how to understand each other better
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how to understand each other better
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communicate well? spend time together?Originally posted by antoh:how to understand each other better -
To understand one another better is not an overnight affair. It takes time, reponsibility, commitment and sincerity. It is a cultivation of the above mentioned.Originally posted by antoh:how to understand each other better
When me and my gf got together, we were miles apart. The only way we could communicate was thru icq and phone chat. It was very tough and we got into misunderstandings almost every other day. For 9 whole months i could not see her or get a chance to speak to her face to face. It felt horrible, simply terrible. I could not understand the pain she was going thru.
When I came back, we had a heart to heart talk. It was not smooth as one would think. We spent about a month going thru arguements and quarrels. It was a month full of pain and tears and not just for her but for me as well. Many times we nearly did not made up and ended it, but we hanged on.
Slowly, our feelings for each other matured and i can tell you now its very very stable. I think this is one of the best times of my life, knowing i found somebody i really love and so has she. Its a wonderful feeling and I hope you will realise your true love one day too.
All i can tell you is not to brood too much over it. Let nature take its course. I wish you the best of luck and that you achieve what you hope for. -
learn to listen and share things..Originally posted by antoh:how to understand each other better
unless the 2 of u open up your hearts, or else it's really hard to understand each other simply by observing and talking.
The real diff between communicating and talking is that communicating is a 2 way matters.. you share n listen at the same time. but talking is simply 1 way.... -
communication...Originally posted by antoh:how to understand each other better -
x2Originally posted by ^mm^:communication...
try must nt give up... -
not just communicating as in talking... must keep an open mind about ideas that differ from yours.... cos its easy to talk.... but people, not just couples, make the mistake of always dismissing a contrary idea before even thinking through whether its possible... such dismissals may discourage future communication and hence understanding....
e,g. never say "aiyah you don't know one lah"... "aiyah i know better than you..."
cos no one knows EVERYTHING.. so keep an open mind that there may be truth and possibilities in what another person is saying and try to understand why he/she says that...
it goes beyond keeping quiet to listen already... it involves thinking through and accepting that you are not right all the time... -
Nice...Originally posted by KittynMeow:not just communicating as in talking... must keep an open mind about ideas that differ from yours.... cos its easy to talk.... but people, not just couples, make the mistake of always dismissing a contrary idea before even thinking through whether its possible... such dismissals may discourage future communication and hence understanding....
e,g. never say "aiyah you don't know one lah"... "aiyah i know better than you..."
cos no one knows EVERYTHING.. so keep an open mind that there may be truth and possibilities in what another person is saying and try to understand why he/she says that...
it goes beyond keeping quiet to listen already... it involves thinking through and accepting that you are not right all the time... -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Nice...
