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Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
well?
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quite true.....
guys might be over-confident.....say this say that.....but when the times comes, they are unable to fulfill...
and girls, fresh into the rship, will believe anything the guy says.....and in the end when things dun materialise they feel disappointed.... -
bo bian mah... tou qi shuo hao...Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
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bo bian mah... tou qi shuo hao...Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
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just wanna ask, are girls more attracted to ppl of the same personality?
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there mus be some similarities/interests....but it's the differences tt makes the rship more exciting and more reasons to know each other better and more fields to explore together........Originally posted by darf-:just wanna ask, are girls more attracted to ppl of the same personality? -
but me hor is totally opposite the words 'OVER-CONFIDENT'...Originally posted by FireIce:quite true.....
guys might be over-confident.....say this say that.....but when the times comes, they are unable to fulfill...
and girls, fresh into the rship, will believe anything the guy says.....and in the end when things dun materialise they feel disappointed....
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Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
well? 
Don't promise things you know you can't fulfill or best, avoid promising. Too much hope and promise is like a huge fire - it burns fiercely and with such intensity, it dies as quickly.
Moderate flame last the longest.
Cheers -
Hehhe.. nah.. i think girls seem to imagine this on their own part. HAHHA. and guys just somehow can't meet their high expectations and standards.Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
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without giving much hope and promises to the girls, will they even want to stead with u in the first place???Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
well?
when a guy dun fulfil his promise, he is considered a "bad" guy and dun girls luv them....nice guys are guys that won't make promises that they noe they can't fulfil and so finish last.....because there is always so much a guy can do especially if he dun have much $$, dun have car, dun have this and that..... -
i feel dat its quite contradicting la.. sometimes gers do promise guys things but end up da same. juz dat guys dun see things more seriously and often forget abt it.Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
well?
comng to the terms of quarrelling between couples den gers tend to dig more past to say...
dis is wad i feel la.. no harm to gers.. -
FUMO~~~~~~!!!
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but girls (dunno want to generalize or not) thrive on certain ideals in a relationship..certain outburst of flames,sweep them off their feet kind of thing. A moderate flame is like no excitement, and everything falls into certain predicted states.. this will happen then that will occur, no excitement, no spice and sizzle..Originally posted by Yunhaier: Don't promise things you know you can't fulfill or best, avoid promising. Too much hope and promise is like a huge fire - it burns fiercely and with such intensity, it dies as quickly.
Moderate flame last the longest.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:
x2..on the first part
without giving much hope and promises to the girls, will they even want to stead with u in the first place???
when a guy dun fulfil his promise, he is considered a "bad" guy and dun girls luv them....nice guys are guys that won't make promises that they noe they can't fulfil and so finish last.....because there is always so much a guy can do especially if he dun have much $$, dun have car, dun have this and that.....
some times they will compare also.. whos bf fulfils more.. but the last part on materialsitic.. dun think it applies across the board.. -
Originally posted by Ecxentrique:but girls (dunno want to generalize or not) thrive on certain ideals in a relationship..certain outburst of flames,sweep them off their feet kind of thing. A moderate flame is like no excitement, and everything falls into certain predicted states.. this will happen then that will occur, no excitement, no spice and sizzle.. Moderate flame here doesn't mean low flame - which I presume you are talking about mono way of leading a relationship. Moderate flame refers to a mixture of surprise and the usual self in a relationship. Too much of a thing is harmful for a relationship. Knowing how to maintain that 'right' flame is like cooking the meal with the right amount of salt, sugar, etc.
While I loved chicken rice, doesn't mean I cannot eat a little prawn noodle every now and then.
P.S: We constantly fine-tune our relationship - this is the theory of moderate flame. Tuning them so that they have a perfect balance of everything.
Cheers -
yup.. being monotonous.. in a way like cooking.. too much will burn.. too little, food is uncooked. in addition to that, i guess there is a little mood management to go along..Originally posted by Yunhaier: Moderate flame here doesn't mean low flame - which I presume you are talking about mono way of leading a relationship. Moderate flame refers to a mixture of surprise and the usual self in a relationship. Too much of a thing is harmful for a relationship. Knowing how to maintain that 'right' flame is like cooking the meal with the right amount of salt, sugar, etc.
While I loved chicken rice, doesn't mean I cannot eat a little prawn noodle every now and then.
