boyfriend has changed???
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My bf used to loved me alot & he has nv bothered to entertain any gals but we quarrelled once & separated for abt 1-2 wks before getting back 2gethr... however over the past few mths, i realised tat he haf changed..i noticed a few gals' contacts in his hp & gals frm nowhere "pop" out ... i questioned him abt it but he claims tat its his fren who intro to him but he has nv contacted dem before...
shld i believe him?? i used to trust him 100% but now... things are juz appearing to be too much of a coincidence...
can u ppl out there hlp me on this?? M i being too paranoid??
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does your bf love freedom or prefer to stick with u often??Originally posted by krispy:My bf used to loved me alot & he has nv bothered to entertain any gals but we quarrelled once & separated for abt 1-2 wks before getting back 2gethr... however over the past few mths, i realised tat he haf changed..i noticed a few gals' contacts in his hp & gals frm nowhere "pop" out ... i questioned him abt it but he claims tat its his fren who intro to him but he has nv contacted dem before...
shld i believe him?? i used to trust him 100% but now... things are juz appearing to be too much of a coincidence...
can u ppl out there hlp me on this?? M i being too paranoid??
do u do the same or not??
sure your bf got other gal fren contacts in his hp since u 2 break for 1-2 weeks so he can go and noe more gals. but he spends the majority of his time with u, y worry....to chase another girl and have u as a gf is time consuming.......unless your bf is everyday at hm "qiao jiao" 1 bo bian -
changed changed lor dump him.... find mi lor... hahaOriginally posted by krispy:My bf used to loved me alot & he has nv bothered to entertain any gals but we quarrelled once & separated for abt 1-2 wks before getting back 2gethr... however over the past few mths, i realised tat he haf changed..i noticed a few gals' contacts in his hp & gals frm nowhere "pop" out ... i questioned him abt it but he claims tat its his fren who intro to him but he has nv contacted dem before...
shld i believe him?? i used to trust him 100% but now... things are juz appearing to be too much of a coincidence...
can u ppl out there hlp me on this?? M i being too paranoid?? -
Have a heart to heart talk... be serious and stick to the topic. As for trust, it's all up to you. And like many "Aunt Agonies" have said, there WILL be the occasional sadness and quarrels/misunderstand. Always talk it out.
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Thats your bf's true self. The loving you thing is a really elaborate act.
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Not neccesarily being too paranoid. You have certain grounds for your doubts, but the main issue is not to overreact for the time being?Originally posted by krispy:My bf used to loved me alot & he has nv bothered to entertain any gals but we quarrelled once & separated for abt 1-2 wks before getting back 2gethr... however over the past few mths, i realised tat he haf changed..i noticed a few gals' contacts in his hp & gals frm nowhere "pop" out ... i questioned him abt it but he claims tat its his fren who intro to him but he has nv contacted dem before...
shld i believe him?? i used to trust him 100% but now... things are juz appearing to be too much of a coincidence...
can u ppl out there hlp me on this?? M i being too paranoid??
If you do mind about the issue, just talk it over with him in a calm manner... If not just let the matter drops... Try not to resort to too extreme behaviours based on such doubts without a strong ground....
Regards. -
he afraid another seperation so he already look for other gal fren...? dun put so much expectations in the relationship, the more u wan, the more disappointment/or quarrels u will get...Originally posted by krispy:My bf used to loved me alot & he has nv bothered to entertain any gals but we quarrelled once & separated for abt 1-2 wks before getting back 2gethr... however over the past few mths, i realised tat he haf changed..i noticed a few gals' contacts in his hp & gals frm nowhere "pop" out ... i questioned him abt it but he claims tat its his fren who intro to him but he has nv contacted dem before...
shld i believe him?? i used to trust him 100% but now... things are juz appearing to be too much of a coincidence...
can u ppl out there hlp me on this?? M i being too paranoid?? -
humm... i think u should give him some freedom. if itz yours he cant run away.... dun check his hp.... guys hate tat! if u trust him 100% u wont check his hp liao... try to fang kai a little bit... dun stress up. the more u wan him, the more he wanna go. play hard to get is the best
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Hi ppl.. thx for all the suggestions .. but the thing is
1) he used to stick to me all the time, & he'll spend every min of his free time with me
2) i tried toking to him but he always say tat i'm over-sensitive & tries to avoid the topic or sum x even gets angry saying i doubt him
3) he used to check my hp for new guys' no. but i nv did tat to him, its only this once...
