need to stop falling for her!!!
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hi, i have a problem... maybe some of you will think this is something trivial, something normal, etc. etc.. , but it is a problem with me, and makes me very confused...
i know this girl who was my ex-classmate.... and i fell for her the first time a few years ago.. at that time, i made my feelings known (not very clearly but im sure she got the message) and i think she rejected me. this is followed by months of awkwardness whenever i see her again (pretending to be friendly and comfortable with seeing each other etc etc... ). eventually the awkwardness passed and we became friends again... even after this whenever i'm with her i still feel like i'm falling for her... i simply can't resist to love..esp someone as lovely as her
... but i never told her, but i'm sure she felt it but said nothing ... then school ended, and we went our seperate ways without contacting each other...
Then it seemed like a good ending..but no... a week ago she called me and asked me to go on a trip overseas with her and a few other friends..and it turns out we will be working in the same firm ...
.. the thing is... i'm sure i will again fall for her during this trip.. stupid me even agreed to go with her thinking that i may have a chance... i don't want to think like that, and i know that if i fall for her again i would just make a big mess like last time, and everyone will end up unhappy...
how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help... -
den dun stop yrself, go for it, since u're convinced u cannot control yrself. the only reason you are confused is that you scared she will be upset and your friendship will be ruined. that clouts yr judgement, being nowhere helps.
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too many thing to say on this but i think this will be good for now.
fall for yourself 1st b4 falling for anyone.
anyone who dun love him or herself do not know how to love other. if you do that you will not be having this problem anymore as you know you dun force yourself to do thing you dun like.
nah let the feeling be there, once you get another stronger feeling you know she really is not the one. anyway one can not be having one feeling for one oni. -
when noone love you, you'll forever be in a state whereby you will never love yourself. when someone loves you and expressed their love, you will find, hey, life isn't so bad, its not so dark, soon you will start to know more about yourself and start loving yourself and also others.Originally posted by Joshua1975:too many thing to say on this but i think this will be good for now.
fall for yourself 1st b4 falling for anyone.
anyone who dun love him or herself do not know how to love other. if you do that you will not be having this problem anymore as you know you dun force yourself to do thing you dun like.
nah let the feeling be there, once you get another stronger feeling you know she really is not the one. anyway one can not be having one feeling for one oni.
my 2 cents on the other side. -
I do not know what is your agony here. But I would very much like you to make up your mind whether you want to go after her or you don't want to go after her.Originally posted by unlikeme:hi, i have a problem... maybe some of you will think this is something trivial, something normal, etc. etc.. , but it is a problem with me, and makes me very confused...
i know this girl who was my ex-classmate.... and i fell for her the first time a few years ago.. at that time, i made my feelings known (not very clearly but im sure she got the message) and i think she rejected me. this is followed by months of awkwardness whenever i see her again (pretending to be friendly and comfortable with seeing each other etc etc... ). eventually the awkwardness passed and we became friends again... even after this whenever i'm with her i still feel like i'm falling for her... i simply can't resist to love..esp someone as lovely as her ... but i never told her, but i'm sure she felt it but said nothing ... then school ended, and we went our seperate ways without contacting each other...
Then it seemed like a good ending..but no... a week ago she called me and asked me to go on a trip overseas with her and a few other friends..and it turns out we will be working in the same firm ... .. the thing is... i'm sure i will again fall for her during this trip.. stupid me even agreed to go with her thinking that i may have a chance... i don't want to think like that, and i know that if i fall for her again i would just make a big mess like last time, and everyone will end up unhappy...
how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help...
Until then when you have made up your mind, nobody can help you except yourself. Good Luck. -
Originally posted by unlikeme:hi, i have a problem... maybe some of you will think this is something trivial, something normal, etc. etc.. , but it is a problem with me, and makes me very confused...
i know this girl who was my ex-classmate.... and i fell for her the first time a few years ago.. at that time, i made my feelings known (not very clearly but im sure she got the message) and i think she rejected me. this is followed by months of awkwardness whenever i see her again (pretending to be friendly and comfortable with seeing each other etc etc... ). eventually the awkwardness passed and we became friends again... even after this whenever i'm with her i still feel like i'm falling for her... i simply can't resist to love..esp someone as lovely as her ... but i never told her, but i'm sure she felt it but said nothing ... then school ended, and we went our seperate ways without contacting each other...
