Is it always the case that guys........?
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Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance?
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firstly, stop comparing.
don't take note on how much less he loves u COMPARED to u loving him... comparison never helps. -
But i just feel if i'm just blindly giving and he's the taker..it wun do good to us eventually..i wish i cld dun bother so much abt it but i just cant..Originally posted by kopiosatu:firstly, stop comparing.
don't take note on how much less he loves u COMPARED to u loving him... comparison never helps. -
Well, not all guys are takers and not givers..Read my What is Love post..Mebbe you'll gain a sense of balance..Cheers!
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Hmmm...guess it happened to most people too.
After few years together, it becomes more of responsibility....Originally posted by luvbell:Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance? -
well, it's somewhat true, what u said.... u see, most guys will be super nice to u before they have u, coz it's the human nature to do what it takes to get what they desire but never really appreciate after tt; but i can't say the same for girls who went after guys. in general, most guys have a more practical and slightly more self-centred mind. in a r/s they're more inclined to care more abt fulfilling their desire and lust, compared to gals who look more for serious r/s. and guys usually put their own stuff, esp their career first, for it'll give them higher fulfillment...
but not all guys're like tt lar...
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haha i put my gf 1st. mayb bcos she is my 1st, n oso we only 1mth together. but considering wat i done for her...i don think i will b of the MOST guys...
cck to tamp to hougang to cck daily
spend roughly 5-6hrs out to meet her.
money...don tok abt it...juz meals n transportation kills me... -
better dun jin jin ji jiao.. as long as he care n love u is gd enuff... give juz give n dun expect anything bk...Originally posted by luvbell:Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance? -
but to be honest, women have a need for emotional attachment. they need constant reassurance that she is loved, so as guys, we should also think about the inherent biological traits of women, and sometimes just give a little more.
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simple.
based on your derivation and to obtain what you in sought of, u ought to find a new bf constantly.
either that, go chat with him and let him know how you think. -
Originally posted by luvbell:Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance?
Your relationship probably deviates into the path of rountized relationship. There are couples who have been together for long and still as loving - because their relationship undergo constant flutuation of events, sharing of inner emotional feelings and blending of lifestyle in reality.
Woman in love are generally 'cumulative upkeep' while man are declining version. Man, being hunter, will slack the minute they felt their goal being achieved. Security is there, stability is there - so what else is there to work for the relationship? Everything seemed to be so well organised and in place. You must make your man feel that his goal have not yet achieve - there are more things to be done in a relationship than before having one.
I) Explore alternative mutual lifestyle. New surprise, new environment, new stuff to do will trigger new possible interest and could give new reason why this relationship should continue to go on, instead of riding on the waves.
II) A soul talk. Man, generally, will not know what is happening in their relationship unless their partners tell them. A huge percentage of man who lost their relationship never knew what actually happened/contribute to the eventual downfall of their love until they lost them. Let him know and work out a good agreement with each other. Nothing is more loving than a partner who's willing to work out a good path for the harmony of the relationship.
Cheers -
not only guys lah.. some gals are like that too, human are just like that.. when u are to close with someone.. u will always take them for granted, and will only treasure them when u lose them.... my ex used to give mi an e.g.. she said she also treat her parent like thing and feel they are nagging too much or talk back to them loudy.. but she still love her parent alot.....
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No.
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It takes effort on both sides. Rather than comparing how much u've given vs how much he's given u, shdn't u be tokking to him & letting him noe ur feelings?
Take this maturely & tell him, "Sweetie, can we tok?" But dun turn it into some kinda accusation session, otherwise in future, he'll be paranoid abt "can we tok?" sessions again. Tell him calmly tt it'd be nice to feel appreciated & pampered, & how u miss tt old feeling.
RPOriginally posted by luvbell:Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance? -
from my point of view.. the time u all spend together is so long liao dat u are use to his everything.. and at dis moment u are so use to it liao so u assume he is a taker and u are da giver which may not be true.Originally posted by luvbell:Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance? -
See this thread
its all about that i suppose.. over time i think guys may not be able to live up to what he might have promised/ set out to do. Will be even worse if the girl's expectations increase over time and expects more.. so then the divide will increase and subsequently all your hopes will fall short.. -
Singaporean must change thier mindset.
Male and female are the same.
Any party has Reposibility to Take Care each other:
Male must take care female,
Female also must take care male -
Hmm... Why does all this look so familar?Originally posted by luvbell:Is it always the case that guys dont pay so much attention to the relationship once they being together for long? Hi pple, i and my boyfriend being together for almost 3 yrs and i feel that things are not like before, as during the 1st year, i feel that he's not as sweet as b4, seemed to care lesser for me..am i too sensitve smtimes i wonder, gers seemed to always be the one giving so much in the end and the guys dun bother as much when things get longer..though i knw he does loves me..but i feel that i love hm more than i do..what shld i do to redress the balance in favour of me or to make it balance? -
hi pple thanks for all ur valuable advices..all that i knw..i'm not comparing all what, but i just can sense the difference from the past and now, mayb he couldnt be by my side now so i felt deprived of his love, and he's not a very sensitive to my needs guy..but nevertheless thks for ur replies..makes me feel better..
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hi pple thanks for all ur valuable advices..all that i knw..i'm not comparing all what, but i just can sense the difference from the past and now, mayb he couldnt be by my side now so i felt deprived of his love, and he's not a very sensitive to my needs guy..but nevertheless thks for ur replies..makes me feel better..
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You know luvbell ever heard the joke about a guy who drives a car with both hands on the wheel with a pretty girl inside is probably married to the girl.
Its usually during the 'honeymoon' stage, the first 6months of the relationship when a couple is inseparable... they just want to spend 24hrs/7daysaweek together alone... but after that stage, they are more willing to go out with each one of their friends... its just natural. -
guys really DO ignore relationship once they're already hooked on...
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u cant measure love by weighing scale ....
learn to gif n take
dun always be the taker