which should i choose....
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one girl whom i have expressed my interest in her and she noes it but she isn't reciprocating because she is passive, busy and waiting for me to chase her or not that interested in me.....50/50 hard to tell unless i continue the chase....
or another girl whom is nice to me and i dun mind try to get to noe each other better....
to love or to be loved??
i noe to be loved is more xin fu....
i might choose to be single, and i can't devote feelings/time to both at the same time..... -
Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:one girl whom i have expressed my interest in her and she noes it but she isn't reciprocating because she is passive, busy and waiting for me to chase her or not that interested in me.....50/50 hard to tell unless i continue the chase....
or another girl whom is nice to me and i dun mind try to get to noe each other better....
to love or to be loved??
i noe to be loved is more xin fu....
i might choose to be single, and i can't devote feelings/time to both at the same time.....
Nice to you doesn't mean she is interested in you.
Expand social circle and keep friendship intact with both first. Too early to say anything.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
agree wif Yunhaier.... [b]Nice to you doesn't mean she is interested in you.
Expand social circle and keep friendship intact with both first. Too early to say anything.
Cheers[/b] -
yesss i do noe that....but the thing is the girl nice to me is looking for a bf at the moment and she feels comfortable talking to me, the other girl not so. my frenship with the girl nice to me has reached the point of proceeding beyond normal frens liao u noe what i mean, next stage means either go stead or be buddies(i dun believe in buddies with ppl of opposite sex, so does she) so. i dun wanna do anything misleading or what.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Nice to you doesn't mean she is interested in you.
Expand social circle and keep friendship intact with both first. Too early to say anything.
Cheers
i have a good enough social circle at the moment and do not need these 2 ppl frenship. i can afford to lose all contact with the girl i wanna chase and afford to remain on this level of frenship with the girl nice to me, i.e. just be a normal fren to her. it's hard to define the frenship with the 2nd girl at the moment. -
Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:yesss i do noe that....but the thing is the girl nice to me is looking for a bf at the moment and she feels comfortable talking to me, the other girl not so. my frenship with the girl nice to me has reached the point of proceeding beyond normal frens liao u noe what i mean, next stage means either go stead or be buddies(i dun believe in buddies with ppl of opposite sex, so does she) so. i dun wanna do anything misleading or what.
i have a good enough social circle at the moment and do not need these 2 ppl frenship. i can afford to lose all contact with the girl i wanna chase and afford to remain on this level of frenship with the girl nice to me, i.e. just be a normal fren to her. it's hard to define the frenship with the 2nd girl at the moment. So you are confused whether you should, crudely put, go after a girl that you could get easily or one that is more difficult, more effort to chase? Then it's a serious a test of chance to see how a relationship will be like with either one of them ya? Because your motive is just to get a girlfriend, from your post, either one doesn't matter.
I don't understand your idea of losing a friendship to concentrate on the other. Why do you have to purposely lose that friendship? Maybe you meant you would stop chasing the girl you wanted in the first place when you decide to go for the girl-that-is-nice-to-you.
Where does your heart lies? Love is shouldn't be a consumer behaviour; whichever has lower price, better quality or convenient you get them.
Look at yourself. You hold the answer, not them.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
if my motive is to get a gf, i would have chosen the girl nice to me. but then again at the end of the day, i definitely prefer singlehood. where does my heart lie? it lies with myself at the moment. i believe in been faithful to one girl only so if i wanna chase 1, i should not be looking for the other girl(but then again she can look 4 me for all she wants). i hold the answer, no doubt abt it but i wanna see how ppl out there would choose if in my situation and why. maybe there are unforeseen reasons which i find intriguing or suitable for me for reference..... So you are confused whether you should, crudely put, go after a girl that you could get easily or one that is more difficult, more effort to chase? Then it's a serious a test of chance to see how a relationship will be like with either one of them ya? Because your motive is just to get a girlfriend, from your post, either one doesn't matter.
I don't understand your idea of losing a friendship to concentrate on the other. Why do you have to purposely lose that friendship? Maybe you meant you would stop chasing the girl you wanted in the first place when you decide to go for the girl-that-is-nice-to-you.
[b]Where does your heart lies? Love is shouldn't be a consumer behaviour; whichever has lower price, better quality or convenient you get them.
Look at yourself. You hold the answer, not them.
Cheers[/b] -
go for the other gals...Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:one girl whom i have expressed my interest in her and she noes it but she isn't reciprocating because she is passive, busy and waiting for me to chase her or not that interested in me.....50/50 hard to tell unless i continue the chase....
or another girl whom is nice to me and i dun mind try to get to noe each other better....
to love or to be loved??
i noe to be loved is more xin fu....
i might choose to be single, and i can't devote feelings/time to both at the same time.....
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Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:if my motive is to get a gf, i would have chosen the girl nice to me. but then again at the end of the day, i definitely prefer singlehood. where does my heart lie? it lies with myself at the moment. i believe in been faithful to one girl only so if i wanna chase 1, i should not be looking for the other girl(but then again she can look 4 me for all she wants). i hold the answer, no doubt abt it but i wanna see how ppl out there would choose if in my situation and why. maybe there are unforeseen reasons which i find intriguing or suitable for me for reference..... Quite contradicting within your speech because if you prefer to be single, you wouldn't be affected over these girls that could be a potential gf.
But since you want a personal note:
The players within the field doesn't matter - what I want is all that matters most. Because I know what I want, I want to be one that fits my requirement, both looks, personality and other related factors.
I doubt you know what you want: take time to understand them yourself. If you are still wondering, it means it still hasn't ripe yet.
Cheers -
*grinz* If u're asking urself, "Shd I choose this 1 or tt 1?" then it wld be thinking wif the mind, Not the heart, rite? : )
Try going wif the heart : )
RPOriginally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:if my motive is to get a gf, i would have chosen the girl nice to me. but then again at the end of the day, i definitely prefer singlehood. where does my heart lie? it lies with myself at the moment. i believe in been faithful to one girl only so if i wanna chase 1, i should not be looking for the other girl(but then again she can look 4 me for all she wants). i hold the answer, no doubt abt it but i wanna see how ppl out there would choose if in my situation and why. maybe there are unforeseen reasons which i find intriguing or suitable for me for reference..... -
Keep to yourself... Like what Yun has suggested, time is probably not ripe for you... And since it's not gonna be such an issue for you like you've stated, why be bothered?Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:if my motive is to get a gf, i would have chosen the girl nice to me. but then again at the end of the day, i definitely prefer singlehood. where does my heart lie? it lies with myself at the moment. i believe in been faithful to one girl only so if i wanna chase 1, i should not be looking for the other girl(but then again she can look 4 me for all she wants). i hold the answer, no doubt abt it but i wanna see how ppl out there would choose if in my situation and why. maybe there are unforeseen reasons which i find intriguing or suitable for me for reference..... -
Definitely agree with Devil n Yun... let nature takes it course... if you slowly grow to like one girl over the other more than thats wonderful, you know who want.Originally posted by Devil1976:Keep to yourself... Like what Yun has suggested, time is probably not ripe for you... And since it's not gonna be such an issue for you like you've stated, why be bothered?
But the sooner you realize it that you just want to remain friends with one of the girls, you should be quick to hint to the girl otherwise she might think you're still leading her on...
Be fair to both girls, dun be a player! muahaha... and have the best of both worlds... as they say. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
well, he's got a point; dun treat girls as commodities; some ppl do tt, but dun realize it...
[b]Where does your heart lies? Love is shouldn't be a consumer behaviour; whichever has lower price, better quality or convenient you get them.
Look at yourself. You hold the answer, not them.
Cheers[/b]