgive u... but she don noe hw to approach u and apologise to you... don ask for any apologies... accept her... if possible look to her friends for help... ask her friends to talk to her... to explain to her wat happened... if u had done nthing wrong... chances r both of u will reunite... gd luck... -
There is... & if da reason is BIG enuf for U to do so... then dis is a serious matter... THere r times I have to lie in order to make ppl less worried... then I try to settle it behind.Originally posted by the Bear:there is never a good reason to lie...
just a personal view to this..
But lying is NOT recommended. & mind u guys... if U do NOT cover up yr lies well... gonna get a BACK LASH. -
i don't and still get into crap.. but conscience is clear..
maybe i'm self-centred that wayOriginally posted by Bontakun:There is... & if da reason is BIG enuf for U to do so... then dis is a serious matter... THere r times I have to lie in order to make ppl less worried... then I try to settle it behind.
But lying is NOT recommended. & mind u guys... if U do NOT cover up yr lies well... gonna get a BACK LASH. -
paper cannot cover fire.
for ur info.
u can hide a wolf in a pack of sheeps.
but if u hide a pack of wolf with a few sheeps.
you r burning ur own finger.
lying to save a relaionship is just a quick fix.
it does not slove the core of the problem.
morally it is wrong to lie unless she/he appreciate it no matter it is a white or dark lie. -
x2Originally posted by Bontakun:There is... & if da reason is BIG enuf for U to do so... then dis is a serious matter... THere r times I have to lie in order to make ppl less worried... then I try to settle it behind.
But lying is NOT recommended. & mind u guys... if U do NOT cover up yr lies well... gonna get a BACK LASH.
If I dont lie to my mum, you will find me dead next moment, after getting much nagging from her........ -
No u r not... at least U stand firm... But mee diff, a Bonta noes how to squeeze da wae outta mess & regroup! Woo hoo!Originally posted by the Bear:i don't and still get into crap.. but conscience is clear..
maybe i'm self-centred that way
BUT still not recommended! -
Liew... how cld U do dat....? THough I some times do too... haiz... I have to sin a bit to make her less worried...Originally posted by laurence82:x2
If I dont lie to my mum, you will find me dead next moment, after getting much nagging from her........
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ExactlyOriginally posted by Bontakun:Liew... how cld U do dat....? THough I some times do too... haiz... I have to sin a bit to make her less worried...