nervous/thinking too much, need advice/tips
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hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
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Hahaha...you are so shy.
It is just an outing lah...not a date lah. Do no.3 first before you do no.1...and never do no.2. People probably has their own fair share of problems...who gives a fark about your problem?
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well.. i guess since u've already posted this out, my as well give her the link so she can see how sweet u are being all nervous over her!
i'll edit this post if need be so she won't know i suggested it.
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jia you jia you... u can do it
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you know what i think?
i used to think like u in the past, but now i realised something, and tt is "Be urself".
there is no fixed procedure to do, just be urself when u go out with ur friends, don't be thinking like "ok now we'll make her laugh, then after that i'll ask her about her problems".
being urself is the best, u don't have to think what to do next, and if she likes u because of tt, isn't it better? and not because she likes the "special" way u treat her, how long can u keep that up? forever? -
Hah! Relax man! Be yaself!
If she dun mind asking you out to accompany her, that says that she is pretty comfortable with what you are now.
And right, since you'll be meeting her friends... you could make sure that you dress right for the place and take a look at ya personal grooming as well. Dun wanna end up dressed up with bermudas and tees where dress code applies.
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Well done BeagleOriginally posted by beagle:you know what i think?
i used to think like u in the past, but now i realised something, and tt is "Be urself".
there is no fixed procedure to do, just be urself when u go out with ur friends, don't be thinking like "ok now we'll make her laugh, then after that i'll ask her about her problems".
being urself is the best, u don't have to think what to do next, and if she likes u because of tt, isn't it better? and not because she likes the "special" way u treat her, how long can u keep that up? forever?
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be yourself.Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh.
the last thing is someone liking you for something you're not, besides, its just an outing. -
just be who you are... dun pretend.. dun try to be different..
if you try to be projected as someone different, you may become more of a fool..
maybe she like you just the way you are... -
Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh.
I suggest doing it your way. The more conscious you feel about your surrounding, the more blunders you will made and the more awkward you will face.
Before anything could begin - make yourself comfortable there FIRST. Seek for familiar faces first, relax around, eat/drink something, start conversation and go on from there.
Lots of luck!~
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Like what the others said be yrself. If u tell yrself u can do it and u won't screw up, u'll do it!But if u focus so much and visualise yrself screwing up, chances are it'll come true.Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh.
Think positive.It doesn't guarantee u success but at least it offers u the best chance in whatever u do.
Awaiting yr good news. -
amazingly, i'm the first one to ask him to be himself lol. i'm amazed at myself
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\Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh.
Treat dem as FRIENDs. -
Hmm.....Originally posted by beagle:amazingly, i'm the first one to ask him to be himself lol. i'm amazed at myself
Good for you.
So tell me how many friends have you made and are you feeling good about yourself now? -
Hey go on, enjoy having something to read while i am eating something. U do that too dun u?Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh. Next time add more suspense ya? -
haha at least now when i approach girls i don't have tt procedure mindset, and yeah! i love it lol
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Good For you.Originally posted by beagle:haha at least now when i approach girls i don't have tt procedure mindset, and yeah! i love it lol -
being nervous is natural...you are doing fine...you would do fantastically well if you dun do those above or pretending your heart is not beatin normally? those are pre-baboon symptons...Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh.
you have to initiate and lend a listening ear when necessarily...you will be building a "wall" between both of you if you pretend. -
Sucess guys, thanks a lot. I felt great at this thing and i met many new people. Ha somehow this girl i seemed to have "LIKED" and "gotten all NERVOUS about" does not make me feel this way anymore, even though we still clicked and we are friends and all. I just don't feel very infetuated with her anymore haha, i feel kinda liberated and confused about why i feel this way now. Maybe its coz in being there i noticed she and i are not that common after all, or maybe its coz there was another girl who was interested in me there, either way i feel ok. Thanks a lot guys, i did take your advice, i just let go and was myself.
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dun feel nervous, dun think about it, juz go there n tok to everyone if possible.. or someone nice, if nervous, juz tell directly to her so can start conversation or something. zhuo dao qiao tou zhi ran zhi.Originally posted by men_@_arms:hello!
Been invited out on a outing by someone i like. I am afraid i am gonna make a complete bafoon of myself in front of her and other friends who will also be there lol. I am also slightly afraid that i have screwed up on previous occasions when i did go out with her, but then again, if i screwed up in her book, then why would she still have invited me out with her and friends?
Ok so i'm just nervous i'm gonna be an idiot at this outing lol. But logically i know what to do; 1. talk to her and know her betta, ask her lots of questions. 2. Possibly brag to her about my probs and stuff; so she can know be betta. 3. Crack jokes and make her laugh.
What else!?! I am feeling nervous heh. -
Originally posted by men_@_arms:Sucess guys, thanks a lot. I felt great at this thing and i met many new people. Ha somehow this girl i seemed to have "LIKED" and "gotten all NERVOUS about" does not make me feel this way anymore, even though we still clicked and we are friends and all. I just don't feel very infetuated with her anymore haha, i feel kinda liberated and confused about why i feel this way now. Maybe its coz in being there i noticed she and i are not that common after all, or maybe its coz there was another girl who was interested in me there, either way i feel ok. Thanks a lot guys, i did take your advice, i just let go and was myself.
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