waht shld i say?
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very the mushy leh...Originally posted by bismarck:got some fragmented thoughts
err i think this sucks
...yr eyes *something* *something*...
...yr grace and err posture....
too sick to think liaoz... -
Nobody will report for harassment if messaging via telnet lah... it's like irc wad.
Yeah you go sleuth around for her ID first
IMO telnet messaging is more casual and fun than an email from a stranger, out of the blue.Originally posted by bismarck:can try but later she go tell her teacher then god bless you...
been desperately trying to get her sch email addy...fortunately sch email id go by the student's ID -
.... is abit too early for poetry.Originally posted by bismarck:got some fragmented thoughts
err i think this sucks
...yr eyes *something* *something*...
...yr grace and err posture....
too sick to think liaoz... -
no lah not poetry lah
just my confessions... -
aaarrrrgggghhhh dun care liaoz
just msg...if she not happy then too bad loh..
got try better than no try...
if no result then can beio other girls
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Biz, first and foremost, think about what it says about you.
She gets a mysterious note from someone she doesn't know. Is that romantic? Maybe. Does it say you lack boldness? Probably. What are the implications either way?
In the first case, so it's romantic. What happens next? Will you then approach her face-to-face immediately, or do you want to wait? Will the timing make you look desperate or look like a wimp? If you wait for a while, what's she thinking in the meantime? Does she try to imagine who this mysterious person is? Will you match up to that image?
In the latter case, if you are seen to lack boldness at this first stage of the game, how much confidence are you giving her that you are prepared to take on the leadership role that is expected of the male every once in a while in a relationship?
In your position, I'd seriously rethink my strategy, rather than focus on what to write. -
Firstly, know thyself. Are you merely infatuated with her, or is it the real thing? Are you able to see the both of you together in the future? Are you prepared to accept rejection? Seriously, you have to understand yourself first and what you're looking for in a partner even before you make your first move.
One of the best ways would be to get to know her through a friend or friends. That way, she won't feel awkward and shy away from you. Try not to be too aggressive as well, as you would definitely scare her away. Establish a solid foundation as friends before taking the next step. That way, your friendship structure with her won't wobble too much after you make your next move.
Hope this helped, and good hunting!
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erm... i think confessions are a big no no...
coz it would probably freak her out... -
smile at her when u happen to pass by her along the corridors etc? Not those lecherous smiles but just a slight one which softens ur features dat kind?
next few times u see her say hi lor and chat her up / strike up a conversation, dat way she won't panic n run haha!
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i am only afraid that if i make a move too late then there will be no chance for us....
actually i have nothing to lose by this. so when i msg her later, i feel that if she looks thru the window to my direction, i will look back..and leave if she appears pissed.
of course my first move would be sort of try to be friends first then something else if all things go on.
as for the leadership part, i dun feel it's a problem.
maybe u can elaborate on waht it's meant by the need for a leadership role.. -
Yep, so what are you waiting for???Originally posted by bismarck:i am only afraid that if i make a move too late then there will be no chance for us....
actually i have nothing to lose by this. so when i msg her later, i feel that if she looks thru the window to my direction, i will look back..and leave if she appears pissed.
of course my first move would be sort of try to be friends first then something else if all things go on.
as for the leadership part, i dun feel it's a problem.
maybe u can elaborate on waht it's meant by the need for a leadership role.. -
I disagree, bis. You have plenty to lose by this.Originally posted by bismarck:i am only afraid that if i make a move too late then there will be no chance for us....
actually i have nothing to lose by this. so when i msg her later, i feel that if she looks thru the window to my direction, i will look back..and leave if she appears pissed.
of course my first move would be sort of try to be friends first then something else if all things go on.
as for the leadership part, i dun feel it's a problem.
maybe u can elaborate on waht it's meant by the need for a leadership role..
Okay, so if she looks pissed, maybe your message has popped through onto her screen just as she's in the middle of something important. So you're just going to get up and take off? If she's half bright she'll notice you watching her and put two and two together. If she sees you seeing the look on her face and taking off, you're telling her you're gutless. Hell of a first impression to make, isn't it? First impressions may not be everything, but screw it up and you've just made your job a lot harder, and you may also just have lost the game at the opening move for no good reason.
A bold start is half the battle won. Do something like you've got all God-given right to do so, and more likely than not people around you will fall in line. Move tentatively or timidly, and you'll get no respect or cooperation. If you move timidly and things don't go your way, the apparent loss will be magnified. Conversely, move boldly and if things don't go your way, it won't look like it's a big deal to you. Give that positive impression and even if things don't work first time round, it leaves you with a possible second shot later down the track when circumstances may be more in your favour.
That boldness also inspires confidence. Going out to get what you want sends out the clear message that in a relationship, you are capable of driving the progress of the relationship (that's the leadership I'm talking about). Give a wimpy, tentative or indecisive first first impression, and despite your best qualities, she may say no thanks because you're giving the impression that she could end up dragging dead weight. -
Poetry?
Roses are red, violets are blue.All are sweet but none as sweet as you.
Btw have u spoken with her b4? -
Nike slogan: Just do it.
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i am only afraid making it a bold confrontation will scare the wits out of her...Originally posted by Gedanken:I disagree, bis. You have plenty to lose by this.
