Best way to get rid of a stalker??
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Well there is this guy who won't leave me alone. Actually one of my ex-friends gave him my no. without my permission (thats why he's an ex-friend) since then that guy keeps on calling like up to 15 times a day. I told him off a few times but to no avail . he just doesn't get that i'm not interested. So these days i just don't pick up but its getting really annoying. I'm just afraid he might come look for me near my home coz he knows where i live. and to make it worse my bf isn't ard! ahhhhh! help
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oh no.. its not one of the forumnites here rite?
u noe WHO... -
change ur fone no lor.... or ask ur bf to talk to listen the fone... if all else fails call the cops...
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my friend also has this problem. this girl kept pestering him and spreading rumours abt she sleeping with him. he's quite annoyed.
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I'm not sure what the law is here, but you might be able to have him up on charges of harrassment, as well as abuse of the phone system (the same charge they hit crank callers with). Check with your local cops.
At the very worst, introduce him to Ah Ma!
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kevin1982?
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no.. its the person wif schizophrenic multiple identities and professes to noe some foreign lang and has this obsession wif singaporean gals!Originally posted by kopiosatu:kevin1982?
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My gf also got such things from her ex bfs. She got her dad to settle it for her. The guy never bothered her again.
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:kevin1982?
/me screams
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Yah, just refer to Ah Ma can liao
Help you chop chop.
Yes, this is definitely police case. The mobile service provider will have proof of his calls, then you can harass him back with it, threaten to go police.
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Learn some kung fu... and when he's stalking you, pretend to take interest in a cat and then kill it like a pysco, and tear it apart with your bear hands and start eating it.. All the while act like an predator and do little sniffing actions as your head darts around, look over to his position and freeze... snarl... then resume eating the cat.
He'll probably leave you alone from then liao...
If you dun like to kill cats, then you can pretend to rummage stuff from a specially prepared garbage can, pick up a bloody rubber chicken in your mouth, and run off... works pretty well too. -
Originally posted by SingaporeTyrannosaur:Learn some kung fu... and when he's stalking you, pretend to take interest in a cat and then kill it like a pysco, and tear it apart with your bear hands and start eating it.. All the while act like an predator and do little sniffing actions as your head darts around, look over to his position and freeze... snarl... then resume eating the cat.
He'll probably leave you alone from then liao...
If you dun like to kill cats, then you can pretend to rummage stuff from a specially prepared garbage can, pick up a bloody rubber chicken in your mouth, and run off... works pretty well too. abit the extreme rite?
mabbe the stalker oso psycho, and wat u did jus stimulated his interest to the max? -
Usually, I teach people to 'reject' people through body language. But to stalkers - you just need one thing, '/me ignore.'Originally posted by Ice_princess83:Well there is this guy who won't leave me alone. Actually one of my ex-friends gave him my no. without my permission (thats why he's an ex-friend) since then that guy keeps on calling like up to 15 times a day. I told him off a few times but to no avail . he just doesn't get that i'm not interested. So these days i just don't pick up but its getting really annoying. I'm just afraid he might come look for me near my home coz he knows where i live. and to make it worse my bf isn't ard! ahhhhh! help
Psychological inferiority will force them to lust for any form of attention - any form irregardless of negative/positive aspects. Ignoring them will dissolve this impact, render them useless and eventually give up.
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perhaps the more u show u're helpless and afraid, the worse he'll become.
Get your bf or a man in the family to confront him. Go and make a report to the police if it doesnt work. -
That's what the kung fu is for.Originally posted by wuming78: abit the extreme rite?
mabbe the stalker oso psycho, and wat u did jus stimulated his interest to the max?
Any girl that can give a wood-breaking kick to the groin will quickly make any stalker rethink his choice of targets, especially if he's going to spend the next three weeks with extremely inconvient toliet sessions, along with the lingering paranoia that perminant damage might be done. -
change your hp no. loh...Originally posted by Ice_princess83:Well there is this guy who won't leave me alone. Actually one of my ex-friends gave him my no. without my permission (thats why he's an ex-friend) since then that guy keeps on calling like up to 15 times a day. I told him off a few times but to no avail . he just doesn't get that i'm not interested. So these days i just don't pick up but its getting really annoying. I'm just afraid he might come look for me near my home coz he knows where i live. and to make it worse my bf isn't ard! ahhhhh! help -
Stalker? Devil's style of handling....?Originally posted by Ice_princess83:Well there is this guy who won't leave me alone. Actually one of my ex-friends gave him my no. without my permission (thats why he's an ex-friend) since then that guy keeps on calling like up to 15 times a day. I told him off a few times but to no avail . he just doesn't get that i'm not interested. So these days i just don't pick up but its getting really annoying. I'm just afraid he might come look for me near my home coz he knows where i live. and to make it worse my bf isn't ard! ahhhhh! help
Give a gentle warning 1st....
