Originally posted by MCCM:
hi all pple..would like to seek ur advice on tis small problem of mine..been bugging me for almost 2 yrs le...
i like tis gal since 2002...during tat time i went out with her many times...on a few occasions she even push away other appts when i ask her out...she oso allow me to fetch her from sch...during tat few mths period i like her more and more...and i believed she liked me too..as she dun like to tok on the fone...we always exchange sms almost abt 30-50 a day...she even msg me when she's going out or going home..or when she is going to slp at nite...so i assumed she like me...
finally 1 day i plucked out enuff courage to tell her i like her...i was going to tell her in the lift when i was sending her home...but when facing her...i lost all guts haha...but she noe i wanted to tell her someting...i was smiling...she was giggling..cuz she is very shy and quiet by nature...and i tink she knew tat i was going to tell her i like her...
when when i reached home and log on to net..i saw her online too...den she ask me wat i wanted to tell her in the lift...finally i told her i like her...the answer she gave me i dunno wan to cry or wat...dunno good or bad...she said she wanted to concentrate on her studies as she's in her last year and got big project coming up...she oso say to let tings proceed on their own naturally...she say after her studies anyting is possible...i was devastated..
we still keep in contact often...1 year has passed since her graduation...i was busy with my studies during that period too..now my studies r finished...and i still really like her...and she has been single all along tis 2 yrs....wat should i do?

I remember one of my favourite Marketing tutor used to tell me how ineffective one's selling tactic is if the salesman doesn't know how to do a proper closing of the deal - (Since then it was recorded in CloUdisM)
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You are someone who are reasonably ok with girls, know how to get to know them better, foster better bonds. Yes, all that is important to the element of chase, but insufficient for you to receive your reward because you lack the impact when you finally pop the question.
You are someone she feels decently comfortable with - you do not belong to the type where she get instant magnetic attraction. Since you do not belong to this category, you can only work hard and play smart. You first minor mistake comes from expressing through virtual space - the fringing` most common way, yet the most insincere as well as the least effective.
You have kept in contact with her all these while; its time for you to learn to sell yourself and let her discover new aspects of you after these two years. You can attempt to try again, but this time, you may not need to lie low.
Like a straight line curve, you begin easy and advance steadily, till that MOMENT - you need to win her thoroughly and not simply a question and that's it.
To win thoroughly is to sweep her off her feet and destroy her womanly instinct to repel chase. Only when she start to feel with her heart, you can seek the entrance when her resistance barrier vanished.

Cheers