Okay, so if she looks pissed, maybe your message has popped through onto her screen just as she's in the middle of something important. So you're just going to get up and take off? If she's half bright she'll notice you watching her and put two and two together. If she sees you seeing the look on her face and taking off, you're telling her you're gutless. Hell of a first impression to make, isn't it? First impressions may not be everything, but screw it up and you've just made your job a lot harder, and you may also just have lost the game at the opening move for no good reason.
A bold start is half the battle won. Do something like you've got all God-given right to do so, and more likely than not people around you will fall in line. Move tentatively or timidly, and you'll get no respect or cooperation. If you move timidly and things don't go your way, the apparent loss will be magnified. Conversely, move boldly and if things don't go your way, it won't look like it's a big deal to you. Give that positive impression and even if things don't work first time round, it leaves you with a possible second shot later down the track when circumstances may be more in your favour.
That boldness also inspires confidence. Going out to get what you want sends out the clear message that in a relationship, you are capable of driving the progress of the relationship (that's the leadership I'm talking about). Give a wimpy, tentative or indecisive first first impression, and despite your best qualities, she may say no thanks because you're giving the impression that she could end up dragging dead weight.
then for the timing, i will try to sort of..choose the right time like when she is not doing anything impt ? -
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Originally posted by bismarck:
got some fragmented thoughts
err i think this sucks
...yr eyes *something* *something*...
...yr grace and err posture....
too sick to think liaoz...
She will think it to be insincere or too poetic or too angmoh, either way u lose, depends on what kinda girl she is though. But for most local girls that wouldn't go that well.
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Originally posted by bismarck:
i am only afraid that if i make a move too late then there will be no chance for us....
actually i have nothing to lose by this. so when i msg her later, i feel that if she looks thru the window to my direction, i will look back..and leave if she appears pissed.
of course my first move would be sort of try to be friends first then something else if all things go on.
as for the leadership part, i dun feel it's a problem.
maybe u can elaborate on waht it's meant by the need for a leadership role..
Mate your her senior. That is a definite PLUS point coz girls prefer older guys or senior guys, cos it makes other guys her age look inferior, plus there is the sense that "size" comes with age if you know what i mean. So go for it.
Ofcourse... this arguement can backfire, she may think your a sick freako who cant get a date from your level so you resort to preying on innocent school girls younger than you are
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just.....appear where she is....look at her....until she sees u....for the first few time u can look away when she look at you....after that....i guess she will know u noticing her....Smile at her when she sees back
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Hold the bus - who said anything about confrontations? Start a conversation, not a fight. Before you do that, gather intelligence - what she does, how she does it - all aimed at working out her disposition. Once you've got enough useful data, you can work out how you're going to talk to her. Have a think about that - isn't it a lot better than writing her a love note about roses, only to find that she's got hayfever?Originally posted by bismarck:i am only afraid making it a bold confrontation will scare the wits out of her...
then for the timing, i will try to sort of..choose the right time like when she is not doing anything impt ? -
Haha!Originally posted by bismarck:if u remember i am hopelessly infatuated with a junior of mine... 
then i was thinking if i sent a message to her..like email or....something then
what would i say...
i mean i feel i shld be honest with it. she has this beautiful set of eyes...wide smile. dimples.... nice long smooth hair...gorgeous.... dunno how to say. been thinking of a few lines but always at the wrong time..either when i am supposed to be listening to lectures or when i am w/o pen and paper...handphone also not long enuf to key in...
thanks eutjin and bochupi for the answer
Bis, this reminds me of my pursuit of a girl last year. Both of us same year, different course but same school. Met her while doing community work as part of our non-core module. The thing is I started knocking into her in campus pretty regularly, at least once a week. These are mostly by accident though I do check on her time table to see if we could meet in campus while moving around to get to classrooms for lessons as well as to create one or two meetings.
But now...
all over liao. Ask her out many times but kena rejected time and again. Only managed to get her out once. Think she has a bf as I've seen her many times with this guy.
Unlike the previous semester, I only see her once so far this semester. -
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aiyah dunno who told me to go up to her or something like that.lazy to refer back..Originally posted by Gedanken:Hold the bus - who said anything about confrontations? Start a conversation, not a fight. Before you do that, gather intelligence - what she does, how she does it - all aimed at working out her disposition. Once you've got enough useful data, you can work out how you're going to talk to her. Have a think about that - isn't it a lot better than writing her a love note about roses, only to find that she's got hayfever?
anyway i tried to sort of follow her but i am afraid it's too obvious that i am tailing her. dont want to freak out someone by tailing her. -
gor. just look into her eyes and wink. then if you feel that she is not rejecting you , approach her and say "hi, i would like to know you"
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hmmm not when she is with a grp of ppl all the time....Originally posted by jasmine17:gor. just look into her eyes and wink. then if you feel that she is not rejecting you , approach her and say "hi, i would like to know you"
hate those grps,,,
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You will feel it one. trust me.Originally posted by bismarck:hmmm not when she is with a grp of ppl all the time....
hate those grps,,,
but how do i know she isnt ? There is a huge difference between the acceptance gaze and "leave me alone" gaze -
mei used to all the gazes liaoz ?Originally posted by jasmine17:You will feel it one. trust me. There is a huge difference between the acceptance gaze and "leave me alone" gaze
*gives mei a hi-i-would-like-to-know-you gaze*