Then it seemed like a good ending..but no... a week ago she called me and asked me to go on a trip overseas with her and a few other friends..and it turns out we will be working in the same firm ... .. the thing is... i'm sure i will again fall for her during this trip.. stupid me even agreed to go with her thinking that i may have a chance... i don't want to think like that, and i know that if i fall for her again i would just make a big mess like last time, and everyone will end up unhappy...
how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help... 
You like her, yet restrict yourself to channel this emotions.
You want to see her, yet take much caution not to make a mess on all your meetings with her.
You wanna chase, but behavior replied otherwise.
And the best part, when you said you were rejected - you said you THINK.
*** You don't even know what you want - All balls are on your court, yet you can't decide which to shoot first. You tried to throw the balls away, but it hit the wall and came bouncing back towards you.
Learn to gather courage and confidence to do something new to change the entire course of your life. Learn to shoot the ball into the other side of the court. Sure you might not hit the target or worst when you don't give it your best - but at least it is still a try at your target.
You fear rejection do you?
Because you are so fearful, you panic on ways to channel this love to vanish completely.
Why don't you pack them up to sell yourself, your love, affection and win her over?
But if you can't control your fear and damaged self esteem - reject this trip because your mind has warned you of the impending danger.
So do you think you can command your mind instead of letting it do otherwise?
P.S: Whether you think you can or cannot - you are absolutely right.
Cheers -
Originally posted by gaoyue:when noone love you, you'll forever be in a state whereby you will never love yourself. when someone loves you and expressed their love, you will find, hey, life isn't so bad, its not so dark, soon you will start to know more about yourself and start loving yourself and also others.
my 2 cents on the other side.
when you love yourself 1st even when no one love you you know you can give love, you will be very happy.
Create love in you, give love and love will find you.
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Juz wake up n face up to reality. Juz let yr feelings flow thru lah.
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You don't have to stop yourself from falling for her... That's kinda stupid...Originally posted by unlikeme:hi, i have a problem... maybe some of you will think this is something trivial, something normal, etc. etc.. , but it is a problem with me, and makes me very confused...
i know this girl who was my ex-classmate.... and i fell for her the first time a few years ago.. at that time, i made my feelings known (not very clearly but im sure she got the message) and i think she rejected me. this is followed by months of awkwardness whenever i see her again (pretending to be friendly and comfortable with seeing each other etc etc... ). eventually the awkwardness passed and we became friends again... even after this whenever i'm with her i still feel like i'm falling for her... i simply can't resist to love..esp someone as lovely as her ... but i never told her, but i'm sure she felt it but said nothing ... then school ended, and we went our seperate ways without contacting each other...
Then it seemed like a good ending..but no... a week ago she called me and asked me to go on a trip overseas with her and a few other friends..and it turns out we will be working in the same firm ... .. the thing is... i'm sure i will again fall for her during this trip.. stupid me even agreed to go with her thinking that i may have a chance... i don't want to think like that, and i know that if i fall for her again i would just make a big mess like last time, and everyone will end up unhappy...
how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help... 
Just don't do secondary or follow up ACTIONS... -
d problem u ve is due to ur expectation. i m nt say its bad, but learn nt 2 expect too much....go in as a fren first....dun think too far abt wats gona happen in future....let nature takes it own course....in tt way, u can then get to know her more yet u still can continue to care abt her and keep in contact 2gether.
i think a person's loveliness does nt sufficiently constitute a gd reason to love her, dun u think so? -
u shd profess again... perhaps she has developed something 4 u all these while...?
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Audlenelee... your avatar looks quite gay...Originally posted by audlenelee:u shd profess again... perhaps she has developed something 4 u all these while...?
esp the 2 G string kinda looking pink underwear...
Its quite disturbing to see it... -
Originally posted by :Audlenelee... your avatar looks quite gay...
esp the 2 G string kinda looking pink underwear...
Its quite disturbing to see it... -
Ok, there's a bigger picture here.. who are her other friends???Originally posted by unlikeme:hi, i have a problem... maybe some of you will think this is something trivial, something normal, etc. etc.. , but it is a problem with me, and makes me very confused...
i know this girl who was my ex-classmate.... and i fell for her the first time a few years ago.. at that time, i made my feelings known (not very clearly but im sure she got the message) and i think she rejected me. this is followed by months of awkwardness whenever i see her again (pretending to be friendly and comfortable with seeing each other etc etc... ). eventually the awkwardness passed and we became friends again... even after this whenever i'm with her i still feel like i'm falling for her... i simply can't resist to love..esp someone as lovely as her ... but i never told her, but i'm sure she felt it but said nothing ... then school ended, and we went our seperate ways without contacting each other...
