Selfish?

• Ecxentrique

  22 Mar 04, 18:03

  If your family depends on you to bring home the bacon, and you have dreams to pursue.. say lofty aspirations but finanical rewards not many.
  
  is it selfish to go after these dreams?
• HENG@

  22 Mar 04, 18:06

  hmm... tough one. think about it this way. which choice would, if u choose it, have u lamenting on your deathbed that u should have choosen the other choice?
• epImetheus

  22 Mar 04, 18:07

  being selfish or not cannot be that easily judged.
  
• Ecxentrique

  22 Mar 04, 18:10

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  hmm... tough one. think about it this way. which choice would, if u choose it, have u lamenting on your deathbed that u should have choosen the other choice?

  wah but that is so far down the road.. as in the time of your death (assuming not very soon) and the moment you make this decision when u say just graduate ..
• HENG@

  22 Mar 04, 18:11

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  wah but that is so far down the road.. as in your death and the decision you make when u just graduate..

  its easier to choose your road when u know where u want to get to in the end.
• Ecxentrique

  22 Mar 04, 18:13

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  its easier to choose your road when u know where u want to get to in the end.

  but i cant see that link.. and honestly, you wont know also how you will feel abt this kind of choice when you are lying there on your deathbed..
• HENG@

  22 Mar 04, 18:16

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  but i cant see that link.. and honestly, you wont know also how you will feel abt this kind of choice when you are lying there on your deathbed..

  well then how about, 10 years down the road which choice would u regret more?
  
  my point is, u have to know what your aim is b4 u set about deciding how to reach your aim. If you dunno, then any choice brings about great potential for heavy regrets
• www

  22 Mar 04, 18:22

  nod.
  
  family comes first.
• Ecxentrique

  22 Mar 04, 18:25

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  well then how about, 10 years down the road which choice would u regret more?
  
  my point is, u have to know what your aim is b4 u set about deciding how to reach your aim. If you dunno, then any choice brings about great potential for heavy regrets

  ok starting to see your point.. but still how capable are we even to see one day into the future and know for sure how we will feel for things we do and choices we make today? its all abt regrets, in a way but regret is a term that makes sense in the future. and looking back on the past and feeling regretful and talking about should have's and if's wont serve to make the decision we make now a better one?
• HENG@

  22 Mar 04, 20:11

  thats why i say u need to decide where u want to get to 1st b4 deciding on how to get there.
• jolin80

  22 Mar 04, 20:36

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  thats why i say u need to decide where u want to get to 1st b4 deciding on how to get there.

  but at time it hard to chose
  u cant gt an even balance ....
• HENG@

  22 Mar 04, 20:38

  Originally posted by jolin80:

  but at time it hard to chose
  u cant gt an even balance ....

  i didn't say it would be easy, but it still is something we all have to do.
• BrUtUs

  23 Mar 04, 03:44

  not selfish, but must ask urself if wat u intend to do can "dang fan chi"?
• Danisdead101times

  23 Mar 04, 05:18

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  If your family depends on you to bring home the bacon, and you have dreams to pursue.. say lofty aspirations but finanical rewards not many.
  
  is it selfish to go after these dreams?

  well...this have to ask yourself lor...is your family important or your dreams important?
• Lingos

  23 Mar 04, 06:04

  Oh dear, i've asked myself this question so many times.
  I'm also not sure what to do anymore.
  Am I selfish.. or not selfish, it's between my family and me. And only we can decide.
  Urgh.. no comment.
• Devil1976

  23 Mar 04, 11:57

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  If your family depends on you to bring home the bacon, and you have dreams to pursue.. say lofty aspirations but finanical rewards not many.
  
  is it selfish to go after these dreams?

  Is it practical?
  
  All boils down to... Each is more important to you? Your dreams? Your family? Yourself?
  
  Selfish? Well... There's always give and take?
• _attitude_

  23 Mar 04, 11:58

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  If your family depends on you to bring home the bacon, and you have dreams to pursue.. say lofty aspirations but finanical rewards not many.
  
  is it selfish to go after these dreams?

  try to balance it ? .. like work to earn $$ but at the same time try to persue your interest.. ya
• Devil1976

  23 Mar 04, 11:59

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  ok starting to see your point.. but still how capable are we even to see one day into the future and know for sure how we will feel for things we do and choices we make today? its all abt regrets, in a way but regret is a term that makes sense in the future. and looking back on the past and feeling regretful and talking about should have's and if's wont serve to make the decision we make now a better one?

  There're no absolute, only choices. I remember my buddy once told me. "Make a decision and don't look back.. Don't even think about the 'what ifs'.... Cause you won't be changing them..."
  
  It's true that once we walked our lives, other paths would be closed up along the way... Well... At least to a certain extent?