IF doesn't work, you can either protect yourself with a 'protection order' from court against him... (if you see that there's a need to...)
ELSE, you can always HIT him with a SEXUAL HARRASSMENT charge... It's difficult to shake off completely if he's really STALKING on you.... And that should make him WAK UP from his ideas... Try anything 'funny'? It's gonna be just so much EASIER the next time you 'HIT' him again.... But this method is not recommendable unless he's really going to some extremes... Just phone calls and such? Either ignore or try to change contact no. if possible? -
scold him using ur vulgar vocab lor.. see how he response..Originally posted by Ice_princess83:Well there is this guy who won't leave me alone. Actually one of my ex-friends gave him my no. without my permission (thats why he's an ex-friend) since then that guy keeps on calling like up to 15 times a day. I told him off a few times but to no avail . he just doesn't get that i'm not interested. So these days i just don't pick up but its getting really annoying. I'm just afraid he might come look for me near my home coz he knows where i live. and to make it worse my bf isn't ard! ahhhhh! help -
tell him in no uncertain terms to F*ck off.
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Good call, Devil. However, depending on what he has said and done, there may be no grounds for pressing a sexual harrassment charge, although I think harrassment stands.Originally posted by Devil1976:Stalker? Devil's style of handling....?
Give a gentle warning 1st....
IF doesn't work, you can either protect yourself with a 'protection order' from court against him... (if you see that there's a need to...)
ELSE, you can always HIT him with a SEXUAL HARRASSMENT charge... It's difficult to shake off completely if he's really STALKING on you.... And that should make him WAK UP from his ideas... Try anything 'funny'? It's gonna be just so much EASIER the next time you 'HIT' him again.... But this method is not recommendable unless he's really going to some extremes... Just phone calls and such? Either ignore or try to change contact no. if possible?
It's best to have an institution like the police force taking care of this, rather than handling it as an individual - should anything go wrong, you might end up being the one in trouble, and the macho/psycho crap doesn't work anyway. Have the cops deal with this, and the bf can act as a backup. -
u think i shld change numbers to get rid of one asshole who won't leave me alone? i think not! tyrannosaurus method seems more appealing although i dun particularly favour violence
But seriously though. i'm just afraid that if i go to the police, he mite get more aggressive or smgt. My friend says some pple have that tendency. eeek! perhaps u guys are right....ignore him! But ignore 15 calls everyday...some of that in the wee hrs?.. it really make u wanna tear your hair out! -
Report to police...Originally posted by Ice_princess83:Well there is this guy who won't leave me alone. Actually one of my ex-friends gave him my no. without my permission (thats why he's an ex-friend) since then that guy keeps on calling like up to 15 times a day. I told him off a few times but to no avail . he just doesn't get that i'm not interested. So these days i just don't pick up but its getting really annoying. I'm just afraid he might come look for me near my home coz he knows where i live. and to make it worse my bf isn't ard! ahhhhh! help -
yea!! AH MA saves the day!!Originally posted by Gedanken:I'm not sure what the law is here, but you might be able to have him up on charges of harrassment, as well as abuse of the phone system (the same charge they hit crank callers with). Check with your local cops.
At the very worst, introduce him to Ah Ma! -
Changing your phone number is the easiest solution...
Otherwise..be very COLD to him on the phone...say and do things which he dislike....E.g. If he dun like pple to ask him about his work..ask everything you can about that topic.......
Make the tables turn....
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Well, if you did anything else, he might get aggressive anyway, so you may as well have the cops behind you. Just keep it discreet - if too many people know about it, the loss of face may set him off.Originally posted by Ice_princess83:But seriously though. i'm just afraid that if i go to the police, he mite get more aggressive or smgt. My friend says some pple have that tendency. eeek! perhaps u guys are right....ignore him! But ignore 15 calls everyday...some of that in the wee hrs?.. it really make u wanna tear your hair out!
When is your boyfriend coming back? Do you have anyone else to provide cover for you until then? Maybe, as ditzy said, get your father to answer the call the next time he rings, and have your dad tell him to go away.