Originally posted by antoh:
how to understand each other better
To understand one another better is not an overnight affair. It takes time, reponsibility, commitment and sincerity. It is a cultivation of the above mentioned.
When me and my gf got together, we were miles apart. The only way we could communicate was thru icq and phone chat. It was very tough and we got into misunderstandings almost every other day. For 9 whole months i could not see her or get a chance to speak to her face to face. It felt horrible, simply terrible. I could not understand the pain she was going thru.
When I came back, we had a heart to heart talk. It was not smooth as one would think. We spent about a month going thru arguements and quarrels. It was a month full of pain and tears and not just for her but for me as well. Many times we nearly did not made up and ended it, but we hanged on.
Slowly, our feelings for each other matured and i can tell you now its very very stable. I think this is one of the best times of my life, knowing i found somebody i really love and so has she. Its a wonderful feeling and I hope you will realise your true love one day too.
All i can tell you is not to brood too much over it. Let nature take its course. I wish you the best of luck and that you achieve what you hope for.