Lack of Confidence + Depressed
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Firstly ... i would just like to say that i lack confidence and is very shy. So shy that i don't even dare to approach the uncles or aunties at the hawker centres then ... so i went for fast food ... and there was a time in my life that Girls were not much involved, so i was quite scared of them then, but now i can talk to them, and maybe even tease with them...
But even until now, i still feel shy and lack confidence with girls... in fact, not only with girls, with people i know too, the people that are under me... i guess i get shy until some of them just climb over my head.......
Then these few days ... i just feel so depressed and tired ... i don't feel like doing anything at all ... even playing a game, or going to the arcade bores me ... Is this what they say ... the period of depression ? I Feel sorry for myself too ... i just don't know why ....
Please comment ... thanks ...
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The night is near and dawn is coming... I Lay awake on my bed thinking of you... I wonder ... when will we meet again ? When will we talk once more ? I Know my love to you is deep and true ... but i wonder how you feel for me ... -
And more ... People seem to think that i am clever, very confidence, and everything. I Wonder why ... Some people even idolise me !
That's so strange ... and yet i'm just a normal human being who ircs alot and such (written in previous article). They're making me feel shy or whatever of myself ... how do i explain ... hai~ -
can someone PLEASE reply to this post ... i feeling desperate liao~ (no pun intended)
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Yo little bro. B4 i can give u any advise, can u tell me a little of ur background like r u the oni child or grow up in a male-dominated family, i.e. brothers oni, no sisters?
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
that cannot fly -
ar ?
i'm one of the 3 child in the family, but i'm the eldest at 16 -
not to worry man.... i went through this phase of life before where i didn't have any direction in life and feels inferior to others in whatever i do....
many others of ur age would feel that same way too.
It would become better as you get older or you can change NOW/ as soon as possible...
for me, i went to the libraries to borrow those self-help/ self-esteem books to learn the ways to improve and applied them...
Remember: People can show you the door, it is up to you to walk through it. -
aaron84z: Everyone will somehow go thru this phase of urs somewhere in the process of growing up. Well... it's part n parcel of growing. I hv gone thru it n hv overcome the prob more or less...
Well... when u wish 2 tok 2 anyone, juz take in a deep breathe n relax. Dun need 2 go 2 library n borrow any self-help books like wat coltpython said, but if u feel it's gd 2 read up, read up on something tat interests u.
As u mature, your thinking will change. U will outgrow urself, n gain more confidence. The best period is actually when u r in NS. It actually prepares u 2 face the challenges in the near future. My advise for u is 2 open up more. U r the confident type but the little u inside ur mind keeps telling u tat u r not...
U hv my support, little bro!
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
that cannot fly -
Thank you both for answering to my post ... well ... i just can't get the motivation to walk over to the girl i like, and say hi !
i lack that courage =(
and worse still, almost the whole school knows already ... *sob*
My prelims for N's were okay (*for all those who cared*), but i know i can do better ...
ahh well ...~ -
Little bro, for now, juz concentrate on ur studies 1st. Next yr is the big 1 for u. Dun waste ur chance of getting a higher education.
Tell u wat, u can use the excuse of revision 2 get close 2 the gal u like...Treat it veri casually. U can do it. By doing tat, u r taking the 1st step 2 overcome ur prob...
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
that cannot fly -
i'm not worried about her ... i guess i can never take anything seriously. i Know the N's are important... but i ... just can't take a book and study ar... Big Bro .. i dunno why ....~
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Little bro, do u have any goal in mind? My advise for u is tat u set urself a goal, if u dun have 1 n work towards it. At ur age, u should juz focus on ur studies. Being the eldest, u should set a gd example 4 ur siblings. They will look up 2 u so u must learn 2 self-discipline urself. Set aside a time 2 learn n play.
Relations should be put on hold until the time when everything has cooled off, i.e. after ur 'N's n 'O's. U won't want ur gf 2 look down on u, if u din do well in ur studies, rite? Anyway u r still considerably young. Dun worry so much. Wat u r feeling now is juz a phase in the process of growing up... Enjoy life when u r still young.
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
that cannot fly -
Oh ya, b4 I forget...
Remember this...
Vision without Action is juz a Dream...
Action without Dream is juz Passing time...
oni Action with Vision changes the World...
So go ahead n pave urself a beautiful future.
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
that cannot fly -
Yo little bro, have u sorted out ur prob?
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Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird
that cannot fly