Is going steady for marriage? if not.. what issit for?
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guess someone just wanna find someone compatible to spent their life together...dont really got to get married ba.
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i used to think like wat u do..
think tat if the guy now is not the guy u gonna marry.. at the end of the day.. u two still got to break up.. y worth risking ur heart n feelings ya?
but it is tat we do not noe whether is he the one.. u nv noe u c..
cuz love haf no reasons.. -
the terms 'going steady', 'boyfriend girlfriend', 'in a relationship', 'seeing someone' hold no water anymore in today's world...
in the past, if people really dated, and are in a relationship, the chances of them to get married are way higher than now.
just look at our divorce rates. even marriage don't mean a thing. what is 'going steady'?
the term is there for a reason, its just up to us modern humans to screw it all up -
the world is different from our granparents, or even from our parents' time.
Divorce is practically unheard of last time.
Now, I know of 4 couples (my friends) who married young and within 2 years divorced liao.
The marriage institution has become a game for pple to play nowadays.
It is sad....sad
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I am Croco, Croco am I -
it means nothing nowadays....
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Lots of reasons...
To Spike Ex-B/GF
For personal gains
For company
Desperate
To prepare for marriages as after every serious relationship, you'll be a better lover if you learn from it
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it's for preparation for marriage. but you can have many steads before marriage.Originally posted by Itachi: -
Originally posted by Itachi:
It's for personal spiritual growth. Relationship doesn't mean marriage - its more like a learning cycle. If you see yourself 'graduating' (referring to your last marriage) - all your previous relationship/marriage would be like the levels you took to reach there.
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I'm quite a traditional girl, and I still believe that 'going steady', though I'd prefer calling it 'being in a relationship' as to 'steady', is putting yourself on the road to marriage.
Relationships are an art, and this particular section is definitely one of the most important ones of our lives.
Sometimes, youngsters rush into things because they feel that they NEED to be in a relationship rather than there be any purpose in it.
I'm not saying that it is wrong for youngsters to date
I'm just saying that you just need to know where this relationship is heading towards to.
I'm 18 and I'm dating my boy who's 20. We're young, that's undeniable, but we've been discussing from the beginning, the significance of 'getting together' and the future come what may.
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Is goint steady for marriage?>>>
i feel "going steady" is lik testing out each other 1st,to see what they 2 ppl hv in common,gd point & flaws,if can be together ,if cannot den leave,some is (lik me) mayb cannot but still drag
,to see either ppl can accept the flaws of the parthner, if can den mayb will proceed to marriage,provided got $$...& lots of things to handle in the future.
Marriage part.
For a guy i feel is to see if the gal can be a gd wife,meaning $$ support if u were to be out of job 1 day,to help support the family.
For a lady will be the guy can be understanding or not, will pamper here or not,will he be te guy of her life?
If not,wat is it for....>>>>for to "bed"(no offence)some guys tink tis way....to get money, jus need someone to accompany,but its up to indivitual to analise & to see wat they wan at 1st.. -
Yeah.Originally posted by Yunhaier: It's for personal spiritual growth. Relationship doesn't mean marriage - its more like a learning cycle. If you see yourself 'graduating' (referring to your last marriage) - all your previous relationship/marriage would be like the levels you took to reach there.
Cheers
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Erm, okie, here's my view.
Going steady is dating somebody exclusively, u dun get involved wif somebody else.
Sometimes going steady may lead to marriage, sometimes it doesn't. Some might hafta go thru a few serious r'ships (read: steadies) before they find The One. Some r lucky, & find The One rite away.
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again... most of the time u dun get to marry the one u love...
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The problem is in the outdated Women Charter.
Smart women know that they can make big money when divorce -
ya dun talk about that stupid women charter already lah.. sighz... gals always ask for equal rights.. but just look at that lah.. so many stupid law there.. sighz...Originally posted by chualcsg:The problem is in the outdated Women Charter.
Smart women know that they can make big money when divorce -
Most common facts in life:Originally posted by wuming78:again... most of the time u dun get to marry the one u love...
1) You usually never marry the person you love most.
2) You usually breakup with the person who loves you the most but you do not love the person as much.
3) You usually marry the person who is most practical but you do not love most.
Funny huh... its a cruel cycle! -
Aiyah, the rich guys will be smart and ask the girl to sign the pre-nuptial agreement.Originally posted by chualcsg:The problem is in the outdated Women Charter.
Smart women know that they can make big money when divorce
Pre-nup as its called, is simple agreement stating upon divorce, the girl would have no hold on any of the man's assets. Ie $0 -
Equal rights? We guys never ask for paternal leave is considered very good already!Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):ya dun talk about that stupid women charter already lah.. sighz... gals always ask for equal rights.. but just look at that lah.. so many stupid law there.. sighz...
Anyways, thats cause most times if we got the leave, we would be out golf'in or relaxin! Keke *grin* -
x2Originally posted by wuming78:again... most of the time u dun get to marry the one u love...
but i'm gonna change tt! Hmph!
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its called life.Originally posted by :Most common facts in life:
1) You usually never marry the person you love most.
2) You usually breakup with the person who loves you the most but you do not love the person as much.
3) You usually marry the person who is most practical but you do not love most.
Funny huh... its a cruel cycle!
its called ironic... -
good luck!Originally posted by sam0310:x2
but i'm gonna change tt! Hmph! 
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how about making the person you marry the one you love most? if that's too hard, something's amiss i fear.Originally posted by sam0310:x2
but i'm gonna change tt! Hmph! -
Well, you may be happy with the person, but sometimes what your heart desires may not be what your mind thinks is logical or correct... ie your parents/friends might dislike the person and whole list of other factors play an important part...Originally posted by boy in blues:how about making the person you marry the one you love most? if that's too hard, something's amiss i fear. -
*applause* I totally agree wif u : )
When this can happen, then there's true happiness for both the indivs who marry : )
RPOriginally posted by boy in blues:how about making the person you marry the one you love most? if that's too hard, something's amiss i fear.