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well... wat's wrong with having an ex-prisoner bf? if he is willing to change for the wrong he did... y don u gif him another chance? if u really love him... u will still love him no matter hw many times he went to jail...
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Originally posted by [S]tay:i once told a guy," i can't afford to give you promises tt i know i can't keep".. hearing this, his eyes started turning red... and he told me he can't afford to give me any promise either cos he is going to jail....... and on the 2nd last day before he is sentenced to jail, i promise him tt i would always hold him in my mind...
even when he is in jail, he nv fails to write letter to me... but somehow, i find it too hurting to reply.... i just dun wana remember anything about him cos something bad really happened... and on my birthday last year, he wrote to me, saying that he still love me alot....(we are born on the same day,same month, same year) i'm really touched by this, but after some time, he is out of my mind again.....
and now, 2 and a half year had passed, and i seem to forget him.. only when i suddenly bumped into one of his frenz on the street, then kind of remind me about him..
now i got a bf again..... and yesterday while shopping with him, i thought i really saw him...
my heart raced a bit..... den he disappear out of my sight again....then earlier on this afternoon, i saw his sister again.....
i din now why i'm writing here....but i just wana know hw fragile is relationship, and how many pple can stick to their promises??
iz pple only make promises in time of impulsiveness and after tt always fail to honour them..............
and somehow, i feel ashamed of this past with him.......ashamed of myself.......and regret choosing him... through ple always say tt u should nv regret the choice u made, bt i can't.... i simply hate the thought of him....am i raly bad saying all this?? or time has change me from a gullible gal to someone more practical... i hate the thought of linkin me and a ex-prisoner bf 2gether....can't forgive myself n him, for the stupid mistake we did.....
Our thinking, feelings, thoughts evolved and changed from our experience. Its not matter of breaking promise because in the first place, its silly if he were to believe you. Not saying that you don't keep to what you had promise him, but in life, nothing is absolute - so is love.
From our experience, we gain the neccessary wisdom about our personal love with a partner. Practical? Half correct - the right word is Discovery. In our early relationship, we knew NOTHING about relationship at all. The guy/girl we picked and chose to be our bf/gf - there is simply too little comparison between him/her and others. We knew nothing because we only listen to what the heart speaks.
As we mature in love - our vision widens and we discover that to make a relationship successful, we have to see a whole picture instead of plain I-love-you-you-love-me concept.
You are being put-off not by him, but by a decision you made ages ago because now if someone similar like him were to appear, you would outrageously reject him because this isn't the kind of guy you are looking for now. Time change, people change, money talk. Your changes are normal.
P.S: Remember the time when we used to think that we looked cool in a hairstyle/clothing/etc? We took a photo and five years down the road, we look back and we feel that we looked so stupid. This is exactly what is happening. Our preception, thinking and taste changed. It's part of 'growing up' - in love.
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y u so bitter? it was fate that brought u together, perhaps to let u learn n grow up... definitely there's something nice abt the relationship to remember abt?Originally posted by [S]tay:i once told a guy," i can't afford to give you promises tt i know i can't keep".. hearing this, his eyes started turning red... and he told me he can't afford to give me any promise either cos he is going to jail....... and on the 2nd last day before he is sentenced to jail, i promise him tt i would always hold him in my mind...
even when he is in jail, he nv fails to write letter to me... but somehow, i find it too hurting to reply.... i just dun wana remember anything about him cos something bad really happened... and on my birthday last year, he wrote to me, saying that he still love me alot....(we are born on the same day,same month, same year) i'm really touched by this, but after some time, he is out of my mind again.....
and now, 2 and a half year had passed, and i seem to forget him.. only when i suddenly bumped into one of his frenz on the street, then kind of remind me about him..
now i got a bf again..... and yesterday while shopping with him, i thought i really saw him...
my heart raced a bit..... den he disappear out of my sight again....then earlier on this afternoon, i saw his sister again.....
i din now why i'm writing here....but i just wana know hw fragile is relationship, and how many pple can stick to their promises??
iz pple only make promises in time of impulsiveness and after tt always fail to honour them..............
