Originally posted by dreamybear:
subsitute.. sometime i do feel tat after ppl break up, they tend to look for a new one to replace e old one.. y is tis so? isnt everyone diff n no one could ever replace another person? it is really a not good feeling to noe tat u r a subsitute.. cos u have given so much n in e end u still juz a replacement of another...

It usually happens after your first relationship or after an impact-felt relationship. People often regret/don't want to leave that relationship, but circumstance leaves them with no choice. Our mind lingers and longs for our past relationship. Our mind became saturated with great memories or at least cute qualities our previous mate exuded.
We pick the qualities we loved from them and take caution note about the ones we dislike.
In an instant - we created an illusionary lover from the core of our brains.
Then someone managed to fill the bill - the imaginative partner that exist; we entered into a relationship with them.
Eventually....
We learned that....
We will never able find the perfect lover.
We realise we can only shape the perfect love from our imperfect lover.
Cheers