Isn't it strange...?
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Isn't it strange how things in life changes so suddenly? So suddenly that it seems that there is only a minute line between the happiest moment of your life and abrupt agony. It seems just yesterday when she was laying on my shoulder and we were counting the days we have left together till I leave for my studies. It seems just yesterday when we both held hands, and I had hugged her close to me...when I started promising her that I will love her with every single beat of my heart. It seems just yesterday we both shared our very first kiss. Everything seemingly going so well...and yet seemingly it was, as we all know...never in love does anything true runs smoothly. It may be just yesterday when I had her by my side...but when I start to look at things around me...reality starts to sink in...I believe never will I fall in love so deeply again...
If, for instance, you will be going back to your hometown this summer (June)...and there's this special someone that you wish to meet up with...but you know that you will feel really bad when you see her...because you have been thinking of her every single day since you left...would you still meet up with her? Or do you think it is better not to do so? Do bear in mind that she has a boyfriend and that the both of you are just friends at the moment...I am torn
between wanting to see her so badly...and yet I am afraid that all the feelings that I have cooped up in myself might just break down on me when I see her...What would you have done...? -
i will still meet her one last time, and then pour out my feelings to her. but i won't expect anything in return since she is attached. just wanna make my feelings known. at least when it comes the time when i'm having my last breath, i won't regret it.
if you fear that you might break down in front of her, use the old fashioned way. write out your feelings in a letter. have a normal meeting with her and just as both of you are parting, hand her the letter. then walk away and don't look back again.
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If u miss her everyday, then go ahead and meet her. After meeting, perhaps u'll feel alot better, sorta like a wish fulfiled
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I would choose not to see her... If really fated to meet, still would... If fate plays it such a way that I'll see her... I won't avoid it too...Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:Isn't it strange how things in life changes so suddenly? So suddenly that it seems that there is only a minute line between the happiest moment of your life and abrupt agony. It seems just yesterday when she was laying on my shoulder and we were counting the days we have left together till I leave for my studies. It seems just yesterday when we both held hands, and I had hugged her close to me...when I started promising her that I will love her with every single beat of my heart. It seems just yesterday we both shared our very first kiss. Everything seemingly going so well...and yet seemingly it was, as we all know...never in love does anything true runs smoothly. It may be just yesterday when I had her by my side...but when I start to look at things around me...reality starts to sink in...I believe never will I fall in love so deeply again...
If, for instance, you will be going back to your hometown this summer (June)...and there's this special someone that you wish to meet up with...but you know that you will feel really bad when you see her...because you have been thinking of her every single day since you left...would you still meet up with her? Or do you think it is better not to do so? Do bear in mind that she has a boyfriend and that the both of you are just friends at the moment...I am torn
between wanting to see her so badly...and yet I am afraid that all the feelings that I have cooped up in myself might just break down on me when I see her...What would you have done...? -
I feel that it will only make you yearn for more...Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:If u miss her everyday, then go ahead and meet her. After meeting, perhaps u'll feel alot better, sorta like a wish fulfiled
Anyway, you're not alone! -
Uhm...What if the both of you are really good friends and have been talking to each other at least once a week if not more? Would you still have meet up knowing how much it would hurt but yet at the same time you would really want to see her...?
The most ironic thing is while I am asking all these questions, maybe having mixed feelings about meeting up, I believe I would still have met up with her...*sighs* I hate the way my heart always directs me around.... -
Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:Isn't it strange how things in life changes so suddenly? So suddenly that it seems that there is only a minute line between the happiest moment of your life and abrupt agony. It seems just yesterday when she was laying on my shoulder and we were counting the days we have left together till I leave for my studies. It seems just yesterday when we both held hands, and I had hugged her close to me...when I started promising her that I will love her with every single beat of my heart. It seems just yesterday we both shared our very first kiss. Everything seemingly going so well...and yet seemingly it was, as we all know...never in love does anything true runs smoothly. It may be just yesterday when I had her by my side...but when I start to look at things around me...reality starts to sink in...I believe never will I fall in love so deeply again...
