Is this a vicious cycle or wat?
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I know this girl for 9 years, was with her 2 years back then we broke up. Each seperation is often bitter for me but everytime i will go back to her and tell her my stuff. We will meet up, do the stuff that lovers do, den she will feel guilty and we will cease contact for a long period.
We've been meeting up pretty often recently, but this time it was initiated by her.
Am I backsliding? Is this a vicious cycle? Help?
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Originally posted by Misogynist:I know this girl for 9 years, was with her 2 years back then we broke up. Each seperation is often bitter for me but everytime i will go back to her and tell her my stuff. We will meet up, do the stuff that lovers do, den she will feel guilty and we will cease contact for a long period.
We've been meeting up pretty often recently, but this time it was initiated by her.
Am I backsliding? Is this a vicious cycle? Help? 
Astrologically speaking, you could have very strong karmic bonds that prevent your advancement in life. Imagine 9 freaking years repeating the same kind of love cosmic lesson in life - this is terrible.
Both of you are probably people who encounter problems in that relationship, but doesn't really know how to handle them OR avoidance is a common practice. (Unless right in the beginning, this relationship isn't meant to be - meaning, it was born from poor ground) It is like there seemed to be meaning in a relationship to blossom, but as you both got closer, you discover the oasis is merely a mirage. The reality of relationship sinks in; either one of you back out - the whole cards of relationship tumbles.
Years of searching around - still this emotions isn't address. It hides like a crafty cockroach. It lurks and surface whenever possible relationship issues were encountered by both you and her and create much vaccum, which directly trigger her/your intention to have that contact and return to that state again. Please understand that every relationship has their reason for existence and reason for non-existence.
Basically you have a choice - you can opt for a relationship with her, but I need to have a clearer picture on your past relationship with her. More details, the better - so that I could analysis and give you a complete neutral point of view.
OR
Learn that this relationship wasn't meant to be. You both reject the lesson of moving forward and love, which history ultimately send you both walking around the bushes and ended up in the same location many years back. If you cannot control emotions - don't land in situations that you know emotions will overwhelm you. Cut and destroy connections - it hurts, no doubt, not because you really like her or what - but because the result of your actions already sunk so deep and the pain of pulling them out forever is incredibly excruciating.
You could leave the knife there - but you will die by the wounds eventually. Either one of you are indecisive - please note that this is probably one of the main cause of today's circumstances. Gain wisdom, gain enlightenment, embrace your lessons in love.
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well said, Yunhaier
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Okie....But Karma??? Erms...
Anyway, she recently joined a MLM which i heavily disapprove and whenever she brings up the topic, i will always laugh instead of showing my anger, so she gets angry.
But anyway, both of us will share our deepest secrets with each other, but she lets me in more rather den i bring her into my own chaotic self.
She used to blow hot and cold when we were in a r/s which raises my piss-o-meter to critical but never once had i exploded. Haha! Besides she was very indifferent if i were to ignore her last time n head out with my male buds. She doesn't even get jealous at all!!!
So right now, i'm giving her the nonchalant attitude and strangely she has some reaction to it. Strange how girls think. Right now, i'm ignoring her and she gets pissed by it..Haha! Full Circle...
Seriously speaking, i want her back but somehow both of us are treading carefully on this quagmire for fear we may hurt the other or loose each other's companionship. -
Gaze into my crystal ball ....
i see ur future ...
i see u suffering ...
i see u ....
ALONE
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Originally posted by Misogynist:Okie....But Karma??? Erms...
Anyway, she recently joined a MLM which i heavily disapprove and whenever she brings up the topic, i will always laugh instead of showing my anger, so she gets angry.
But anyway, both of us will share our deepest secrets with each other, but she lets me in more rather den i bring her into my own chaotic self.
She used to blow hot and cold when we were in a r/s which raises my piss-o-meter to critical but never once had i exploded. Haha! Besides she was very indifferent if i were to ignore her last time n head out with my male buds. She doesn't even get jealous at all!!!
So right now, i'm giving her the nonchalant attitude and strangely she has some reaction to it. Strange how girls think. Right now, i'm ignoring her and she gets pissed by it..Haha! Full Circle...
Seriously speaking, i want her back but somehow both of us are treading carefully on this quagmire for fear we may hurt the other or loose each other's companionship.
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Okkkkkkkaaaaaaayyyyyy...
Smileys are cool..But wat the heck do they mean?
And yes the impending solitude looms in front of me.. -
Whichever way you go, there bound to be some risk involvements... So what advice can I give you?Originally posted by Misogynist:Okkkkkkkaaaaaaayyyyyy...
Smileys are cool..But wat the heck do they mean?
And yes the impending solitude looms in front of me..
Both your thoughts are 'strange'... Not easily sorted by a 3rd party who don't know much.... -
Heed the old adage imo. Hao ma bu chi hui tou cao... hao cao bu pa mei ma chi!
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hey miso..
i`ve been sufferin the same fate as u.. i`ve known the gal for abt 7 yrs.. same situation as u.. but i`ve nv got so lucky for her bo be my gf for even once..
all these while i`ve nv fallen for another gal..
recently for the past 6 mths.. i choose exile... i nv botherd to call her or make contact.. til recently fate bonded us again where i met her in our old sch..
since then her mum had called me to meet up again..
to yun..
for ur expianation to keep away from the gal..
wat happens if she comes back to u w a sole purpose of becomin platonic frens which u know is totally impossible btw the both of us??
tt i need ur help.... -
You must be mistaken, you're looking at your mirror.Originally posted by beagle:Gaze into my crystal ball ....
i see ur future ...
i see u suffering ...
i see u ....
ALONE 
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how much do you know each other?
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Ouch ouch ouch!!!! That hurts!!!!Originally posted by ditzy:You must be mistaken, you're looking at your mirror.
Spare that young kid Dizty.........cosh you're right on target.
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Alot, just about everything, we keep certain secrets from each other, but those stuff that we dun tell our frens we share amongst ourselves.Originally posted by sillyme:how much do you know each other?
I hate this drifting aimlessly kinda stuff, i guess it's time for an ultimatum...