and somehow, i feel ashamed of this past with him.......ashamed of myself.......and regret choosing him... through ple always say tt u should nv regret the choice u made, bt i can't.... i simply hate the thought of him....am i raly bad saying all this?? or time has change me from a gullible gal to someone more practical... i hate the thought of linkin me and a ex-prisoner bf 2gether....can't forgive myself n him, for the stupid mistake we did..... -
well...there isn't any wrong to have exprisoner ex,come on you should give others a chance,doesn't mean that he is wrong in the past and he is forever wrong,everybody makes mistakes,and i think there is no reason for you to hate him,yourself or the relationship...Originally posted by [S]tay:i once told a guy," i can't afford to give you promises tt i know i can't keep".. hearing this, his eyes started turning red... and he told me he can't afford to give me any promise either cos he is going to jail....... and on the 2nd last day before he is sentenced to jail, i promise him tt i would always hold him in my mind...
even when he is in jail, he nv fails to write letter to me... but somehow, i find it too hurting to reply.... i just dun wana remember anything about him cos something bad really happened... and on my birthday last year, he wrote to me, saying that he still love me alot....(we are born on the same day,same month, same year) i'm really touched by this, but after some time, he is out of my mind again.....
and now, 2 and a half year had passed, and i seem to forget him.. only when i suddenly bumped into one of his frenz on the street, then kind of remind me about him..
now i got a bf again..... and yesterday while shopping with him, i thought i really saw him...
my heart raced a bit..... den he disappear out of my sight again....then earlier on this afternoon, i saw his sister again.....
i din now why i'm writing here....but i just wana know hw fragile is relationship, and how many pple can stick to their promises??
iz pple only make promises in time of impulsiveness and after tt always fail to honour them..............
and somehow, i feel ashamed of this past with him.......ashamed of myself.......and regret choosing him... through ple always say tt u should nv regret the choice u made, bt i can't.... i simply hate the thought of him....am i raly bad saying all this?? or time has change me from a gullible gal to someone more practical... i hate the thought of linkin me and a ex-prisoner bf 2gether....can't forgive myself n him, for the stupid mistake we did..... -
People often makes mistakes in life. . . Nothing big deal even if he went to jail before. you should be glad that at least he gave you happy memories before. Not everyone can keep promises also. i believe your x-bf is a nice guy. . . coz if he really wants you to wait for him, he would write to you when he's inside. he don't want to be a burden to you also. Maybe he has a gf nw leh? Carry on well with your current bf lor. . . the past might be hurting but there's still good memories. . .
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the fact that he went jail should have no relation to your love for him if that was what it really was. but i do not know enough about what he did besides just breaking the law.Originally posted by [S]tay:i once told a guy," i can't afford to give you promises tt i know i can't keep".. hearing this, his eyes started turning red... and he told me he can't afford to give me any promise either cos he is going to jail....... and on the 2nd last day before he is sentenced to jail, i promise him tt i would always hold him in my mind...
even when he is in jail, he nv fails to write letter to me... but somehow, i find it too hurting to reply.... i just dun wana remember anything about him cos something bad really happened... and on my birthday last year, he wrote to me, saying that he still love me alot....(we are born on the same day,same month, same year) i'm really touched by this, but after some time, he is out of my mind again.....
and now, 2 and a half year had passed, and i seem to forget him.. only when i suddenly bumped into one of his frenz on the street, then kind of remind me about him..
now i got a bf again..... and yesterday while shopping with him, i thought i really saw him...
my heart raced a bit..... den he disappear out of my sight again....then earlier on this afternoon, i saw his sister again.....
i din now why i'm writing here....but i just wana know hw fragile is relationship, and how many pple can stick to their promises??
iz pple only make promises in time of impulsiveness and after tt always fail to honour them..............
and somehow, i feel ashamed of this past with him.......ashamed of myself.......and regret choosing him... through ple always say tt u should nv regret the choice u made, bt i can't.... i simply hate the thought of him....am i raly bad saying all this?? or time has change me from a gullible gal to someone more practical... i hate the thought of linkin me and a ex-prisoner bf 2gether....can't forgive myself n him, for the stupid mistake we did..... -
This is from my EX... Someone who was ONCE so DEAR to me.. And probably would be the only one who managed to reach that 'level'... Gave her so many advices and such... She's always joking and none too serious... But this one thing she said always remains in my heart...