Then it seemed like a good ending..but no... a week ago she called me and asked me to go on a trip overseas with her and a few other friends..and it turns out we will be working in the same firm ... .. the thing is... i'm sure i will again fall for her during this trip.. stupid me even agreed to go with her thinking that i may have a chance... i don't want to think like that, and i know that if i fall for her again i would just make a big mess like last time, and everyone will end up unhappy...
how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help...
Her other friend could be her BF and family!
Why dunch you go to this trip, with the intention of just being good friends.
Hey, first thing about being good friends, is One you can take your time to look why you like this girl? Two, makes her feel comfortable with and around you, like a good friend does... Three, its much easier this way, you wun get hurt... Fourth, you rather be a good friend then lose her as a friend right? Fifth, there's many other reasons, these 4 reasons should suffice!
Now, go to the trip with the intention of being a good friend only, have fun with her and her friends(be it whoever)! Get closer to her and just be good friends with her.
I mean time has passed, she might have changed, you might have changed as well... so relax take it easy, enjoy your holiday, dun worry too much!
Bon Voyage!
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u know something, u guys are rite... its been one week since that trip and only now i remebered posting this...
when i was there, i seem to have lost all my previous feelings of her.. i even get annoyed at her in some occasion .. well i guess people do change, and feelings too...
you guys are the best
cheers! problem solved@@!!! 
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Originally posted by unlikeme:u know something, u guys are rite... its been one week since that trip and only now i remebered posting this...
when i was there, i seem to have lost all my previous feelings of her.. i even get annoyed at her in some occasion .. well i guess people do change, and feelings too...
you guys are the best cheers! problem solved@@!!! Take more time off for yourself and come and visit us again SOON? -
Why do you want to stop falling in love with her?Originally posted by unlikeme:hi, i have a problem... maybe some of you will think this is something trivial, something normal, etc. etc.. , but it is a problem with me, and makes me very confused...
i know this girl who was my ex-classmate.... and i fell for her the first time a few years ago.. at that time, i made my feelings known (not very clearly but im sure she got the message) and i think she rejected me. this is followed by months of awkwardness whenever i see her again (pretending to be friendly and comfortable with seeing each other etc etc... ). eventually the awkwardness passed and we became friends again... even after this whenever i'm with her i still feel like i'm falling for her... i simply can't resist to love..esp someone as lovely as her ... but i never told her, but i'm sure she felt it but said nothing ... then school ended, and we went our seperate ways without contacting each other...
Then it seemed like a good ending..but no... a week ago she called me and asked me to go on a trip overseas with her and a few other friends..and it turns out we will be working in the same firm ... .. the thing is... i'm sure i will again fall for her during this trip.. stupid me even agreed to go with her thinking that i may have a chance... i don't want to think like that, and i know that if i fall for her again i would just make a big mess like last time, and everyone will end up unhappy...
how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help...
If she is attached with a boyfriend, its another story.
But if she isn't attached. I do not see the problem of falling for her.
To fall in love with someone is a very normal thing.
Do not resist this feeling because we all are going to die eventually at the end.
In this life time just do what you think it is right.
But of course not doing bad things.
As for falling for someone is a good thing.
Express your feeling for her again.
And she how she feels about you.
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Instead of bombarding urself silly with those questions that reali get u nowhere, the only question u need to ask urself is... how do I get the girl?Originally posted by unlikeme:how...HOw??? how do i make myself not fall for her.. how can i ignore my feelings when i am face-to-face with her, together on a trip, and even working in the same company? better still.. how do i get rid of my feelings for her??? someone tell me how?? help... -
Ok I din read this till I scrolled down. Ur 1 confused dude. I guess u could count urself lucky this time else we would have been hearing ur wallowing in mire again.Originally posted by unlikeme:u know something, u guys are rite... its been one week since that trip and only now i remebered posting this...
when i was there, i seem to have lost all my previous feelings of her.. i even get annoyed at her in some occasion .. well i guess people do change, and feelings too...
you guys are the best cheers! problem solved@@!!!