Leaving at the Peak of an R/S
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Hello fellow forumites,
recently i do a fren who jus broke up.
earlier we`ve met up to discussed on his prob.
My fren met this gal abt 2 mths ago.
since then they`ve been the best of frens..
eventually they fell in love
from there, it seems that the 2 of them broke up while they were at the summit of their r/s.
My fren, the guy, recently encountered some severe problems w his family. and thus was unable to spend much time w his gf.
he knew that w the given circumstances, in the near future, he too will not haf any chance to contact his gf.
so he`s decided to leave his gf at the peak of their R/S in hope that he`ll leave her w a good memory.
he knows that he will haf to dissappear from her life forever.
yes undoublty he`s very sad abt the whole matter..
he told me that it took him great courage to do all this also. his stand is that he`ll expect a breakoff sooner or later since they`ll be facing a communication prob.
wat`s a R/S if there`re no contact???
Chang tong bu ru duan tong
and so my fren took the easy way put
there are many pressure that suppress my fren.
i do know that the female party isnt given the fair treatment also and my fren do also haf to be responsible for it.
to all the poeple out there...
my fren apologise to the gal. in hope that the gal will understand one day that my fren meant well for her..
His last wishes for her comes like that :
May her find a partner that`ll love her like he does, and is able to take care of her forever unlike him.
Be a good gal and live life strong. -
Originally posted by BaByBoY:Hello fellow forumites,
recently i do a fren who jus broke up.
earlier we`ve met up to discussed on his prob.
My fren met this gal abt 2 mths ago.
since then they`ve been the best of frens..
eventually they fell in love
from there, it seems that the 2 of them broke up while they were at the summit of their r/s.
My fren, the guy, recently encountered some severe problems w his family. and thus was unable to spend much time w his gf.
he knew that w the given circumstances, in the near future, he too will not haf any chance to contact his gf.
so he`s decided to leave his gf at the peak of their R/S in hope that he`ll leave her w a good memory.
he knows that he will haf to dissappear from her life forever.
yes undoublty he`s very sad abt the whole matter..
he told me that it took him great courage to do all this also. his stand is that he`ll expect a breakoff sooner or later since they`ll be facing a communication prob.
wat`s a R/S if there`re no contact???
Chang tong bu ru duan tong
and so my fren took the easy way put
there are many pressure that suppress my fren.
i do know that the female party isnt given the fair treatment also and my fren do also haf to be responsible for it.
to all the poeple out there...
my fren apologise to the gal. in hope that the gal will understand one day that my fren meant well for her..
His last wishes for her comes like that :
May her find a partner that`ll love her like he does, and is able to take care of her forever unlike him.
Be a good gal and live life strong.
Man have a few terrible faults and this constitute to one major one.
Venus-Mars book stated Caveman theory of a man and suggest woman to allow man to cool down. But unknown to the woman, the man may walk out with a burning torch and set the entire cave on fire. This is due to a mis-guided-self-preception about future of relationship and the lack of will to tackle challenge.
To save relationship, two things must happen, but it doesn't matter because it is not you. (Slightly more difficult if man's sign lies within Leo, Taurus, Scorpio or Aquarius).
P.S: Another victim of this case.
Cheers -
Just my opinion...I feel that you friend is too weak as a person. How is he going to survive through life itself? By choosing the easiest way out for him shows that he is a coward and will probably be so for the rest of his life. Happiness in life never comes easy for anyone. You have to fight for your own happiness. I think even if your friend do have another relationship in his future, he will also not be able to find the happiness. Trust me on this and mark my words. People who don't seek and fight for his own happiness will simply dwell in their own self-pityness for their entire lives. Whoever ends up with this type of person will also not find happiness in the relationship.Originally posted by BaByBoY:Hello fellow forumites,
recently i do a fren who jus broke up.
earlier we`ve met up to discussed on his prob.
My fren met this gal abt 2 mths ago.
since then they`ve been the best of frens..
eventually they fell in love
from there, it seems that the 2 of them broke up while they were at the summit of their r/s.
My fren, the guy, recently encountered some severe problems w his family. and thus was unable to spend much time w his gf.
he knew that w the given circumstances, in the near future, he too will not haf any chance to contact his gf.
so he`s decided to leave his gf at the peak of their R/S in hope that he`ll leave her w a good memory.
he knows that he will haf to dissappear from her life forever.
yes undoublty he`s very sad abt the whole matter..
he told me that it took him great courage to do all this also. his stand is that he`ll expect a breakoff sooner or later since they`ll be facing a communication prob.
wat`s a R/S if there`re no contact???
Chang tong bu ru duan tong
and so my fren took the easy way put
there are many pressure that suppress my fren.
i do know that the female party isnt given the fair treatment also and my fren do also haf to be responsible for it.
to all the poeple out there...
my fren apologise to the gal. in hope that the gal will understand one day that my fren meant well for her..
