Originally posted by torx:
Or does love comes with sex?
For me. love and sex is 2 different thing.. if i love someone.. i'll never have any sexual thoughts about her... but if i want to have sex with someone... love will never cross my heart..

Then what if you eventually marry that person? The I presumed this sexual thought will then flow in?
Moral is playing its part here not because of love.
Yes, its true, studies has shown discipline is waiting will result in better conscience sexual marriage life because of the qualities shown from respecting one another to abstain. But because sex is such a subjective issue between couple, its never always the case now.
Sex or abstain from it cannot guarantee you a harmonious path in relationship either.
In our current society, people are practicing 'Series Monogamy' - in being responsible and solo having sexual relationship with one that they love. And that means only if they love their partner would they lay their hands on them. Of course, this has to be mutual. You will never enjoy sex with one party having all the pleasure and the other party worrying or feeling guility. It has to come from both.
Cheers