Have you ever had someone misunderstand you....
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Well, I have and recently on sgforums and once over the msn just this afternoon with my friend of mine.
Anyways, my friend on msn blows her head on me after I talk to her 5 mins about her trip to sdyney and melby. It all started when I started to talk about whether she was a pessimistic person or an optimistic person since I learnt in pyschology that a person who loves to take pictures and post them, is one who is a pessimistic as they think alot about the past, more so than one who is an optimist thinking about the future.
She said she was both a pessi and opti, which is not possible... she was got angry when i said that by stating that is what i learnt, not that its bad or anything, just a comment. Then, she flares up saying that's rude of me to say it and how that is really bad of me... blah blah
I have never unintentionally made a person so mad... geesh!
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There is only a fine line between a comment and a criticism
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i hope for the best but expect the worst.. what the heck am i?
i think maybe you gotta learn to not make absolute statements? or maybe you were seen as judging her, putting her into a box which she is not part of?
and remember.. some people do have short fuses... -
all the time........
it does not bother me....i jus take it as they dunno wat my life is abt, wat i've been thru and wat i want things to be.....
so i live by my own philosophy and feeling....
of cos they have their own perceptions so i can't force them to change, neither do i force them to understand wat i thinking or wat i actually meant.......
sometimes when they are in bad mood or wat they lose their sense and sensibility, and i dun blame them too...... -
But, you must remember, there are different schools of thoughts!
Jungian, Carl Rogers, Freudian etc....
Maybe, you did not see her point and kept blabbering about your so-called theories!
Dun worry, everything will be fine when you cool down lah!
No worries!
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But, you must remember, there are different schools of thoughts!
Jungian, Carl Rogers, Freudian etc....
Maybe, you did not see her point and kept blabbering about your so-called theories!
Dun worry, everything will be fine when she cools down lah!
No worries! -
Hey ,I hear you man .. sometimes they just flare up for no apparent reason ..
Once this happened to me too .. well. I just simply ignored that person ... can't stand people who can't take a harmless comment .. -
3 lessons I can teach you here?Originally posted by :Well, I have and recently on sgforums and once over the msn just this afternoon with my friend of mine.
Anyways, my friend on msn blows her head on me after I talk to her 5 mins about her trip to sdyney and melby. It all started when I started to talk about whether she was a pessimistic person or an optimistic person since I learnt in pyschology that a person who loves to take pictures and post them, is one who is a pessimistic as they think alot about the past, more so than one who is an optimist thinking about the future.
She said she was both a pessi and opti, which is not possible... she was got angry when i said that by stating that is what i learnt, not that its bad or anything, just a comment. Then, she flares up saying that's rude of me to say it and how that is really bad of me... blah blah
I have never unintentionally made a person so mad... geesh!
1. Theoreotically speaking, doesn't always apply in practical.
2. Almost nothing is absolute. Don't categorise people like that. Some people might really hate it?
3. Some people just can't accept the truth / fact. I'm not saying your statement is correct. But my thinking in certain parts are somehow close to FireIce's (I've long realised this when I 1st stepped into this forum...
)... Why waste your effort and energy trying to convince only to realise at the end of the day that some people are 'just like that'? -
As for your topic? Obviously the answer is yes.. How I'll react would normally depends on the NEED to... If my 'mood' don't get the better of me..? If it does? Well.... BEST OF LUCK....
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the problem may lie in the way you say things, and not the things you say
a criticism may be viewed differently when said tactfully -
These are the 3 lessons that I hope people will understand as well. I am a rather striaght forward person; I would'nt go beating the bush to get a point across.Originally posted by Devil1976:3 lessons I can teach you here?
1. Theoreotically speaking, doesn't always apply in practical.
2. Almost nothing is absolute. Don't categorise people like that. Some people might really hate it?
3. Some people just can't accept the truth / fact. I'm not saying your statement is correct. But my thinking in certain parts are somehow close to FireIce's (I've long realised this when I 1st stepped into this forum... )... Why waste your effort and energy trying to convince only to realise at the end of the day that some people are 'just like that'?
Though, there are situations whereby going the long about way, ie breaking a bad news to someone, you kinda wanna give little hints, rather than dropping the H-bomb in their face. -
Her point was that you could be both a pessi and opti. All I said was that theoretically speaking, you could'nt be one. Then, she blew up and started to bring out an arsenal of words and hurling about how I could have said that about her and blah blah you.... blah blah. It was'nt even my personal view, my view is that you can be anything.Originally posted by donjng:But, you must remember, there are different schools of thoughts!
Jungian, Carl Rogers, Freudian etc....
Maybe, you did not see her point and kept blabbering about your so-called theories!
Dun worry, everything will be fine when she cools down lah!
No worries!
Haiks, oh well, girls you give them some time to cool off and they will forget it ever happened, just dun bring up the issue again! Ha
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has happened b4
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Count yourself lucky that ya said it over the NETWORK! One of the WONDERS of telecommunication?Originally posted by :Her point was that you could be both a pessi and opti. All I said was that theoretically speaking, you could'nt be one. Then, she blew up and started to bring out an arsenal of words and hurling about how I could have said that about her and blah blah you.... blah blah. It was'nt even my personal view, my view is that you can be anything.
Haiks, oh well, girls you give them some time to cool off and they will forget it ever happened, just dun bring up the issue again! Ha 
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happens now and then...
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apologise to her lor...then slowly explain to her and let her understand that u don't mean it....
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x2...Originally posted by FireIce:all the time........
it does not bother me....i jus take it as they dunno wat my life is abt, wat i've been thru and wat i want things to be.....
so i live by my own philosophy and feeling....
of cos they have their own perceptions so i can't force them to change, neither do i force them to understand wat i thinking or wat i actually meant.......
sometimes when they are in bad mood or wat they lose their sense and sensibility, and i dun blame them too......
wat i have been through in my life taught me certain things... wat other ppl been through in their life taught them certain things... no right or wrong...
when ppl can't accept certain things... they deem it as wrong... and most of the time when they classify it under wrong... it is veri hard to change their mind...
life... is nt about getting ppl to understand you... it is more bout u understanding ppl... -
better to talk face to face or on the phone liddat not so much misunderstandings.