understanding each other hard
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I am going through a bad patch with my bf and he wanna be alone without me. By telling he has no special feeling and that he no longer love me.
N he think it does not implied that it means he wanna breaks off.
Men are hard to understand.... -
Originally posted by jusgal:I am going through a bad patch with my bf and he wanna be alone without me. By telling he has no special feeling and that he no longer love me. N he think it does not implied that it means he wanna breaks off.
Men are hard to understand.... He speaks what his heart tells him, but his mind resisted that attempt. No special feeling and love anymore, so you are wondering why he still want the relationship? He is still considering, still thinking if this choice is really the option he will pursue and not regret.
He stall because he don't know if he leaves you, is that the correct choice for him. What if one day he were to discover that this feelings for you lurks somewhere and surface months or even years later down the road?
P.S: Your man a Libra?
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exactly what one of my buddies is facing now.....Originally posted by jusgal:I am going through a bad patch with my bf and he wanna be alone without me. By telling he has no special feeling and that he no longer love me. N he think it does not implied that it means he wanna breaks off.
Men are hard to understand....
his situation was....his gf luv him more than he luv his gf, at least ten times more....so he wanna be single again....he stil has the private space he wants but somehow feel bored or nothing special abt his gf.....problem is they became attached because my friend was a bit lonely that time and was out to look 4 a gf....
my personal experience that such a thing happened is could be izzit r u too passive? as in always your bf ask u out, look 4 u instead of u doing it or suggesting lovey dovey things to do?? u should also show concern for him not just him on u....it is a 2-way traffic..... -
i dont understand gers sometimes...
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Yeah, men are hard to understand. Women are hard to understand too.
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give yourself a short break, chill out with your best friends..
then get together again...
"absence makes the heart grow fonder" -
what change in his life or your life caused him to no longer love you? what kind of special feeling does he need? or maybe it's just the bad patch.Originally posted by jusgal:I am going through a bad patch with my bf and he wanna be alone without me. By telling he has no special feeling and that he no longer love me. N he think it does not implied that it means he wanna breaks off.
Men are hard to understand.... -
I dun know.....he told me that he be working on v day. so the next day he asked me out, i was so delighted only to reach there seeing him very quiet and in bad mood. Next thing i knew he say he no longer love me nor have any special feeling for me.
reason: i threw my temper twice at him before. long time back. Once was when i was really sick for 2weeks. the second was that i just wanna discuss with him but i did not throw temper at him. -
to us woman, when guy say "lets just be friends and not in a relationship" implied let's break off.
"i no longer love u": implied Let break off to gals.
But he claim he didn't wanna break off but want to be alone for indefinite period.
I was just stunned. I dunno what to do..... -
Do you wanna drift on indefinitely for him? If you prepared to wait forever with no expectation of something in return even maybe then just go ahead?Originally posted by jusgal:to us woman, when guy say "lets just be friends and not in a relationship" implied let's break off.
"i no longer love u": implied Let break off to gals.
But he claim he didn't wanna break off but want to be alone for indefinite period.
I was just stunned. I dunno what to do.....
Else, I suggest you just make it a clean break with him and get on with your life? -
ohhhh... cheer up lah.. kor kor sayang u ok.. dun cry lah.... haha.. anyway.. feeling is a very stupid words lah. u can see it and sometime u feel it sometime u dun.. my ex like to use that reason to dump mi too... and till now i still dun think that was the real reason. haha..pls lah... i then dun understand gal lor.. dun worri lah.. got alot of straight forward easy to understand guys here. haha.. hint hint....Originally posted by jusgal:I dun know.....he told me that he be working on v day. so the next day he asked me out, i was so delighted only to reach there seeing him very quiet and in bad mood. Next thing i knew he say he no longer love me nor have any special feeling for me.
reason: i threw my temper twice at him before. long time back. Once was when i was really sick for 2weeks. the second was that i just wanna discuss with him but i did not throw temper at him.
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i dun know if i will wait for him. i admit i still loves him alot. but i dun have such patience. i dunno how long i can wait.
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dun wait lah.. for what.. haha maybe on vday he is not even working??? out with some gal maybe. ... haha mi got 2 and 3 and many times b4.. and also got madly in loved b4.. so.. if he really love u.. he die die also can meet u one.. work or no work...even for 5 min also cannot meh?Originally posted by jusgal:i dun know if i will wait for him. i admit i still loves him alot. but i dun have such patience. i dunno how long i can wait. -
leave hm alone lor, if he comes bk then gd if he dun, forget him...
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Hope so.........
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cheer up lor.. once he changed mean no turning back already lah.... even if he come back.. he will be treating u as a share till he find a new gf....got alot of better guy one lah. hahaOriginally posted by jusgal:Hope so......... -
i knoe....but i .... i still love him. and he say he need time to think over our relationship. i wait for a while more...see if he calls me in 1 month.
Anyway......hope to find some friends here -
in fact, i know that i am the type of careless person who make mistakes without even knowing it. I did make some mistakes...but i am asking for forgiveness. Cos i do not wish to lose him and our relationship.
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That will depends on his decision. Let him think over. For me, i think i did too much mistake n ended up i lose him...Originally posted by jusgal:in fact, i know that i am the type of careless person who make mistakes without even knowing it. I did make some mistakes...but i am asking for forgiveness. Cos i do not wish to lose him and our relationship. -
maybe i did make a numerous of mistakes without even realising, but he did not tell me the mistakes i make. Then suddenly dump me..... how u expect me to react?
he say the more i do the more pressurised he get.
when we gals love a person, we just give all we can/ have .
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I think did mistake w/o realising it... let him haf some space to think over it. Sometimes a break (cool down) will be a beta solution to think & reflect on wat had gone wrong. Guys are pressurise when their gfs are too emotional or expressive with their sadness. They nid their own personal space n understanding from their gfs. I realise it too late..Originally posted by jusgal:
maybe i did make a numerous of mistakes without even realising, but he did not tell me the mistakes i make. Then suddenly dump me..... how u expect me to react?
he say the more i do the more pressurised he get.
when we gals love a person, we just give all we can/ have .
we can't control cos it is naturally done
As one of the lyrics goes
"That if you really love her,
You've gotta set her free
And if she returns in time
I'll know she's mine" -
~handshake...~Originally posted by jusgal:i knoe....but i .... i still love him. and he say he need time to think over our relationship. i wait for a while more...see if he calls me in 1 month.
Anyway......hope to find some friends here
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i realise it now to..... spoken to a guy friend whom told me that he may have thought he is really for marriage but when it came closer and closer to it. there fear. Actually we thinking of getting ROM next yr december initially. He suddenly realise he is not ready.
It's just that i expects him to speak up and discuss any issues uprising. and he didn't. When i make a mistake in the past , he said he never angry and he jokes with me. I was so happy back then, that he tolerated me.
It's only when he wanna be apart and he brought out mistakes i made in the past. which is already history.
I can only apology for it. but he wanna be apart just after V day and note he did not even see me on v day at all