"When Promise is broken, it's not because the person who said it didn't mean it...
He / she probably means it at the moment when they've said it.. Just that people change..."
If you know who you are and is reading this. I just wanna let you know how sorry I am. For indirectly making the selfish decision to let you go. But it's just me. I'll probably do the same again if you put me back in the same position.... -
Ur not the cause of him going to jail.. there is no stupid mistakes in love... Love is blind.Originally posted by [S]tay:i once told a guy," i can't afford to give you promises tt i know i can't keep".. hearing this, his eyes started turning red... and he told me he can't afford to give me any promise either cos he is going to jail....... and on the 2nd last day before he is sentenced to jail, i promise him tt i would always hold him in my mind...
even when he is in jail, he nv fails to write letter to me... but somehow, i find it too hurting to reply.... i just dun wana remember anything about him cos something bad really happened... and on my birthday last year, he wrote to me, saying that he still love me alot....(we are born on the same day,same month, same year) i'm really touched by this, but after some time, he is out of my mind again.....
and now, 2 and a half year had passed, and i seem to forget him.. only when i suddenly bumped into one of his frenz on the street, then kind of remind me about him..
now i got a bf again..... and yesterday while shopping with him, i thought i really saw him...
my heart raced a bit..... den he disappear out of my sight again....then earlier on this afternoon, i saw his sister again.....
i din now why i'm writing here....but i just wana know hw fragile is relationship, and how many pple can stick to their promises??
iz pple only make promises in time of impulsiveness and after tt always fail to honour them..............
and somehow, i feel ashamed of this past with him.......ashamed of myself.......and regret choosing him... through ple always say tt u should nv regret the choice u made, bt i can't.... i simply hate the thought of him....am i raly bad saying all this?? or time has change me from a gullible gal to someone more practical... i hate the thought of linkin me and a ex-prisoner bf 2gether....can't forgive myself n him, for the stupid mistake we did.....
Why are u blaming urself for loving so hard in the past?
Take it as a wonderful past u had..
I think ur not regreting tt u once love him, rather ur ashame or him u feel tt it shames u to tell ppl ur bf had been behind bars before. -
well, just treat it as an experience. there's no need to be regretful or what, since it's already the past... though it's a memory that'll linger in your mind now and then, you did have real feelings for him afterall rite? else u wouldnt be with him at that time... It's part and parcel of getting into a relationship. Just hope he'll turn over a new leaf.
But pls do not label him as bad just becoz he's an ex-prisoner. Pppl do change with respect to certain circumstances. Best wishes for your relationship. Cheers! -
well, just treat it as an experience. there's no need to be regretful or what, since it's already the past... though it's a memory that'll linger in your mind now and then, you did have real feelings for him afterall rite? else u wouldnt be with him at that time... It's part and parcel of getting into a relationship. Just hope he'll turn over a new leaf.
But pls do not label him as bad just becoz he's an ex-prisoner. Pppl do change with respect to certain circumstances. Best wishes for your relationship. Cheers! -
Originally posted by Devil1976:This is from my EX... Someone who was ONCE so DEAR to me.. And probably would be the only one who managed to reach that 'level'... Gave her so many advices and such... She's always joking and none too serious... But this one thing she said always remains in my heart...
"When Promise is broken, it's not because the person who said it didn't mean it...
He / she probably means it at the moment when they've said it.. Just that people change..."
If you know who you are and is reading this. I just wanna let you know how sorry I am. For indirectly making the selfish decision to let you go. But it's just me. I'll probably do the same again if you put me back in the same position....
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that is probably the most truthful statement concerning a relationship i have read in a long while. Frank, robust and downrite staight. A gal/guy who can actually say something like that or close to it probably knows the real meaning of love...Originally posted by Devil1976:"When Promise is broken, it's not because the person who said it didn't mean it...
He / she probably means it at the moment when they've said it.. Just that people change..."
love...is an institution for the blind -
Yes... She taught me to love.... At least back then?Originally posted by BillyBong:that is probably the most truthful statement concerning a relationship i have read in a long while. Frank, robust and downrite staight. A gal/guy who can actually say something like that or close to it probably knows the real meaning of love...
love...is an institution for the blind