So what's wrong?
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Recently got this fren of mine, he's like...weird.We or rather he misunderstood me becos of one sms.Sounds kindda dumb i know. He ask me a ques then my reply was like "I told you what, I'm not going." Even though I din mean it in such a arrogant tone, apparently he thought it was.
Then slowly, he said i got attitude problem and goes on to open me up like a surgeon and tell me all my bad points.Then I'm like controlling my anger.After all I've known him for so long, better to let the things slide right?
Before that he intro me to this guy.He quite nice lah cos he will treat us to a meal whenever we meet up.I think my fren has a good impression of him.Then he sms something like "pple treat you, dunno how to be thankful and appreaciate is it?" when I read it, I buay tahan then come here post...
This isn't the first time he's like this.I mean, wtf is his problem man?I'm not even saying anything and you are like trying to pick a fight or something?Btw he SHOULD be reading this, cos he comes here sometimes.
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Your friend have a funny way talking to to you, cannot speak directly, use SMS instead. What kind of friendship is that?Originally posted by GrimR:Recently got this fren of mine, he's like...weird.We or rather he misunderstood me becos of one sms.Sounds kindda dumb i know. He ask me a ques then my reply was like "I told you what, I'm not going." Even though I din mean it in such a arrogant tone, apparently he thought it was.
Then slowly, he said i got attitude problem and goes on to open me up like a surgeon and tell me all my bad points.Then I'm like controlling my anger.After all I've known him for so long, better to let the things slide right?
Before that he intro me to this guy.He quite nice lah cos he will treat us to a meal whenever we meet up.I think my fren has a good impression of him.Then he sms something like "pple treat you, dunno how to be thankful and appreaciate is it?" when I read it, I buay tahan then come here post...
This isn't the first time he's like this.I mean, wtf is his problem man?I'm not even saying anything and you are like trying to pick a fight or something?Btw he SHOULD be reading this, cos he comes here sometimes.
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one SMS = 5 cents
one mobile phone call = approx 28 cents..Originally posted by Mguy:You have a funny way talking to friends, cannot speak directly, use SMS instead. What kind of friendship is that? -
immaturity?
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I was thinking abt that too.Originally posted by the Bear:immaturity? -
Platonic?Originally posted by Mguy:Your friend have a funny way talking to to you, cannot speak directly, use SMS instead. What kind of friendship is that?
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not exactly, i read 'HUGE EXPECTATIONS' from the post.Originally posted by the Bear:immaturity? -
If this isn't the 1st time.. then the more you should talk to him about the issue..Originally posted by GrimR:Recently got this fren of mine, he's like...weird.We or rather he misunderstood me becos of one sms.Sounds kindda dumb i know. He ask me a ques then my reply was like "I told you what, I'm not going." Even though I din mean it in such a arrogant tone, apparently he thought it was.
Then slowly, he said i got attitude problem and goes on to open me up like a surgeon and tell me all my bad points.Then I'm like controlling my anger.After all I've known him for so long, better to let the things slide right?
Before that he intro me to this guy.He quite nice lah cos he will treat us to a meal whenever we meet up.I think my fren has a good impression of him.Then he sms something like "pple treat you, dunno how to be thankful and appreaciate is it?" when I read it, I buay tahan then come here post...
This isn't the first time he's like this.I mean, wtf is his problem man?I'm not even saying anything and you are like trying to pick a fight or something?Btw he SHOULD be reading this, cos he comes here sometimes.
***End of explanation*** Please offer your opinions thanks.
Since this has been goin on for sometime... why didn't you have a good talk with him? ask him why is he reacting in such a way..
as friend.. it hurts when your good friend do such things to you.. Violence don't solve any problem! It'll jus make it worse.. and probably.. your friendship will put a full-stop then..
Sometimes when ppl do something they think they should be thankful.. and yet the other party knew it in his heart but didn't express it out.. that's where the problem aries..
they think that you might be taken for granted.. like what he always do.. is to treat everyone a meal..
you dun have to say it out loud.. actions speaks louder than words.....
maybe someday sometime.. you should do the same to him.. and not always he footing the bill.. get him something that he always wanted as a token of appreciation..
then maybe his preception of you will be better? or he'll change his attitude towards you.. then after explain to him.. that you are very grateful to have him as a friend.. tell him.. that you dunno how to express yourself in words.. but you are very thankful for all the things he've done..