If, for instance, you will be going back to your hometown this summer (June)...and there's this special someone that you wish to meet up with...but you know that you will feel really bad when you see her...because you have been thinking of her every single day since you left...would you still meet up with her? Or do you think it is better not to do so? Do bear in mind that she has a boyfriend and that the both of you are just friends at the moment...I am torn
between wanting to see her so badly...and yet I am afraid that all the feelings that I have cooped up in myself might just break down on me when I see her...What would you have done...?
See her, don't see her, see her, don't her - if you think carefully, there is only two options take. Either you see or you don't.
So what happen when you see? Your soul is happy, but your emotional spirt screams the pain - of someone so near, yet so far.
Then what if you don't? Your soul longs and your emotional spirit still screams the pain - of someone far and still so far.
Sounds like paragraph two has a better choice - at least your soul is happy.
Understand this part, do you think boyfriend matters? Do you think what you kept in your heart matters? Nothing matters because you both are causal friends. You could say anything you want - do you lose anything? No. It's like playing Who Wants To Be a Millionaire and you are at the one thousand dollar level - even if you answered it wrongly, you don't lose anything. You only lose something if you expect something (No disappointment because there is no desire).
You can meet her, a last date where you can throw whatsoever sh|t you have inside as a concluding speech to her on that day. After that, start walking on your own. It's like an ending chapter - do it well, you can begin your next chapter faster.
P.S: Then again, what makes you think she will agree on a private date then? Fate... difficult to comprehand.
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its best dat u mit her lor from my point of view as u miss her so much like u said.. since u said u are juz friend with her, mit up in the case of realli friends and not more..Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:Isn't it strange how things in life changes so suddenly? So suddenly that it seems that there is only a minute line between the happiest moment of your life and abrupt agony. It seems just yesterday when she was laying on my shoulder and we were counting the days we have left together till I leave for my studies. It seems just yesterday when we both held hands, and I had hugged her close to me...when I started promising her that I will love her with every single beat of my heart. It seems just yesterday we both shared our very first kiss. Everything seemingly going so well...and yet seemingly it was, as we all know...never in love does anything true runs smoothly. It may be just yesterday when I had her by my side...but when I start to look at things around me...reality starts to sink in...I believe never will I fall in love so deeply again...
If, for instance, you will be going back to your hometown this summer (June)...and there's this special someone that you wish to meet up with...but you know that you will feel really bad when you see her...because you have been thinking of her every single day since you left...would you still meet up with her? Or do you think it is better not to do so? Do bear in mind that she has a boyfriend and that the both of you are just friends at the moment...I am torn
between wanting to see her so badly...and yet I am afraid that all the feelings that I have cooped up in myself might just break down on me when I see her...What would you have done...?
catch up on topics and bear in mind she is juz a friend and not taking her for some other r/s.. u get wad i mean.. -
If you really wanna meet her, you should know what's the real reason which directs you to her... And if you can't handle it, why put both of you in jeopardy and embarassment?Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:Uhm...What if the both of you are really good friends and have been talking to each other at least once a week if not more? Would you still have meet up knowing how much it would hurt but yet at the same time you would really want to see her...?
The most ironic thing is while I am asking all these questions, maybe having mixed feelings about meeting up, I believe I would still have met up with her...*sighs* I hate the way my heart always directs me around.... -
I do not expect anything in return nor would I...I never did since months ago...I just want to see her because I miss her...But I am afraid of feeling seriously hurt when I see her...cos I really do miss her...I miss her more than you could've imagined...every day...every single day I have been thinking abt her...Words would not be enough to do justice to the degree of how much I have missed her during these days...I can't help but feel excited that I will be able to see her soon...but then...would seeing her be a good thing at all? We have been chatting daily like best of friends...and she confides in me...but then...sometimes I feel seriously bad on my part for still having feelings for her...Is that wrong too? For the first time in my life, I realised that it's so wrong of me to love someone so deeply.....