P.S: We constantly fine-tune our relationship - this is the theory of moderate flame. Tuning them so that they have a perfect balance of everything.
Cheers -
conversely, sometimes gals hope for too much and set themselves up for a big disappointment at the start of relations.
and o cos vice versa (meaning this can happen to guys too) -
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*guilty*Originally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
well?
no plea... no argument... just i'll be more concious about promising anything in future. -
The situation actually depends.
When u 1st meet somebody & u're interested in tt person, whether u're a guy or girl, u'll try to impress.
The problem wif wanting to impress is sometimes, u'll try to be someone u're Not. A r'ship shd make u wan to be a better person, & Not to "fake" qualities u do Not haf...
That's the reason I prefer to be frens wif a person & if we get together, we do. Being frens puts me @ ease, since I haf No interest in tt person, & tt person can get to noe the real me, & I dun feel the pressure to meet up to any expectations tt person has of me.
RPOriginally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, guys give too much hopes and promises to girls at the start of a relationship which led them (girls) to build too much expectations in a relationship in the future?
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Sometimes, maybe some guys think that they are willing to make certain adjustments and hence promise something in the first place.. i.e. be more sensitive.. watch less football.. spend more time.. all this at the start or maybe during the initial wooing stages. like previously said, if there is not even an ATTEMPT to even want to say that we desire some change, there simply isnt going to be any chance to start off with.Originally posted by RainbowPrincess:The situation actually depends.
When u 1st meet somebody & u're interested in tt person, whether u're a guy or girl, u'll try to impress.
The problem wif wanting to impress is sometimes, u'll try to be someone u're Not. A r'ship shd make u wan to be a better person, & Not to "fake" qualities u do Not haf...
That's the reason I prefer to be frens wif a person & if we get together, we do. Being frens puts me @ ease, since I haf No interest in tt person, & tt person can get to noe the real me, & I dun feel the pressure to meet up to any expectations tt person has of me.
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I agree with you on that in a relationhip, guys want to become better and maybe a more complete person. but try as we may no one have the foresight to know that there are ceertain things that wont go away as easily as it is.. i would say for the more sincere, it would be a case of being unable to change as fast as desired by the gals, instead of faking those qualities. -
Sorree, I use the term "fake" cosh @ tt time, I cldn't think of a better phrase, tt's why the word is in quotation marks...
Basically, the guy wans to be a better person, & @ tt time, he sincerely wanted to be, & he wanted to impress the girl... So he made promises he cldn't keep quickly enuff.
Again, my personal view is always to be frens 1st, tt way, the person can get to noe the real u, without any pressure on u to conform to perceived "expectations"...
RPOriginally posted by Ecxentrique:Sometimes, maybe some guys think that they are willing to make certain adjustments and hence promise something in the first place.. i.e. be more sensitive.. watch less football.. spend more time.. all this at the start or maybe during the initial wooing stages. like previously said, if there is not even an ATTEMPT to even want to say that we desire some change, there simply isnt going to be any chance to start off with.
I agree with you on that in a relationhip, guys want to become better and maybe a more complete person. but try as we may no one have the foresight to know that there are ceertain things that wont go away as easily as it is.. i would say for the more sincere, it would be a case of being unable to change as fast as desired by the gals, instead of faking those qualities. -
Sometimes a girl expects too much... Sometimes a guy promises too much...
Then again... Sometimes situations just change... There're bound to be ups and downs... Don't expect everything to stay the same.... When such things happen, expectations might not be met... -
Girl or Guy....
To each their own expectations and hopes...
Its true Girls are usually the ones who tend to dig up the past and are able to remember the smallest insignificant detail and blow it up like WWIII.
Its oso true that Girls tend to have higher expectations and lower hopes. (Why? Simple Girls are hard to please)
Its true that most times Guys give empty promises just to make the Girl happy in the short term(aka get the Girl first, worry about danger later on, thats why most times in a breakup, you see the Girl crying and the Guy shaking his head! Cause, he did'nt realize what he got himself into) but wait till the longer term does he know he is a goner.
Its true that Guys tend to have the lower expectations and higher hopes. (Why? Cause if the Girl did'nt meet his inital expectations, Guys would'nt have gotten into a relationship with the Girl in the first place, higher hopes is that the Girl will get prettier and 'grow' bigger =P)