Something wrong?
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Hi. Anywayz, i met this girl recently, she's cool, we like each other and all. But sometimes I just fear getting too close to her for some reason. Even though we did kiss once, I pulled out on the 2nd one for some reason, I myself cannot logically explain it because it was like some kind of automatic response.
But we can get along, the situation is kind of hanging in the air. After I withdrew, she asked my what was wrong, and I could not really explain it. I like her, as in I really have no problems with her. But she looked at me like there was something seriously wrong with me.
But maybe its because she is like the 2nd girl I have had or had the possibility of being with. And the 1st relationship I did have was hurtful, I was dumped because I was considered "uncool" etc cos I was in a local school, and she was in some other school which was more hip/fashionable. And I was like not very hip like her other friends...
So right now, perhaps I am afraid of being hurt again? Or something. Is that normal? I thought that sort of thing is only felt by girls, so I am feeling really weird now. -
maybe u can try walking out of the past shadow? if u both like each other den shouldnt let each other ago. perhaps she will be different from ur ex. if u cant let go, u will never be able to move forward. anyway my personal opinion is that the previous gal was too superficial...
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If you really like her then just go after her lor. You cannot just conclude that all gals behave and thinks like your first gf. No 2 person is the same so dont judge them based on a bad experience lor. Who know this gal might just be the one whom you can spend the rest of your life with, but you need to give her a chance.
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agree! do give each other a chance...Originally posted by Bochupi:If you really like her then just go after her lor. You cannot just conclude that all gals behave and thinks like your first gf. No 2 person is the same so dont judge them based on a bad experience lor. Who know this gal might just be the one whom you can spend the rest of your life with, but you need to give her a chance.
have the courage! gambatte!
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You can let her know it's a little thing about the past if you want to? But don't drag on it. Apologise to her if you want to. And tell her you'll be back on your feet again (only if you mean it).Originally posted by men_@_arms:Hi. Anywayz, i met this girl recently, she's cool, we like each other and all. But sometimes I just fear getting too close to her for some reason. Even though we did kiss once, I pulled out on the 2nd one for some reason, I myself cannot logically explain it because it was like some kind of automatic response.
But we can get along, the situation is kind of hanging in the air. After I withdrew, she asked my what was wrong, and I could not really explain it. I like her, as in I really have no problems with her. But she looked at me like there was something seriously wrong with me.
But maybe its because she is like the 2nd girl I have had or had the possibility of being with. And the 1st relationship I did have was hurtful, I was dumped because I was considered "uncool" etc cos I was in a local school, and she was in some other school which was more hip/fashionable. And I was like not very hip like her other friends...
So right now, perhaps I am afraid of being hurt again? Or something. Is that normal? I thought that sort of thing is only felt by girls, so I am feeling really weird now.