4) he doesn't like me to tok to guys & wun even allow me to go clubbing w/o him, but yet he's knwing other gals.. i feel its not being fair...
I dunno if his feelings for me have lessened, but woman's instincts tell me so.....[/quote] -
1) mayb he realised he need his own time?Originally posted by krispy:Hi ppl.. thx for all the suggestions .. but the thing is
1) he used to stick to me all the time, & he'll spend every min of his free time with me
2) i tried toking to him but he always say tat i'm over-sensitive & tries to avoid the topic or sum x even gets angry saying i doubt him
3) he used to check my hp for new guys' no. but i nv did tat to him, its only this once...
4) he doesn't like me to tok to guys & wun even allow me to go clubbing w/o him, but yet he's knwing other gals.. i feel its not being fair...
I dunno if his feelings for me have lessened, but woman's instincts tell me so.....[/quote]
2) mayb mayb not
3) duno wat u mean
4) yes, its unfair. tok to him abt it... but mayb he afraid u get into trouble...
how long hv both of u been together? mayb the honeymoon period end liao... -
March Sucks...
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Originally posted by krispy:Hi ppl.. thx for all the suggestions .. but the thing is
1) he used to stick to me all the time, & he'll spend every min of his free time with me
2) i tried toking to him but he always say tat i'm over-sensitive & tries to avoid the topic or sum x even gets angry saying i doubt him
3) he used to check my hp for new guys' no. but i nv did tat to him, its only this once...
4) he doesn't like me to tok to guys & wun even allow me to go clubbing w/o him, but yet he's knwing other gals.. i feel its not being fair...
I dunno if his feelings for me have lessened, but woman's instincts tell me so.....[/quote]
Usual trademark of MCP or people with high tendency to display possessiveness and higher scope of control - In a simple paragraphy I am going to explain below:
Love psychological effect; I must know that my partner has nothing but my world in her and when that happens, I am secured. Once I am secured, knowing other people of the opposite gender doesn't matter because I won't run away - (this is merely a thought). But she cannot do that because I am not her, I cannot control her, but I can control myself.
Whether he can succeed in his control doesn't matter. MCP guys are self-absorbed and cannot see reasoning beyond jealousy and insecurity.
You probably have two option on hand:
I) Talks things out. Usually, during this phrase, I won't emphasise too much on this option because you will likely to trash things without much physical evidence. Not saying you must purposely source for that evidence to dis-credit him and release hell - but paper cannot shield against fire for long - therefore I suggest option II first.
II) Take time. Taking time isn't taking serious time to handle your possible crisis. A good positive option is to dump in a little more effort on your part, without the the suspicion and keep the relationship going. Trust me, the more suspicious you are, the more defensive he will get. The more natural and 'innocent' you are - the more relax he is, the more mistakes he will commit unknowingly (if something fishy is going on) and you would have see the whole picture.
Cheers -
i always believe in tit for tat. the fact that he's knowing other girls yet forbidding you to do the same, to me is totally unacceptable, unreasonable and there can be no excuse. the main issue here is, he's no longer 100% reliable as he's amassing the capability leave you for other girls. i suggest you make yourself more in demand and find yourself a back-up boyfriend to match him.Originally posted by krispy:Hi ppl.. thx for all the suggestions .. but the thing is
1) he used to stick to me all the time, & he'll spend every min of his free time with me
2) i tried toking to him but he always say tat i'm over-sensitive & tries to avoid the topic or sum x even gets angry saying i doubt him
3) he used to check my hp for new guys' no. but i nv did tat to him, its only this once...
4) he doesn't like me to tok to guys & wun even allow me to go clubbing w/o him, but yet he's knwing other gals.. i feel its not being fair...
I dunno if his feelings for me have lessened, but woman's instincts tell me so.....[/quote]