seeking control

• Ecxentrique

  11 Apr 04, 19:13

  for those in a relationship..
  do you ever think about trying to gain more control in your own relationship?
• DevilAngel77

  11 Apr 04, 20:08

  a r/s is abt give n take, not abt who has more control..
  if any party starts thinking abt controlling, soon the other party will feel suffocated...
• Parka

  11 Apr 04, 20:10

  Let's take a bird's eye view.
  
  Do you feel like being controlled?
• sgboy2004

  11 Apr 04, 20:11

  Command and Control...tat's a game only...
  
  Not applicable in real life
  
  
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• wuming78

  11 Apr 04, 21:08

  being too controlling can realli drive the other party crazy. one has to learn to let go. this applies to all kinds of relationships.
• Dj_Shadow

  11 Apr 04, 23:28

  I learning to let go...
• sweetoof

  11 Apr 04, 23:32

  I am in control except when i'm....
• Yunhaier

  12 Apr 04, 01:24

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  for those in a relationship..
  do you ever think about trying to gain more control in your own relationship?

  Subtle control, subconscious mastermind - the highest form of relationship tactics is controlling without being seen as a controller and she/he is willing to be in your subtle span of control.
  
  Under good hands, nothing should happen. Under evil hands, usually no good ends.
  
  Cheers
• the_don

  12 Apr 04, 02:11

  dangerous siah!
  
  

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  Subtle control, subconscious mastermind - the highest form of relationship tactics is controlling without being seen as a controller and she/he is willing to be in your subtle span of control.
  
  Under good hands, nothing should happen. Under evil hands, usually no good ends.
  
  Cheers

• boy in blues

  12 Apr 04, 04:32

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  for those in a relationship..
  do you ever think about trying to gain more control in your own relationship?

  i control my life and my girlfriend controls her life.
• Danisdead101times

  12 Apr 04, 07:26

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  for those in a relationship..
  do you ever think about trying to gain more control in your own relationship?

  what you mean? gain more control?
• Devil1976

  12 Apr 04, 12:16

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  for those in a relationship..
  do you ever think about trying to gain more control in your own relationship?

  It's a balance... Too much of a 'good' thing may not always be a good thing....
• WrX_STi

  12 Apr 04, 13:22

  Originally posted by DevilAngel77:

  a r/s is abt give n take, not abt who has more control..
  if any party starts thinking abt controlling, soon the other party will feel suffocated...

  x2....
• Yunhaier

  12 Apr 04, 13:54

  Originally posted by the_don:

  dangerous siah!
  
  

  Actually we are under that kind of influence periodically in our lives. Remember the times when we had a crush on this cutie and he/she wanted something so badly and we got it for them even without them asking? (E.g. getting the complete set of hello kitty)
  
  This is subtle control.
  
  In relationship, both parties often practice 1st degree control - making demands, which made relationship difficult to breathe and sink holes in the issue of trust. Give person space, but back it up with psychological evidence that her heart will be with you. This can avoid up to 68% physical arguments.
  
  Cheers
• shinta

  12 Apr 04, 13:57

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  In relationship, both parties often practice 1st degree control - making demands, which made relationship difficult to breathe and sink holes in the issue of trust. Give person space, but back it up with psychological evidence that her heart will be with you. This can avoid up to 68% physical arguments.
  

  dun quite get this part....can explain a bit more? thanks...!
• ^sylvia^

  12 Apr 04, 14:02

  thats what i'm always doing to keep him in control without suffocating him lol..
  
  3years r/s! Ch3eRs~~