advice please.....feeling so alone
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Hi everyone
This is my first post on sgforums
I am currently staying in Singapore with my b/f hopefully for the next 6 months and have been here only 6 weeks. I am from australia
Since I have been here everything has changed between us and I don't know what to do? Because of certain circumstances he has pulled away from me. He couldn't wait to have sex the moment I landed in singapore and now he wont' even consider having sex with me at all.
I have a very high sex drive and am going crazy!!! Hey come on "whats a gal to do"
I do love him but its been around 4 weeks and we have had sex (not made love) on two occasions within that period. He tells me he is under a lot of pressure with work and cannot switch between both his work stresses and our intimacy/sex life!! I find that hard to understand and I am so hurt right now!
With my previous sexual experiences I was very open and very sexual and enjoyed sex quite a bit. I can tell that he's not as willing to experiement and to think seriously about how it affects a relationship when sex is not a priority. I don't know how to deal with this - I could be potentially marrying this guy but I'm not so sure now!! I want to leave singapore and go back home! HELP I don't know what to do! Thanks! -
Surpised at the post.
Working stress do put off sexual needs. It's like what we said in the army : "Too shack(tired) cannot think". Just want to rest.
Play Seduction.
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guess u will b receiving alotta PMs by now, but anyway, its better tat u tok heart to heart wif your bf... tell him abt ur problems, n try seduce him, even if hes at office can oso drop by n play naughty when no one is looking n hv a quickie... gd luck...
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Have you spoken to him about it?Originally posted by soulsista: Hi everyone
This is my first post on sgforums
I am currently staying in Singapore with my b/f hopefully for the next 6 months and have been here only 6 weeks. I am from australia
Since I have been here everything has changed between us and I don't know what to do? Because of certain circumstances he has pulled away from me. He couldn't wait to have sex the moment I landed in singapore and now he wont' even consider having sex with me at all.
I have a very high sex drive and am going crazy!!! Hey come on "whats a gal to do"
I do love him but its been around 4 weeks and we have had sex (not made love) on two occasions within that period. He tells me he is under a lot of pressure with work and cannot switch between both his work stresses and our intimacy/sex life!! I find that hard to understand and I am so hurt right now!
With my previous sexual experiences I was very open and very sexual and enjoyed sex quite a bit. I can tell that he's not as willing to experiement and to think seriously about how it affects a relationship when sex is not a priority. I don't know how to deal with this - I could be potentially marrying this guy but I'm not so sure now!! I want to leave singapore and go back home! HELP I don't know what to do! Thanks! -
how did u 2 know each other??
wat`s he workin as??
u tried to share the prob w him??
u can try seduction as suggested..
few guys can resist it.. -
tok to him abt it lo.... when he comes home , make a romantic atmosphere..
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Looks like even the Ang mohs working here are experiencing the same problem as us... Too much work stress till no mood for sex... I think it only happens in Singapore... whahaha...
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Imagine single & no time/energy for sex, what happens when they have kids, heard some married couple have abstained for months! - oh dear, no wonder the birth rate keeps dropping.
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I think you'd have to be pretty close if you decided to follow him to Singapore, so don't give up just like that. Like others have correctly pointed out, you need to talk to him, tell him what's bothering you.Originally posted by soulsista: Hi everyone
This is my first post on sgforums
I am currently staying in Singapore with my b/f hopefully for the next 6 months and have been here only 6 weeks. I am from australia
Since I have been here everything has changed between us and I don't know what to do? Because of certain circumstances he has pulled away from me. He couldn't wait to have sex the moment I landed in singapore and now he wont' even consider having sex with me at all.
I have a very high sex drive and am going crazy!!! Hey come on "whats a gal to do"
I do love him but its been around 4 weeks and we have had sex (not made love) on two occasions within that period. He tells me he is under a lot of pressure with work and cannot switch between both his work stresses and our intimacy/sex life!! I find that hard to understand and I am so hurt right now!
With my previous sexual experiences I was very open and very sexual and enjoyed sex quite a bit. I can tell that he's not as willing to experiement and to think seriously about how it affects a relationship when sex is not a priority. I don't know how to deal with this - I could be potentially marrying this guy but I'm not so sure now!! I want to leave singapore and go back home! HELP I don't know what to do! Thanks!
It's only been 6 weeks - call it teething problems, whatever, just give yourself some more time and try and acquaint yourself with Singapore. It's important to find stuff that interests you here, and perhaps a couple of friends, so that you don't feel so lonely when he's busy at work. -
Hang on... so erm, how did you manage when you guys were in OZ ...?
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give him some time. wait for the next holiday to get what u want. prepare an environment that he can't resist yr love! finally prove and show him that you are always there for him. Love is not about sex. Sex is just another enrichment program.
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when some one comes home n he's not hungry.. tt usually means hes been eating outside....
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in case you don't know what tt means, it means "if he isn't interested in you suddenly, it means tt he had another affair elsewhere" -
maybe he found that you are not a virgin. and he minds it.
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tts lame.Originally posted by Jaws:maybe he found that you are not a virgin. and he minds it.
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this is a forum where people come to look for help..
if you can't, don't fricken make people feel worse just to make yourself feel better..
if you're doing it just to have some kind of sick and deranged satisfaction, i suggest you go somewhere else...
talk about lame, you're almost crippled..Originally posted by beagle:tts lame.
just stay single! cos girls sux
oh ur a girl...
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Not necessarily...Originally posted by skeujin:when some one comes home n he's not hungry.. tt usually means hes been eating outside.... -
Originally posted by the Bear:this is a forum where people come to look for help..
if you can't, don't fricken make people feel worse just to make yourself feel better..
if you're doing it just to have some kind of sick and deranged satisfaction, i suggest you go somewhere else...
talk about lame, you're almost crippled..
That's heavy stuff. Good! -
Never mess around with an angry bear...Originally posted by M©+square: That's heavy stuff. Good! 