*point to your heart* and says.. it will always be remembered there..and the friendship too..
Well, i suggest that you call him out.. for a meal or a drink... talk to him nicely about what really happen to both of you.. I'm sure both parties doesn;t wan this friendship to end jus becos of a minor thing?? right??
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Hmm... Care to explain?Originally posted by M©+square:not exactly, i read 'HUGE EXPECTATIONS' from the post.
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friend expects - expectations don't meet - friend disappointed - disappointments accumulate - friend resents - threshold level passed - friend expresses disappointments
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Originally posted by GrimR:
The usual response over another person is to 'guide' them without trying to condemn or correct them.
Recently got this fren of mine, he's like...weird.We or rather he misunderstood me becos of one sms.Sounds kindda dumb i know. He ask me a ques then my reply was like "I told you what, I'm not going." Even though I din mean it in such a arrogant tone, apparently he thought it was.
Then slowly, he said i got attitude problem and goes on to open me up like a surgeon and tell me all my bad points.Then I'm like controlling my anger.After all I've known him for so long, better to let the things slide right?
Before that he intro me to this guy.He quite nice lah cos he will treat us to a meal whenever we meet up.I think my fren has a good impression of him.Then he sms something like "pple treat you, dunno how to be thankful and appreaciate is it?" when I read it, I buay tahan then come here post...
This isn't the first time he's like this.I mean, wtf is his problem man?I'm not even saying anything and you are like trying to pick a fight or something?Btw he SHOULD be reading this, cos he comes here sometimes.
***End of explanation*** Please offer your opinions thanks.
Everyone dislike making enemies especially to long time friends.
When a person is being picky over the other, it is not usual to think that he/she has expectations over the other party.
Possibly,
He likes her.
He couldn't stand her because there are certain changes in lifestyle.
He developed a critical/judgemental habit.
Self - Righteousness
By i don't know the history...so it's hard to say which one.
I only know this friend of GrimR expecting her to become someone of his expectation. -
Hmm...Originally posted by M©+square:The usual response over another person is to 'guide' them without trying to condemn or correct them.
Everyone dislike making enemies especially to long time friends.
When a person is being picky over the other, it is not usual to think that he/she has expectations over the other party.
Possibly,
He likes her.
He couldn't stand her because there are certain changes in lifestyle.
He developed a critical/judgemental habit.
Self - Righteousness
By i don't know the history...so it's hard to say which one.
I only know this friend of GrimR expecting her to become someone of his expectation. -
dun hide wat u feel, its damaging to any relationship. in ur case, friends gotta b honest with each other. so b honest but tactful coz he might b a sensitive person ( from i gathered abt him).Originally posted by GrimR:Recently got this fren of mine, he's like...weird.We or rather he misunderstood me becos of one sms.Sounds kindda dumb i know. He ask me a ques then my reply was like "I told you what, I'm not going." Even though I din mean it in such a arrogant tone, apparently he thought it was.
Then slowly, he said i got attitude problem and goes on to open me up like a surgeon and tell me all my bad points.Then I'm like controlling my anger.After all I've known him for so long, better to let the things slide right?
Before that he intro me to this guy.He quite nice lah cos he will treat us to a meal whenever we meet up.I think my fren has a good impression of him.Then he sms something like "pple treat you, dunno how to be thankful and appreaciate is it?" when I read it, I buay tahan then come here post...
This isn't the first time he's like this.I mean, wtf is his problem man?I'm not even saying anything and you are like trying to pick a fight or something?Btw he SHOULD be reading this, cos he comes here sometimes.
***End of explanation*** Please offer your opinions thanks.
or mabe u did something unconsciously wic he caused him to make such remarks?
well, in d end, u shld know whom to get the best answers.
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dumped him!!!
this is not friendship, it looks to me like a BG relationship
friends is someone who can share yr happiness w/o jealousy
who can listen to u when down
why bother to make friends when they give u attitude n don respect u n vice versa
think abt it, we don own them anything n friends got no rights to vent anger on each other... -
GrimR,
Think u wrote this in anger.
Also think there are missing parts here n there.
Can elaborate more on your situation? -
Lesson learnt- Don't SMS or email cos not everyone can express clearly. This will lead to misunderstandings. Talk to him face to face, got opportunity to clarify when in doubt.