His last wishes for her comes like that :
May her find a partner that`ll love her like he does, and is able to take care of her forever unlike him.
Be a good gal and live life strong.
Your friend is probably still young isn't it? Not yet go through NS? He will probably need to mature more...and I hope he will. A lot of grown-up adults also behaved like this....their mentality haven't grown much compared to their body. Know anybody like this?
People like this probably have a very good luck in their lives....smooth going life since childhood. But wait until disaster hits them and you will see those people committing suicide....hahahah.....hahahaha..... 
BaByBoY, if you are his good friend...do help to bring him out of his naive thinking and faster awaken him to the real world...that's is if you really care for him. Otherwise, good luck to him...he is going to need a lot of lucks in his life.
Bottomline, your friend is a disappointment to all guys. -
I've been there, done that, leaving at the peak.
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BabyBoy, Parn is right. You should advice him to wake up. Maybe not now as he's disturbed by many issues.Originally posted by parn:BaByBoY, if you are his good friend...do help to bring him out of his naive thinking and faster awaken him to the real world...that's is if you really care for him. Otherwise, good luck to him...he is going to need a lot of lucks in his life.
Bottomline, your friend is a disappointment to all guys.
But a friend not only advises the right way, but the wise way.
A friend not only helps in 'that situation' but help him to see light in himself. -
hmm i'd like to tell you about my friend. its kinda related to my religion oso. nvm la, i'll just tell it as it is ok?
ok, what christians believe is that, their lives are surrendered to God's will, which is perfect.
my friend, working full time in army la. He met this girl, oso in church, then he prayed and ask God if she is the one, and the answer is yes. at that time he dunno yet, the girl oso have good feelings abt him, but oso seeked God's will first.
anyway, my friend felt that God was saying, yes, she is the one, but now not is the time. knowing this, he not worried liao. she is his, its just a matter of when she is his lo. anyway, they were friends, no dating yet. for over 5 years la. in which, she went oversea to study, then he was transfered to some other country as a peace operative. soldier mah, go oversea to keep the peace. then their only contact is email. and my friend is stupid with computer one, seldom use email. but he isn't worried, cuz she is his liao. just a matter of when.
anyway, one day he had an opportunity to send her home, after a group outing. then he asked her, if he have her permission to pray about her, not even talking abt going into a relationship, she said yes. then they waited, while serving God for another 2, 3 years.
finally now, they are together, official dating. still going strong, after 10 years now. counting the time they are friends la.
so i dun tink the lack of contact is an issue. for me.. i guess whether God intends a girl or guy, for you or not. if she is yours, she is yours, nothing can stop that. besides.. its common belief that God prepares the best person for you, best in the sense, best suited to you. pls bear in mind i dun mean no contact at all. but i'm saying, if she isn't intended by God to be yours, no matter wat u do, her eyes oso wun "open" to see u. or it wun last. shrugs. i just say wat i see la. take it or leave it -
HAHA! I do not mock God. Pls don't misunderstand me.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:hmm i'd like to tell you about my friend. its kinda related to my religion oso. nvm la, i'll just tell it as it is ok?
ok, what christians believe is that, their lives are surrendered to God's will, which is perfect.
my friend, working full time in army la. He met this girl, oso in church, then he prayed and ask God if she is the one, and the answer is yes. at that time he dunno yet, the girl oso have good feelings abt him, but oso seeked God's will first.
anyway, my friend felt that God was saying, yes, she is the one, but now not is the time. knowing this, he not worried liao. she is his, its just a matter of when she is his lo. anyway, they were friends, no dating yet. for over 5 years la. in which, she went oversea to study, then he was transfered to some other country as a peace operative. soldier mah, go oversea to keep the peace. then their only contact is email. and my friend is stupid with computer one, seldom use email. but he isn't worried, cuz she is his liao. just a matter of when.
anyway, one day he had an opportunity to send her home, after a group outing. then he asked her, if he have her permission to pray about her, not even talking abt going into a relationship, she said yes. then they waited, while serving God for another 2, 3 years.
finally now, they are together, official dating. still going strong, after 10 years now. counting the time they are friends la.
so i dun tink the lack of contact is an issue. for me.. i guess whether God intends a girl or guy, for you or not. if she is yours, she is yours, nothing can stop that. besides.. its common belief that God prepares the best person for you, best in the sense, best suited to you. pls bear in mind i dun mean no contact at all. but i'm saying, if she isn't intended by God to be yours, no matter wat u do, her eyes oso wun "open" to see u. or it wun last. shrugs. i just say wat i see la. take it or leave it
But i mock the over dependance on the spiritual and not the practical.
Your friend's case will be justified till he marrys the women God 'ordains'. But things can change. I speak thru many occasions i've counselled too.
There are cases about 'The ONE theory' but rare.
Maybe you haven't got into relationships yet.
Till then. Happy thinking.
Cheers