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is it possible for a guy and a gal to be platonic friends and remain so? what are the things that a boyfriend can do that a platonic guy friend should not? i'm not talking about sex but rather the differences in attitudes they must take. will a girl only spend time with a guy whom she sees prospect in a BGR? once she knows he's attached she ignores him completely? please enlighten. why must it be so? is the only way to survive in this world to be emotionally detached and never get my heart seriously involved with anybody? please can anybody recommend a few good books or websites or telephone hotlines that can advice on such issues?
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yes its possible to b platonic frens... attitude ah? mayb jz dun get too involve wif her life...? dun tink she will ignore him completely, but she will nt b too close lor...Originally posted by boy in blues: is it possible for a guy and a gal to be platonic friends and remain so? what are the things that a boyfriend can do that a platonic guy friend should not? i'm not talking about sex but rather the differences in attitudes they must take. will a girl only spend time with a guy whom she sees prospect in a BGR? once she knows he's attached she ignores him completely? please enlighten. why must it be so? is the only way to survive in this world to be emotionally detached and never get my heart seriously involved with anybody? please can anybody recommend a few good books or websites or telephone hotlines that can advice on such issues? -
Yesh, it is possible : )
I've had q. a few platonic guy frens I've known for yrs : )
It depends on how u react to them too. Mostly, I look upon my guy frens juz like my girl pals, & vice versa
RPOriginally posted by boy in blues: is it possible for a guy and a gal to be platonic friends and remain so? what are the things that a boyfriend can do that a platonic guy friend should not? i'm not talking about sex but rather the differences in attitudes they must take. will a girl only spend time with a guy whom she sees prospect in a BGR? once she knows he's attached she ignores him completely? please enlighten. why must it be so? is the only way to survive in this world to be emotionally detached and never get my heart seriously involved with anybody? please can anybody recommend a few good books or websites or telephone hotlines that can advice on such issues? -
y not? definitely possible. i mean surely u mean noe more gals than those whom u r interested rite? so those who u noe jus as frens wil remain jus as frens lor. treatment wont be different from ur guy frens (except mabbe language needs to be more polished infront of them?)Originally posted by boy in blues: is it possible for a guy and a gal to be platonic friends and remain so? what are the things that a boyfriend can do that a platonic guy friend should not? i'm not talking about sex but rather the differences in attitudes they must take. will a girl only spend time with a guy whom she sees prospect in a BGR? once she knows he's attached she ignores him completely? please enlighten. why must it be so? is the only way to survive in this world to be emotionally detached and never get my heart seriously involved with anybody? please can anybody recommend a few good books or websites or telephone hotlines that can advice on such issues?
in any case u shudnt behave differently infront of ur gf and ur frens. mabbe u can care more for the gf, do things for her, etc lor.. the std, wich mabbe wont apply to normal frens.
and i think gals r not tt realistic one oso. they surely noe more guys than those they r interested. so i dun think they wil ignore all the other guy frens once she got a partner! mabbe the bf wil ask her to do tt lah.
and no to survive u do not need to turn into a stone. its knowing how to na de qi fang de xia - nothing in life is all smooth and nice. ups and downs are inevitable. if u wanna reduce ALL risk of hurt, u may wanna try exiling urself. barring tt, its learning how to pick urself up after a fall, to seek avenues of relief and shelter when u r hurt and need caring. come on. SOOOOO many ppl (the majority in fact) has survived in this world after getting into serious relationship(s). (and tts how u were born oso mah). so y wud and shud it be diff for u?
its all up to u dude.
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[quote]Originally posted by boy in blues:
[b] is it possible for a guy and a gal to be platonic friends and remain so?
Normal platonic friendship should be okie...good frenz...maybe so maybe not...depends..cos I have heard of a few cases where either one party will end up falling for the other...
Personally I will still prefer a good fren to be one of the same gender as me...
what are the things that a boyfriend can do that a platonic guy friend should not?
Platonic guy fren shouldn't get involved too much in her life...such as asking her where she go what she do almost everyday....once in a blue moon still okie...but when it gets too often..its alittle abnormal...she doesnt have to report to you....
will a girl only spend time with a guy whom she sees prospect in a BGR?
Most girls are not that realistic...if a normal guy fren needs her listening ear etc..think most girls would oblige unless his motive is questionable...
once she knows he's attached she ignores him completely?
Definitely not....but she must have some time to recuperate from that hurt...assuming she likes him too....
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Originally posted by boy in blues:
[b] is it possible for a guy and a gal to be platonic friends and remain so?
of course
what are the things that a boyfriend can do that a platonic guy friend should not?
Actually its not much of a difference. a bf is just someone more special then the rest. someone a girl would see in a special light.. take away that special light and he'll still be the same. in other words, once a guy becomes a bf he shouldn't change at all or else why would the girl go out with him in the first place?
will a girl only spend time with a guy whom she sees prospect in a BGR?
no.. girls crave attention too much to be just attached to one guy hahahaha.. joking.. but my answer is still no. u expect girls to be out there ONLY looking for a husband meh? of course not la..
once she knows he's attached she ignores him completely?
she shouldn't
is the only way to survive in this world to be emotionally detached and never get my heart seriously involved with anybody?
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thanks everybody for your time to read my post and kind advice. before she knew about my girlfriend she used to reply my SMS within seconds. now i have not heard from her in days. the change is drastic. we used to chat about anything under the sun everyday. once we even promised each other that our friendship will last until one of us departs from this world. so what if i have a girlfriend? we still need friends don't we? we don't isolate our social lives to just our partners right? will some girls here tell me that girls are not realistic?
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maybe she's looking for something more than just friend with you lor. Give her some time to accept the truth that you've got a gf.Originally posted by boy in blues: thanks everybody for your time to read my post and kind advice. before she knew about my girlfriend she used to reply my SMS within seconds. now i have not heard from her in days. the change is drastic. we used to chat about anything under the sun everyday. once we even promised each other that our friendship will last until one of us departs from this world. so what if i have a girlfriend? we still need friends don't we? we don't isolate our social lives to just our partners right? will some girls here tell me that girls are not realistic?