Recovering a stale friendship?
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Hi.
About 2 years ago, I enrolled in a one-day computer course in school and managed to know a friend. So after the session, we bade each other farewell and left. By sheer coincidence we met each other again a week later when we happen to board the same bus and chatted on the journey.
School started, we all became busy and we never kept in touch despite the fact that we have each other's email addresses.
Then recently, I met this friend again in school at the exam hall.while waiting for exam to start. My friend saw and stared at me but never approached me. I too was hesitant to go over because we've not kept in touch and feels a bit weird and dunno what to say. So we didn't approach each other or said anything and left,
Then recently, I thought it may be good for me to send my friend an email saying how sorry I was for not going over that day and also sent a casual greeting asking how life has been. My friend never repiled.
But now I still think to lose a friend like that is pretty stupid. So what can I do now? Continue sending emails hoping that the cold stalemate will be broken? Will it become irritating and I become a parasite instead? What can I do now? -
Is it just a plain friendship or is it more?
Have you considered the fact that he / she might be too busy to reply your mail or even lost access to it? Have often have you been e-mailing him / her?
Anyway, it's quite unlikely that such an event would cause you to lose a friend unless there're more than meets the eyes...? -
No harm sending another email. If no response then forget it.
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Your friend guy or gal? If guy, forget it...just a 1 day friend...don't put too much hopes on it. If gal..and you are interested, then you should have approach her on that day when you met her and not bo chap her.
I think must be a gal lah.
Well, I think since it is an exam period and the environment is in an exam hall. Think I also will not have any mood to chat gals up.
Okie...before I go any further...tell us if your friend is guy or gal first. -
If you happen to have his/her contact number... why not give that person a call instead?
No email from the person... could it be that the person has no internet connection at home or has he or she has ceased using that account?U never know it could be simple things like that.
Call to find out, call to catch up. -
Just for clarification, the friend is a gal and I'm a guy.
afaik, I don't remember anything unusual or more than meets the eyes. Just plain friendship that's all. And what I've said was what had happened, nothing extra in the background.
The problem now is when trying to contact her again after so long is how not to appear as if I've an ulterior motive for doing so, so that she'll be more comfortable replying emails back to me. Whe it comes to dealing with friends of opposite sex, this is always a problem, scared she will mis-interprete and think too much.
Btw, I don't have her contact number, only her email address as already stated. -
they r all ur assumptions...i presume....its actually u who think too much...nt only will trouble u, mabe even losing chances tt will never come by again...Originally posted by m.c.king:Just for clarification, the friend is a gal and I'm a guy.
afaik, I don't remember anything unusual or more than meets the eyes. Just plain friendship that's all. And what I've said was what had happened, nothing extra in the background.
The problem now is when trying to contact her again after so long is how not to appear as if I've an ulterior motive for doing so, so that she'll be more comfortable replying emails back to me. Whe it comes to dealing with friends of opposite sex, this is always a problem, scared she will mis-interprete and think too much.
Btw, I don't have her contact number, only her email address as already stated.
d only way is to try, unless u think u wun regret staying at tis stage..
tell urself dun rush, b steady, b sincere, get to know her more, put ur feelings towards her into appropriate actions...rather than replying email wic is nt d best way to communicate on a long term basis.
in a nutshell, if u keep on thinking u will nvr know whether she likes u or nt... -
they r all ur assumptions...i presume....its actually u who think too much...nt only will trouble u, mabe even losing chances tt will never come by again...Originally posted by m.c.king:Just for clarification, the friend is a gal and I'm a guy.
afaik, I don't remember anything unusual or more than meets the eyes. Just plain friendship that's all. And what I've said was what had happened, nothing extra in the background.
The problem now is when trying to contact her again after so long is how not to appear as if I've an ulterior motive for doing so, so that she'll be more comfortable replying emails back to me. Whe it comes to dealing with friends of opposite sex, this is always a problem, scared she will mis-interprete and think too much.
Btw, I don't have her contact number, only her email address as already stated.
d only way is to try, unless u think u wun regret staying at tis stage..
tell urself dun rush, b steady, b sincere, get to know her more, put ur feelings towards her into appropriate actions...rather than replying email wic is nt d best way to communicate on a long term basis. get d opportunity to get her num when gng hol wif her...or thru email.
in a nutshell, if u keep on thinking u will nvr know whether she likes u or nt... -
She just replied my email.
She was very cheerful and easy-going and said she in fact didn't see me and is not a petty person who would resent the fact that I didn't go up to her. And she asked about me and told me her latest updates.
The fact is that she doesn't check her email very often and I got her reply only 1 week and I thought she was snubbing me.
So the incident has been cleared up. -
Originally posted by m.c.king:She just replied my email.
She was very cheerful and easy-going and said she in fact didn't see me and is not a petty person who would resent the fact that I didn't go up to her. And she asked about me and told me her latest updates.
The fact is that she doesn't check her email very often and I got her reply only 1 week and I thought she was snubbing me.
So the incident has been cleared up.
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Hmm....do you do that to every friend?Originally posted by m.c.king:She just replied my email.
She was very cheerful and easy-going and said she in fact didn't see me and is not a petty person who would resent the fact that I didn't go up to her. And she asked about me and told me her latest updates.
The fact is that she doesn't check her email very often and I got her reply only 1 week and I thought she was snubbing me.
So the incident has been cleared up.
Or only to her? -
I've done it on a few occassions to other friends as well, like those from secondary school and poly who have lost touch for a few years etc.Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm....do you do that to every friend?
Or only to her?
Bcos if don't try to reestablish some kind of communication will lose touch further.