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You're confused. When you're confused, likely chance is that you'll mess things up. You should either choose to avoid it or sober up if you really wanna meet her. Or you can take a more mild approach like what Yun has suggested. All in all, sober up your mind.Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:I do not expect anything in return nor would I...I never did since months ago...I just want to see her because I miss her...But I am afraid of feeling seriously hurt when I see her...cos I really do miss her...I miss her more than you could've imagined...every day...every single day I have been thinking abt her...Words would not be enough to do justice to the degree of how much I have missed her during these days...I can't help but feel excited that I will be able to see her soon...but then...would seeing her be a good thing at all? We have been chatting daily like best of friends...and she confides in me...but then...sometimes I feel seriously bad on my part for still having feelings for her...Is that wrong too? For the first time in my life, I realised that it's so wrong of me to love someone so deeply..... -
brother brother, different thread but same story..the girl has always treated u as a spare, u are nothing compared to her bf..the nice things her bf does for her she forever remembers, the nice things you do for her, she forgets as soon as she has her bf for company...why be a spare...u think she wants to see you..for all u know she is hoping u wont turn up and create trouble for her and her bf..yes she was attracted to you briefly..why cos she couldnt get her bf's attention..now her bf is there for u..u mean zero to her..get this in your head..dun be silly hoping that she may one day turn around and love you..girls are all selfish in the inside..they will not hesitate to hurt you, ignore you, chuck you aside once they have wat they want..and in this case, she wants her bf not you...have some pride..forget her...she is a total waste of time for fooling around..she always has her bf waiting for her...dun u feel like a worthless piece of garbage??Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:Isn't it strange how things in life changes so suddenly? So suddenly that it seems that there is only a minute line between the happiest moment of your life and abrupt agony. It seems just yesterday when she was laying on my shoulder and we were counting the days we have left together till I leave for my studies. It seems just yesterday when we both held hands, and I had hugged her close to me...when I started promising her that I will love her with every single beat of my heart. It seems just yesterday we both shared our very first kiss. Everything seemingly going so well...and yet seemingly it was, as we all know...never in love does anything true runs smoothly. It may be just yesterday when I had her by my side...but when I start to look at things around me...reality starts to sink in...I believe never will I fall in love so deeply again...
If, for instance, you will be going back to your hometown this summer (June)...and there's this special someone that you wish to meet up with...but you know that you will feel really bad when you see her...because you have been thinking of her every single day since you left...would you still meet up with her? Or do you think it is better not to do so? Do bear in mind that she has a boyfriend and that the both of you are just friends at the moment...I am torn
between wanting to see her so badly...and yet I am afraid that all the feelings that I have cooped up in myself might just break down on me when I see her...What would you have done...? -
Funny that you should mention that she remembers whatever her bf does for her. We were just talking moments ago and she was telling me all the lovey dovey things that her bf did for her.
I really don't know why am I such a fool to be still here...I have long not expected anything to happen between us nor would I want anything to happen to the both of them if she's really happy with him...Can you actually stop yourself from loving someone? Can you actually suppress the feelings you have for someone that you really do love? Please do teach me how...
I am missing her so much...to an extent that it hurts slightly... -
At a point of my life I've come to learn that... Loving someone is not to possess that someone... It's not even neccessarily about making that someone happy... (depending on your scope of duty.. You can still do so as a friend if you want to or need to?)Originally posted by GOiN^CrAzY^SooN:Funny that you should mention that she remembers whatever her bf does for her. We were just talking moments ago and she was telling me all the lovey dovey things that her bf did for her.
I really don't know why am I such a fool to be still here...I have long not expected anything to happen between us nor would I want anything to happen to the both of them if she's really happy with him...Can you actually stop yourself from loving someone? Can you actually suppress the feelings you have for someone that you really do love? Please do teach me how...
I am missing her so much...to an extent that it hurts slightly...
"It's about just letting someone be happy in whatever way it should be...."
If she's happy, shouldn't you be happy for her? It's a natural impulse if you wanna do something to protect your love (one?) and even doing something for her.... But sometimes doing nothing can be just as good enough... Not to ruin the happiness she's in....